Wicked Stepmother's Love

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Once upon a time, there was a girl, she had a dad and mom, everything was fine with them, until one day suddenly mom died. Dad married another - evil, insidious, dependent and deceitful. In addition, she had daughters of her own - beloved, but with the same set of disgusting qualities as a mother. With her dad she was kind and affectionate, but with the girl … a real evil stepmother! She made her do all the housework, laughed at her and mocked her in every possible way.

This is how many fairy tales begin. Well, then … one way or another, the girl leaves the evil stepmother. But what does all this mean? did women so often die at an early age? And any stepmother is necessarily a vicious monster? Of course not. Then - what is it about?

Fairy tales are like dreams. Their plot is, first of all, symbols, images on the screen of the human soul. What do they tell us about? Each story is very personal, but at the same time - similar to many others

When a girl is born, she is the center of the universe and the main meaning of life for her mother. Mom is always there, she is caring, kind, performer of any desires. As soon as trouble happens in the life of a little girl - cold, hungry, painful - a mother appears and, as if by magic, it becomes warm, satisfying and comfortable. Mom is a real fairy godmother!

But then suddenly something happens … Mom no longer only smiles, cares and fulfills all desires. She frowns, sometimes she swears, the words “no!”, “You must!”, “Do it yourself!” Appear. Mom already cares not only about her. Increasingly, she goes somewhere with her dad, leaving the girl with toys or cartoons. If younger sisters and brothers appear, most of the attention goes to them.

The girl grows up and she is taught to take care of herself, and then she is forced to help her mother with the housework. The girl feels more and more abandoned, abandoned - her mother preferred someone else to her! Where did that good fairy, who was always there, fulfilled all desires, went? She is no more, she has turned into an evil stepmother!

Every girl has faced this not very pleasant moment in her life. She had to accept that a kind mother who solves any problems for her is not eternal. Step by step, you need to learn adult life, with all its joys, opportunities and associated risks

This can happen more gently and more environmentally, when the mother gradually accustom her daughter to adulthood. But often this happens too abruptly, rather under the influence of external circumstances than by a conscious decision of the mother herself. For example, a mother continues to babysit her daughter as a newborn until her younger brother or sister is born - then she abruptly switches to a new object of care and the older girl feels abandoned. Or the mother decides to go to work, sending the girl to the kindergarten or to the nanny, again, without preparing her for these changes. It is even harder for the girl if there are conflicts in the family, her mother is so loaded with her adult problems that she simply has no time for her.

And yet, softer or harder, sooner or later, the transformation of a kind mother into an evil stepmother is inevitable. The fact that the girl may seem cruel and unfair is in fact a manifestation of love. This is how a truly wise mother takes care of her daughter. She knows when it is necessary to make this transition, to let her daughter go into adulthood - even if she whines pitifully and asks for pens. Otherwise, she will never learn to stand on her own two feet, let alone walk or run. She sees when her daughter is really ready for this transition, because to do it too early means to cause an inferiority complex and fear of life, to drag on for too long means turning her daughter into an infantile person, with eternal claims to everyone around her.

The next stage that they have to go through is separation, separation, when the daughter becomes a rebel, learns to say “no”, make decisions on her own and deal with their consequences herself, thereby acquiring the right to adulthood. After that, mom can become her friend, “sister” or good acquaintance - but she will never be the mother she was for a little girl - neither good nor bad.

This is a great manifestation of the love of the "wicked stepmother." She gives her daughter an invaluable gift - independence, self-confidence, courage to live her own life

And for this, both the man and the “younger daughters” must be present in the life of the “stepmother”. Of course, these days it can be a career, creative hobbies and many other activities. After all, it is impossible to teach your daughter what you do not know how to yourself - to live a full life, enjoy freedom but not forget about responsibility, not be afraid of risk, but skillfully avoid traps, be bright and attractive, but when you need to merge with space … And of course - change roles in communicating with people, including turning from a kind mother into an evil stepmother - while always remaining herself and introducing her daughter to such different manifestations of this great feeling - love.

For those who want to go through this experience to the end