2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
How many YOUR thoughts are in your head? Born by you personally? How many of your desires? How many choices in your life do you make on your own?
Everything? Half? Occasionally?
What if I told you that you sleep and act like a robot 95% of your life? And the leftovers are also subject to someone else's influence, yes
I’m sick. I'm a psychologist. I hear the prescriptions that are being placed around me for children - and my hair moves on end, turning gray with horror.
And when I draw the parents' attention to the true meaning of their words and the long-term consequences - they shout "Danubred!" … And then others come and cry bitter tears.
“My child doesn't respect me. I contacted the company. Sits and plays shooters."
It's all bullshit. Flowers.
There was no need to ignore the child and all his in the slightest degree, sending him in search of any confirmation of his importance.
There was no need to say in a disgruntled tone “Yes, Vassenka learned the poems for the new year. Not like you.
Well, love your neighbor Vassenka, mommy. I couldn't do it.
And then comes an adult who cannot achieve anything in life. Starts-throws. No relationship, no favorite pastime, no money.
And during therapy, we pull out the reason, the sweet and harmless parental prescription - "You will never achieve anything, you are all your father's jerk."
Okay mom. I am an obedient boy.
“Oh well, all this is bullshit,” Aunt Masha, the mom of a lovely 4-year-old Sasha from our yard, will tell me. And he will start yelling at him again and again in front of the children - "Once again, piss off the bed, I will tear off your pussy and feed the dogs!"
Yes, a wonderful life awaits your Sasha. The fact that he will grow up to be a failure and will not stand with him is not your fault, no. The state is, yes.
Yes, and I do not care about other people's Sasheneks, you can't save everyone. I didn’t give a damn that my son, after these cries of a crazy mother, was afraid of dogs for a week and covered up the causal place. Well, so as not to be torn off.
Today I heard in a cafe a cute bundle of 2 prescriptions. A boy of 6-7 years old, says to his dad, "Why do you drink beer or wine every day?"
Dad, taking a savory sip of something that looks like cognac, answers: "This is because it is useful for me!"
Um … what !? Alcohol = healthy ???
Once the dad joked like that (I really hope it's a joke) runs the risk of permanently forming a bundle - * Alcohol is useful *.
Dad is cool, dad is an authority, if you want to be like dad, drink healthy alcohol.
A few minutes later there was the second act of the Marlezon ballet.
The child eats a tangerine with appetite. Daddy praises "Well done, eat tangerines, I specially bought them for you, they are healthy!"
Do you dare?
* Mandarins = healthy = alcohol *.
Alcohol is as healthy as tangerines. Daddy praises. Got it.
Again. Watch your language.
The psyche is arranged in such a way that everything in it does not care. Especially in children. Absolutely defenseless to the delirium that adults carry.
* Alcohol = happy dad = tangerines = healthy. *
What chain from this set will collect and give out the boy's psyche - only God knows. But the fact that dad will never admit that this is his hand and tongue is absolutely certain.
These are your "Come on, nonsense, nothing will happen, but how else is that" I pull out every day from adults, whom your "nothing will" life breaks with a knee along the ridge.
We all live by these prescriptions. Beliefs. In general, at first glance, illogical bundles. And for the psyche they are identical and one follows from the other
And when you live 95% of your life in a dream, realizing what your parents, school, teachers, advertising have pushed into your head - you can't even understand where YOU are in your life, and where is what you seem to be.
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