Obsessive Thoughts

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Where do obsessive thoughts come from?

What are intrusive thoughts? This is some kind of situation that has already happened, but not in the way you would like. Or you picture to yourself a situation in the future, which also should not happen the way you want. It must be said that in the second case, the person will still have fear and anxiety, which is doubly unpleasant. Now we will analyze the first option, and leave the second for the next article.

Why does it happen that we are stuck in a situation?

The answer is very simple. We misjudge and misunderstand our lives. We do not see the prospect of our existence.

Suddenly, huh?

Without frustrations and references to childhood, without regrets and shifting blame to the whole wide world.

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The whole point is that you live like a small child, and look at your life as a child, how a child reacts to what is happening, and as a child you suffer, as a child you are powerless in front of the big world, as a child you live your whole very adult and real a life.

Yes, yes, we are a product of culture, we have never been white sheets of paper, the genes of our ancestors have been in us since the beginning of time, the cultural codes of mentality have been sewn into us, we were created by the environment. We are the result of the system. Dot.

But this is not a reason, not a reason at all, in your 30s, 40s, 50s to be a child

Enough! If you want to stop suffering, you need to stand up as adults.

A child cannot cope with frustration and is stuck in a situation, processes it inside, so that his personality does not collapse and his idea of the world does not collapse.

Therefore, obsessive thoughts help you experience and assimilate a situation that you did not like. And you will have these thoughts there until you chew it all right. Correctly means to comprehend. And do it in an adult way.

How to get rid of obsessive thoughts?

Comprehend what is happening to you and your life from the perspective of an adult. It means taking responsibility for your actions. And to live on - to accept.

If your life is controlled by thoughts or emotions, then there is no owner in your head, you are like a cart without a coachman, it is not clear where you are eating

Let's take an example.

One girl named I. has obsessive thoughts about the fact that she divorced her husband 6 years ago. She constantly thinks about it, but believes that she made the right choice. She was bad in a relationship, her husband cheated on her constantly, and she was alone with the child. It seems to have forgiven her husband, by all available means. And there are no complaints about him. But all the same, he constantly returns to this thought throughout the day. To the memories of her husband, of the divorce, of the fact that she did the right thing, she recalls some episodes. And so he can spend a couple of hours, then comes to his senses, and is angry that he is thinking about it again.

Step-by-step algorithm on how to deal with intrusive thoughts:

1. Questions: What are these thoughts about? What do they mean? Is that what they mean to my life right now? How do they appear in actions? When they think what happens? - because we are our actions, everything else is nonsense. What follows these thoughts? How thoughts are displayed in actions. What do I do when I think about it?
2. Then you need to see the consequences - What will happen to my life if I continue to constantly think these thoughts? Where are these thoughts leading me?
3. Then find out what I want in life? Where do I want to go at all? - maybe that's exactly what you want.
4. Take responsibility for the consequences. My clients write manifestos, they look something like this: I I. being in full adequacy and health, I take responsibility for my thoughts such and such, which have such consequences. I make the decision to continue doing so. I choose to think these thoughts because I want to.

Everything

The problem is not that you have any thoughts, but that you let your thoughts rule your life. Read the sentence again and think about it.

You let your thoughts guide you! This is the real problem. The fact that you have a house upside down. You are confused about who should be the boss in the house.

Thoughts are your product. It's like the soup you've made. Doesn't your soup tell you how to live? So why do you allow your thoughts to do this?

And you allow, because you are a child, because it is so convenient, to assume that you have nothing to do with it. Evil thoughts attacked you, the poor, and harass you. You need someone to come and drive them away, and feel sorry for you. And this is also a choice. And it takes place.

You can do whatever you want.

I apologize, of course, but you won't be able to lie to yourself anymore that someone else is doing it, even if that someone is yourself.

In my experience, about 8 out of 10 clients, after these questions, all obsessive thoughts go away. Just after understanding and taking responsibility. Because thoughts have served their purpose.

For the rest, I use the methods of provocative psychotherapy and everything goes away too. But that's a different story.

Conclusions:

If you still want to get rid of obsessive thoughts, then take responsibility for them.