All The Psychological Skills That Shape Your Life

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

From one point of view taken separately, such global things as human self-development or psycho-correction can be largely fit into the framework of exactly one article. Namely, a set of specific skills that you need to implement the strategy of happiness and success in your life.

The logic is as follows.

Any human achievement is either the result of random events. Or the result of his purposeful efforts. And purposeful efforts are the result of the implementation of their knowledge and skills. And skills are specific skills that enable you to fulfill your potential.

Is it simple? Not at all. After all, understanding the essence of a particular skill does not at all give you an algorithm for introducing this skill into your life. But! This understanding adds a significant amount of certainty to your life.

After all, how much easier it is to formulate search tags in personal development. How much easier it is to formulate a request in personal therapy. How much easier it is to figure out the sequence of steps when you have a selection of options at your fingertips to choose from !!!

Important! It is important (a tautology, well, a joke with it) does not treat the list below as something that you do not have! It is important to treat this list as some kind of zones of your growth !! Otherwise, you are guaranteed a headache and a drop in self-esteem! Do you need it?

So here's to you set of psychological skillswhich ensures your psychological effectiveness.

Delegation - the ability to transfer responsibility for the performance of any business to another person.

Ability to ask - the ability to show your need for something.

Ability to give thanks - the ability to pay tribute to the efforts of another person, which he put in for you.

Support - the ability to give another person emotional help at the moment when it is needed.

1-stream thinking - the ability to convey your own thoughts, feelings, motives and motives to another person (people) in the original volume (that is, in the same form as in your head).

Reflection of emotions - the ability to recognize emotions in oneself in essence and in real time

Reading emotions - the ability to recognize the emotions of another person in real time based on non-verbal data and / or behavior.

Reflecting needs = the ability to read your own needs and desires by analyzing your current behavior.

Reflection of bodily sensations = the ability to read your high-quality bodily sensations for the subsequent assessment of your emotions, resources or problems.

Reflection of resources - the ability to assess the degree of their psycho-physiological readiness for activity and / or decision-making.

Reflection of problems - the ability to identify emotional failures in the functioning of your psyche.

Summarizing - the ability to highlight the main essence of a situation, event or phenomenon.

Opportunity orientation - the ability to highlight potential opportunities and benefits in any situation.

Presenting yourself - the ability to demonstrate their knowledge, abilities, skills, achievements and aspirations to other people.

Idea presentation - the ability to show all the benefits of your own proposal, to form an emotional response in response to an idea.

Outright rejection - the ability to say "no" to requests, wishes or demands of other people.

Checking your projections - the ability during communication to understand the degree of accuracy in understanding the opinion, motives and motives of the opponent.

"Translation of arrows" - the ability to ignore external assessment and / or pressure and concentrate on the behavior / motives of the opponent.

Shielding - transformation of an external negative assessment into a positive one

Forming your opinion - the ability to highlight the key assessment of the situation and support it with a sufficient number of logical and / or emotional arguments.

Ability to convey your opinion = the ability to coherently, consistently and substantively bring the initial essence of your opinion to the opponent.

Presenting Arguments = the ability to succinctly and proportionally to the situation appeal to your view of the current state of affairs.

Ability to ask open-ended questions = the ability to emotionally reveal the opponent, broadcasting those questions that require a detailed answer.

Ability to listen and listen to the opponent = the ability to follow the thought of another person in parallel with your own inner flow of thoughts

Ability to summarize the opponent = the ability to highlight the main point in your opponent's speech based on what he said and what you understood (and / or thought out)

Ability to expand / narrow the volume of contact = the ability to arbitrarily change the degree of emotional involvement in the continuation of a dialogue with another person

Ability to assess the degree of coincidence of opinions = the ability to seek and find common ground, divergences and the ability to synthesize opinions during a dialogue

Ability to recognize the opinion of the opponent = the ability to confirm that you perceive the opponent's opinion as sufficient and complete for existence

Living emotions - the ability to express emotions through awareness of their essence, through bodily sensations and images of experiences.

Ability to accept yourself = the ability to recognize and use your character traits and your needs

Ability to make decisions = the ability to generate options for solving situations and the ability to make an emotional choice between them.

Ability to take risks = the ability to jeopardize current resources and opportunities for profit

Ability to admit failure = the ability to be aware of and accept the degree of current suffering from lost expectations or from real damage.

Ability to collaborate in a team = the ability to synthesize opinions, behavior, motives and needs for the implementation of the win-win principle

Ability to cooperate in pairs = the ability to synthesize opinions, behavior, motives and needs in order for the interaction to bring more satisfied needs to both partners.

Self-control = ability to work independently, without external control

Ability to persuade = the ability to actively pressure people around with your opinion in order to realize your needs or implement a win-win strategy

Ability to speak to an audience = the ability to convey information, emotional messages and actively interact with a group of people

Time management - the ability to distribute the time of the working day

Goal setting - the ability to set specific, positively oriented goals, tied to their needs and time.

Prioritization = the ability to highlight those your desires, goals and needs that correspond to the Pareto principle and provide you with maximum efficiency.

Time budgeting - the ability to estimate the estimated time costs (for a separate type of activity).

Ability to follow instructions clearly = the ability to follow the logic of other people's assignments

Ability to take initiative = the ability to use your experience and skills to generate suggestions for improving current activities.

Ability to clarify other people's assignments and ideas = the ability to timely, openly and consistently test the degree of understanding of other people's ideas.

Politeness and tact = the ability to behave in accordance with socially accepted standards, to communicate respectfully, attentively, anticipating and avoiding the sharp edges of emotional contact

Ability to match plans of 2 or more people = the ability to take into account the wishes of the parties and offer mutually beneficial interaction.

Ability to motivate others = the ability to actualize the desires, emotions and needs of other people.

Ability to focus on achieving results = the ability to highlight specific indicators of their own performance and the ability to monitor these indicators over time.

Resource thinking = the ability to focus on one's own capabilities and skills when faced with a life obstacle.

Ability to highlight the essence of the conflict = the ability to focus on the logical generalized essence of what is happening, going beyond the one-sided understanding of what is happening.

Ability to suggest ways to resolve the conflict = the ability to highlight those decisions that relate directly to the interaction of the parties, rather than the needs of the participants.

Resource - the ability to recover your strength for certain tasks

Relaxation - the ability to physically relax your body against the background of emotional stress or uncertainty

Proactive communication - the ability to build relationships based on the postulate "I am the cause of everything that happens to me."

I am sure this is not a complete list of possible psychological skills. So the question is - what skills would YOU personally add to this list?