2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Children and social media
Unfortunately, the absolutely wild statistics of sex crimes against children are unforgiving. Including, with the development of information technology - online crimes are also becoming, almost a trend.
What dangers can your child face online?
Some statistics:
According to Leah Sharova, head of the Stop-Threat Center (stop-ugroza.ru): “19 out of 20 first-graders, second-graders and about half of 10-14-year-olds are sure that they can easily recognize a criminal on the street (in black clothes, eerie, hiding, 'looks strange', walks with a big bag, behaves unusual, smiles cunningly unnaturally, lures with candy, an untidy man of about 30–35, looking like a homeless person or a criminal)”.
In other words, in the child's imagination there is an image of a “bad uncle,” a “suspicious person,” which means a criminal. The child sees these images in the cinema. But, few people talk to a child that criminals do not always look the way his imagination draws, that it can be a very nice, interesting and sympathetic person. Especially on the Internet, where you can hide your appearance behind any nice picture or someone else's attractive photo, indicate any data - from age to interests, start easy communication without any problems …
A pedophile is someone with an exclusive sexual interest in sexual relations with minor children. Sex offenders can be extremely diligent in their approach to children. Some may take weeks or even months (and sometimes years) to get to know a child or teenager before inviting the child to meet or asking for their cell phone number. These are "nice people": they do not look like perverts, and they will certainly be savvy in matters of fashion, sports, music, etc.
The main activity of pedophiles on the Internet is the exchange of sexual images between "collectors".
Online harassment is a process during which a pedophile tries to establish sexual contact with a child, trying not to expose and reveal himself.
Having started a page on the social network, the child fills out a questionnaire. When he enters the settings of the profile, he, following the logic of the account, dynamically and truthfully answers the questions asked: name, age, city, place of residence and school, indicates friends and relatives, sometimes a phone number. Further - he fills the page with his photos, and, most often (oh, thanks to millennium technologies and Google Maps!) - with geolocation instructions, which, most likely, offers to automatically indicate the location, and most children simply do not know how to turn it off, and do not understand why! And, a potential pervert, a pedophile quite successfully copes with the task of calculating a child - where he lives, walks, studies. Now it is quite possible to track the IP address of a criminal if he is operating from a PC - but (again thanks to the achievements of modern "gadgetology") if he writes a message to a vibeer or whatsapp that are synchronized with social. network, it is much more difficult to do this.
A pervert, at first he conducts conversations on various topics (he already learned his interests by walking on the victim's page), which gradually turn into an intimate channel, with a proposal to first show his photo, and then asks the child to send his photos. Of course, it takes time for a child to "trust" and send his photos, but believe me, adult uncles will achieve their goal at any cost. After that, of course, an offer to meet will follow. Perverts are “nice people,” and they don't look like criminals at all. They are very savvy in matters that children and adolescents are interested in - he "ate the dog" on this. He improved in this! By the time a child decides to meet with a pervert, he does not consider him a "stranger." He trusts him!
The results of the meeting, I think, is not worth describing. What else could happen? Blackmail of the child can be used: “I will send our correspondence to your friends and parents if you misbehave”, “If you don’t send me more photos, I will post your photos on the network and everyone will know about you”. Such blackmail can last for years. And in the client stories of our Center - this is reality! For two whole days, my colleague on-line solved the difficult situation of a teenage girl who was being blackmailed by a pervert. The girl was in a pre-suicidal state, in complete despair.
Treatment of pedophilia presents significant difficulties and can be effective only with informed consent and a firm commitment to therapy in the patient, which naturally does not happen! Can you imagine that a person would come to a psychiatrist or a psychotherapist and say - “I have sexual deviations, I prefer children”? I can not either. Yes, and the prognosis of such treatment is doubtful in the overwhelming majority of cases. Therefore, it must be admitted that pedophilia cannot be cured! And there can be only one conclusion - the safety of our children is in our hands!
What needs to be done?
-Track the child's friends from your page, be alert if there are unfamiliar adults in your friends, ask the child who it is, and whether he knows this person? It is desirable that the child be friends online only with those people (classmates, neighbors, etc.) whom he knows personally; -turn off geolocation on all types of gadgets;
- check the data that the child indicated when registering in the social network, set up privacy lists - who can see the data from the page. -Talk with your child about these topics. Not to intimidate with "bad uncles", but to have a confidential conversation regarding his personal safety.
- to tell him that not only a "suspicious" person can be a criminal, but a polite, smiling, decently dressed person, a pretty woman or a neat old man may well be. And even a friend and even a close person!
To tell that trusting all "familiar adults", including neighbors, parents of friends, sellers from a nearby store, all people whom they have already seen, is impossible! That it is impossible to help an elderly uncle bring a package, a puppy, a kitten, a briefcase, a bag to the car - if someone needs help, he can turn to any adult for it! That there are also a lot of bad people in the network, criminals who act the same way as in reality - they are rubbed into trust, and then they can do harm. And, also, tell the children what to do if he suddenly encountered such an attitude on the network - first of all, tell the adults.
Of course, in this case, one of the most important points is the degree of trust and intimacy between you and your child! After all, the girl from the given example, who turned to a psychologist for help, could not trust her mother!
Tell your children about this a hundred times, until you teach them to automatically respond to any person “I don’t know you, I will not talk to you”!
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