2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
I’m thinking, if at some stage of our development such a concept as “feeling of guilt” did not arise, how would we live?
According to the research of the American psychologist Carroll Izard, who studied the psychology of emotions, a person has 8 basic emotions:
1. Pleasure is joy
2. Interest - excitement
3. Surprise - fright
4. Grief is suffering
5. Anger - rage
6. Fear is horror
7. Disgust - disgust
8. Shame - humiliation
Paul Ekman talks about 7 basic emotions that practically do not differ from Izard's list. Some psychological schools add happiness and love to the list. The rest of the set of emotions is derived from the basic ones.
However, there is no fault in any of these lists …
Recently I read from a priest that guilt, in the understanding that we are faced with today, began to emerge in Western Latin theology and seep into our territory in the 17th century. Guilt as a word, in the Bible and ancient religious texts, has the meaning of "cause" or "responsibility."
Attention, now I'm talking about the meaning of words, and not about the word itself, how it is written or sounds.
And now imagine a situation in which you made a mistake, answered incorrectly, acted without knowing, etc., as a result of which you were pointed out to your mistake. You were not asked how responsible you were in this situation. And in general, should you be responsible (after all, it happens that responsibility is dumped on us). Also, you did not specify the cause of the situation. They talked to you in such a way that the wine just covered you.
How would you feel if you were asked these questions:
"What is your responsibility in this situation"?
“Why do you think it happened, what went wrong”?
What's going on with us?
We feel guilt, and we are looking for a reason, and we analyze responsibility. At best, we do the last two steps. And if we do, it’s only to quickly cope with the feeling of guilt.
Guilt = either reason or responsibility. And more often than not one person, but many.
I consider guilt to be a social feeling. Society has given it to us and continues to impose it on us. It's easier to find what you want. Parents get an obedient child; in a relationship, partners use guilt to influence each other; at work they will give you the right to make mistakes, while “rewarding you with guilt” so that you do not relax too much.
When a person begins to feel guilty, it is easier to manipulate him. Moreover, the manipulation can be both very obvious and obvious, and almost imperceptible. Often, over time, we become aware of it. At the same time, the accuser himself does not notice the effect of manipulation. I think the degree of guilt tested = the degree of manipulation manifested.
Now think about it:
who, how and when blames you
who, how and when do you blame
what is behind all these accusations, what is their purpose
After considering the above, translate blame into responsibility and reason
A life without guilt gives freedom and awareness of one's own actions. In this situation, a filter of responsibility is formed within us: in what cases and to what extent to take it upon ourselves.
Think, contemplate and do not take on too much.
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