2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Author: Ilya Latypov
One of the traps for our consciousness is "I should have foreseen this." It seems to me that the pointing finger of some judge: "You should have foreseen this!" An absolutely hopeless phrase-claim to yourself and to others, implying that you (or others) have the ability to know what will happen in the future, accurately calculate all the possible consequences of your actions and choose for the reaction exactly those that will happen in reality. This venture is doomed to continuous anxiety directed towards the future, and to constant guilt for what he could have foreseen - and did not foresee. Any mistake made becomes fatal evidence of one's own stupidity / worthlessness. It’s as if you had the ability to swim, but didn’t use it to save your loved one drowning. “I could have saved - but I didn’t, because I chickened out!”. The same story with foresight.
The flip side of any ideas about the possibility of our omnipotence is the eternal burden of guilt and shame. Being in a rush between "should" and "could not", a person rushes from one extreme to another, from inappropriate activity and fuss to complete inactive paralysis. People are very afraid of accusations of inactivity and indifference - and often they begin to fuss so much that they forget about the limits of their competence. For example, pulling people injured in a road accident out of cars, when it is better to just stand nearby and not touch until the specialists have arrived. Or breaking ribs on people trying to give artificial respiration. It is difficult to recognize the limits of your capabilities, especially when this accusing voice sounds: “You could have saved him! I don't care that you are not a doctor, and that you could not do anything for a person - you had to become a doctor in those seconds! Or you had to do well in your first year when you were teaching first aid! " … I could, I should have …
Another facet - "I felt that it would be so, why did I not obey my intuition!" Hindsight is also a great way to blame yourself for not being omniscient and perfect enough to hear all the signals and unmistakably recognize the right ones among them. A cunning maneuver of fortune-tellers of all times and peoples: to utter a bunch of vague hints, and after the fact all these unintelligible predictions are subsumed under what happened: you see, I said! Only here “you see, I could, I knew, but didn’t …” … And the thought that we can plan the future, that we can analyze the possible consequences of our actions, but will never do it 100 %. We increase the likelihood of this or that outcome of events, but there are always two zones that we are unable to influence: the zone of unaccounted / unknown factors and the zone of our imperfection.
The signals of the future are always vague and cannot be accurately deciphered. Knowledge after the fact is always unmistakable precisely because it is after everything happened, and not "before." It is strange in hindsight to blame oneself for not being God, confidently knowing how things will go before the event takes place. But this is what a lot of people are doing. Execute themselves for lack of divinity.
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