Comfort Zone

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Surely many of you have repeatedly heard about such a concept as a comfort zone. It is rather difficult to give a clear definition of this psychological state of a person. For objective reasons.

For example, a certain percentage of people in our modern society believe that the comfort zone is primarily the individual comfort zone of a person who, having reached it, ceases to be socially active, loses a goal in life, avoids any difficulties, begins to think primitively and, as consequently, it hinders its development in all respects. Funny, huh?

But everything is in order. Let's try to analyze this concept in more detail and consciously, as well as structure it.

I'll start from afar.

What is purpose, purpose in life? What should it be? What needs to be done to achieve this goal?

After a long study of various Internet portals on this topic, I concluded that most people limit themselves to creating a family, buying a car, apartment, summer residence, or organizing a profitable business.

What are the guides of people who set such goals for themselves? It should be so. So it should be. That's what people said. I need to provide myself and my future family with a comfortable old age. I want to earn more than my neighbor. I want a car because now it is prestigious and fashionable. Sounds familiar, isn't it?

People themselves drive themselves into a certain framework that society has imposed on them. We do it because we have to. We need it not for us, but for society. We have ceased to take into account our desires, our vision, our interests, our individual needs when choosing a life path. We are so tied to the subjective opinion of others that any attempt to disrupt the established social rhythm is perceived by people as disobedience, aggression, disagreement with generally accepted rules and norms, which must be stopped, eliminated, destroyed.

Stereotypical thinking is flourishing. And are we talking about individual human development?

We live someone else’s life, according to someone else’s rules. We ignore our personal feelings. And then we complain that life has been lived in vain, that there is emptiness inside us, while blaming the people who were next to us.

Now let's think a little.

The comfort zone is a personal and inviolable living space of a person, which is characterized by stability, peace of mind, the absence of depression, panic, and fear. Yes, the comfort zone for each individual is different. For some, this zone is a favorite job, for someone - a strong and friendly family, and for someone - both. We are all inherently striving to find this zone. This is our nature.

But here we are faced with the problem of colossal dependence on the opinion of society. As soon as a person creates a comfort zone, which, for one reason or another, differs even a little from the generally accepted understanding and perception, society begins to exert a very strong emotional and psychological pressure on him, motivating this by the fact that he is weak, primitive, spineless, is hopeless.

Why? Yes, because he is different from them, he does not belong to those who live as "it is necessary", as "prescribed." We have forgotten that each person is, first of all, an individual personality, which in no case should be suppressed or controlled. We have forgotten our inalienable right to build our lives the way we want. It is our life.

Yes, we live in a society in which each of us has certain functions and elementary responsibilities. But nothing more.

Remember: your life is exclusively your life, at the end of which you may regret that you did not live it the way you wanted it to. Due to the fact that they could not find the strength in themselves to defend their point of view in due time. Don't make this mistake. Draw conclusions. It's never too late to start over. Be happy. Be yourself.