2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2024-01-31 14:10
Let's deal with this issue once and for all, exfoliating all myths from it, separating the wheat from the chaff.
Comfort zone - what is it? Judging by the name, this is the "place" where you feel comfortable, that is, comfortable. So far, everything is quite logical and simple. OK.
So why then leave here, if it is comfortable and cozy here?
And this is where the fun begins.
Firstly, if you have even the slightest hint of doubt in the “place” where you are right now, with the environment and those events that you have right now, with those you are - if anything, then there is even the slightest doubt of this, then for a start there is nothing to call it a comfort zone. This is not a comfort zone. Let's try to be a little more honest and straightforward with ourselves and call a spade a spade, in short, this is not a comfort zone, this is a zone of at least semi-comfort, and even discomfort.
Nobody leaves the real comfort zone - this is not normal. Any living intelligent creature in the universe enjoys a real comfort zone, and does not try to leave it. Do you understand?
If something pushes you to leave the "comfort zone", then it looks like it is no longer a comfort zone. Perhaps a couple of years ago - it was a comfort zone for you, maybe a couple of months, maybe a couple of minutes or seconds it was your comfort zone, but if something, some kind of impulse from within, an article, someone's words - push you to daring steps on what is called leaving the comfort zone, it means one thing - your current comfort zone is no longer relevant, it is outdated. And you will not leave it, but from the semi-comfort zone, in search of a new, real, fresh comfort zone that would satisfy and saturate you.
And if you are not enjoying this very second, if right now you cannot call yourself the happiest creature in the universe, then there is no comfort zone in your life yet. There is something for sure, maybe a good job, or a good education, a good salary, a house, a family and anything else, but if there is no happiness in your life that does not flow away even in difficult life situations, then I propose not to speculate with terminology, and the place you are in, if you really call it a zone, then call it an imaginary comfort zone or an illusory comfort zone or a false comfort zone.
And of course it's worth leaving such a false comfort zone. What for? Of course, in the hope of finding a real comfort zone, the one that makes no sense to leave. Do you know why it makes no sense? Because being in this very real comfort zone, you will be superbly happy, and I will say even more, even if you try - you will not be able to leave your real comfort zone.
But why?
You cannot leave your real comfort zone, because this comfort zone is you, this comfort zone is you.
But it needs to be discovered. On your own, boldly, open yourself. A wise mentor is not a hindrance here, but there are quite a few wise mentors who have found a comfort zone that does not go away, independent of external circumstances. And right now I'm entering the usually forbidden territory for psychologists, because I'm talking about what is beyond the boundaries of psychology. But, perhaps, the time has come to reveal the cards. The real comfort zone is you, you yourself are this comfort zone, you yourself are the happiness that you seek, you are the satisfaction that you lack. But it needs to be discovered, and I think I already wrote this.
Any comfort zone related to your accomplishments, related to your success or your wealth, related to external circumstances, or related to the people around you is not bad in itself, but such zone and such comfort are temporary. That's all. And this must be realized. Face this simple fact clearly and directly.
You are not a temporary comfort zone. You yourself. And understanding is not enough here. Memorizing these words as a formula from a textbook is useless. Just as it is useless for me to try to take my word for it. It is useless and senseless to argue with these words, as, indeed, to agree.
What in my opinion not useless and not pointless - check it … All the words, everything that you met in this article, it would be nice to check it yourself, by your own research, by your own experiment. And if it is approximately clear to you how to do this, or if this experiment is happening to you right now - great, this is very important, continue your research until you make the most important discovery in your life!
But if it is not entirely clear to you what kind of research and experiment we are talking about - contact me, I will be glad to clarify and help you.
“The comfort zone in which you are truly happy is stupid to leave. But the zone in which your happiness is incomplete is simply necessary to leave, and more than once."
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