Get Out Of Your Comfort Zone

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

You know, everyone around me wants to get out of my comfort zone. Not just customers. Relatives, friends, acquaintances. Decent-looking acquaintances!

Pale, chronically sleep deprived people say: "You just need to get out of your comfort zone and drive yourself to the gym." People with panic attacks say, "You need to get out of your comfort zone and stop feeling sorry for yourself." People who live a painful, very unsweetened life say: "You should get out of your comfort zone and stop eating sweets." This is not the worst scenario yet. Some just say stop eating. They see a radical solution to the problem.

My eyes start to twitch anxiously from such words.

I'll explain now.

To get out of your comfort zone, you must first be in it.

What is a comfort zone? This is a place where it is warm, cozy, free, tasty, joyful and safe. Where you are loved and respected. Where you are taken care of (and you also care, not without that, but not unilaterally). Many of us simply do not have such a zone. Well, there is no zone where they take care of us. In the best case, there is an area to lie down or burrow through. It's better than nothing, but not quite right. It's like alcohol against frost - in principle, it helps, but not for long, and worse than a down jacket.

Once in the comfort zone (I don't like the word "zone", it has a camp flavor, but let it be), you need to stay there for a while. Relax your soul. And only then - to leave. This feeling cannot be confused with anything - when you have enough strength for everything, and you are, perhaps, ready to learn something else … wake up early in the morning and run to yoga … think about a work project that hangs in the plans for six months …

And here it is very important that the impulse to do something - it comes from within and overtakes thought. First you start doing - then you already think. Not always with a song, sometimes it is a painful joy of overcoming, and why the hell, do you think, I reached for the steering wheel of this vacuum cleaner - but definitely not with the last bit of strength. Helpful because it was interesting.

People who talk about "getting out of their comfort zone" usually don't mean any interest. If we translate this construction into simple human language, they mean something like the following: I already somehow sucks, but if I torture myself harder, maybe I will feel better?

Well I do not know. If a person with the flu is still flogged in the stable, maybe he will recover later. But it is unlikely that this is from a spanking.

Often it sounds like self-accusation: "I'm just lazy, I just don't want to get out of my comfort zone."

And this stilted construction either tastes of agonizing shame ("I'm not good enough, I don't live up to the norm, even if you crack"), or guilt ("I'm not trying enough, I'm not good, I'm not good, no one will love me when I'm not well done"). And shame and guilt are such things as burdock, which will always find something to cling to, no matter what real success you achieve. Even if you finally stop feeling sorry for yourself and stop eating altogether (although this is not a success).

But in a ruthless vacuum and at the limit of strength, no normal person will last long.

Then there are plus or minus three ways: crawl back into the "comfort zone", fall into clinical depression (when not a bad mood, but a diagnosis) or into severe psychosomatics.

Which option do you like best? Me first.

Moreover, the times are hard. Informational pressure. Financial crisis. Winter. November. There is no sun. And if you suddenly know how to get to your comfort zone, I suggest staying in it until spring.