How You Were Born Affects Your Life, And Can You Get Out Of This Influence?

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Birth

Dedicated to all of us, amazing babies)))

I have always followed my heart, even in science. And so, when I was deeply impressed by the discoveries of Stanislav Grof, I had to face different reactions of people to this information. I remember that while some university teachers were curious to read my term paper about his "Perinatal Matrices", others were very negatively disposed.

But years have passed … and today I propose to any person who encounters these discoveries - to find a truly scientific approach to acquaintance with this material. And this means - to put aside skepticism, since it is the openness to the new, previously unknown and by and large, rejecting the previously discovered - the engine of the science of progress of all mankind.

The earth is not flat, is it?

Well, has your skeptic already made way for a true researcher?

Then listen …

1) When patients were immersed in an altered state of consciousness, they all remembered the smallest details of their birth, from conception to sucking on the breast and mother and other details of the infant experience.

2) All patients had almost identical memories, which could be divided into 4 main stages: intrauterine development, the moment of the onset of contractions (the onset of labor), the process of the baby moving outward through the mother's birth canal and the moment of entering the world, and they were called perinatal matrices.

3) There is a certain idea of what the normal matrices of a good healthy childbirth look like

4) And since there were deviations in childbirth from the "correct" matrices, then in those people who had these deviations, an incredible connection with adult behavior and response to life situations was found. Simply put - as you were born, so you live! Including deviations from "normal matrices" - you live with the same deviations in the adult reactions of your brain to life events. I will write about this in detail below …

5) The main conclusion is this: when we are born inside the mother's body, stay there for 9 months and go outside during childbirth, we get the first experience and the first memories that are laid in our brain as matrices of successful survival (although the behavior itself is not always successful, and sometimes even destructive). But since you THEN survived, then your brain-encoded behavior will now be applied in all similar situations. In fact, not only are there many similar situations, but in fact our whole life consists only of these 4 matrices (stages). I will also tell you more about this later. And you will agree with me, even with your skeptic.

And now I will reveal to you the veil of what these matrices are called, and what a normal birth is.

By the way, I will use such words: normal, good, bad, deviation from the norm, healthy, unhealthy and other words that are convenient for me to describe the material. And I think it will be easier for you to perceive it too. Everything ingenious is simple, and even Grof himself wrote the "correct" birth … And he didn’t soar by the way. Considering that in Soviet society he was almost eaten for such discoveries, then … What little things - that someone did not like the word "Good"))) Somehow they wrote to me in the comments on my blog, and I am grateful for this feedback … I understand that maybe someone wants scientific terms, but believe me, not everyone will be pleased to read continuous terminology from the field of psychotherapy, philosophy, psychology. If you are so interested in checking it out … I once recommended that my girls, with whom I worked as a coach, read one of the best books on healthy relationships, but it was written by a psychotherapist for psychotherapists. So what? They could not read it in such a way as to deeply comprehend all the material. And the most interesting thing about healthy relationships and about perinatal matrices was discovered a long time ago, about 30-40 years ago. But … few people know about it …

So GOOD BIRTH:

1 matrix - PARADISE (From the moment of conception, the baby is in the womb for 9 months)

2 matrix - ADA (Contractions have begun, but the baby is still in the uterus from 2 to 36 hours)

3 matrix - FIGHTING (The kid began to desperately fight for life and crawl along the narrow birth canal)

4 matrix - LOVE AND FREEDOM (The baby crawled out of the birth canal, he is separated from the mother, the process of childbirth is over, the mother is nearby and breastfeeds him, he receives love, but is already on a physical level in a free space, which differs from the cramped uterus)

I will describe these matrices in more detail, and you will understand how these matrices reflect our life situations with you, and why we react to them differently, in accordance with the first experience.

In the meantime, I will list the possible deviations in childbirth:

1 matrix:

Pregnant mom wanted to have an abortion, Mom, being pregnant, was constantly under stress, Mom drank alcohol, smoked, used drugs, Mom went through the grief

Mom worked with toxic materials (painted the walls)

A pregnant mother has experienced violence once or on a regular basis…. And etc.

2 matrix:

The contractions don't start

Pierce the amniotic fluid

The period of contractions is delayed … and others.

3 matrix:

The waters have departed earlier and the child is born "On dry", The child is pulled out with tongs

Complications during childbirth, such as entanglement with the umbilical cord, Breech presentation

4 matrix:

The child is immediately carried away from the mother, Complications after childbirth

Prematurity

The mother is losing milk - artificial feeding, The mother often leaves the child alone for a long time, The child lies in the crib and cries, but they do not take him in his arms, etc.

As well as:

Birth of twins

Cesarean section, The use of drugs for a woman in labor and a child, etc.

I will tell you exactly how every detail of birth, including those deviating from the norm, manifests itself in the subsequent life of a person, but for now - call your mother and ask her how you were born …

Ask her in detail about all stages of birth.

Honestly, I have delved into this topic for so long that it has already become a part of my life, such as walking or talking - to the point of automatism in my behavior. True, I often remember my birth when I find myself in this or that life matrix.

I think this information about how our birth affects us today - it may be useful for you, my dear readers, that I will also reveal to you the ways to change your birth matrices. And I believe that you can change your life with new knowledge about you and the training of new behaviors! Once I, others did it, which means you can do it too)))

Paradise Matrix

And so, conception occurs, the baby is in the womb for 9 months before the first contractions.

This period is called the Paradise Matrix. Why? You probably already guessed …

The baby is under the protection of the mother, he receives love, food. And he doesn't need to give anything in return. He is surrounded by unconditional love. He dwells in a serene Cosmos in unshakable peace.

It would seem that it is just a cell, then two … How can SOMETHING be deposited in the memory of a child who is a single-celled creature?

But here are the paradoxical discoveries made by Grof.

Everyone who recalled their intrauterine experience faced such sensations and pictures as high-speed flight as if in an endless space tube … being a sperm cell …

Like … Staying in the eternal cosmic ocean, … The mystical experience of meeting highly spiritual beings and a higher power, meditation immersed in itself, prayer dance, eternal bliss of spirit and body, universal dance of spirit, temple chants, feeling of being in the arms of God and other mystical experiences …Many referred to this experience as being in paradise.

They were all identical. And with such a similar description among people different in their religions, characters and values, it was difficult to doubt the truth of the facts about the inner life of the fetus being discovered by science.

I must say, someone even recalled their life before … life in the womb …

I think that your skeptic has already pricked his ears. Do you agree with me, although I myself really do not like such conversations about reincarnation, that no evidence has yet been found for the absence of such a phenomenon as life after death, life before the birth and rebirth of souls into new bodies?

And since this evidence has not been found, then as long as we, as an impartial scientist, no matter how frightening the results of these studies may seem, for a start, at least just be attentive to the description of the intrauterine development of hundreds and thousands of people around the world who remember the same experience. And we can admit that this is possible, since the opposite has not been proven.

Food flows through the umbilical cord, and decay products are excreted, a continuous uniform beat of a huge heart is continuously heard nearby, the pulsation fills everything with itself. You don't need to breathe. You don't even have to move, except to play with your fingers, suck them or swim for your pleasure in the most perfect dance. And most of the time you are in samatha, a deep meditative dream, in which divine images of incredible beauty come to you. All you have to do is to feel like a Great Buddha or to have silent conversations with Jesus.

Bliss fills every cell of yours. And you DO NOT HAVE ANYTHING TO DO for this world to be and love you forever. Just to be in the so-called eternal paradise …

This is how people describe the Good WOMAN.

Let's now look at the Bad Womb.

If the mother used drugs, alcohol, many drugs, smoked or inhaled toxic vapors, the patients in the first matrix had a feeling of suffocation, a toxic uterus, a bad, poisonous enclosed space. The paintings were accompanied not by visions of peaceful marine animals, as in a healthy experience, but by deadly sharks, snakes, and poisoned waters. There was a desire to urgently leave this world, to escape from the womb, and there was no longer any question of bliss.

If the mother wanted to have an abortion, thought about it, or went for an abortion, but changed her mind, or had an abortion, but was unsuccessful, then a clear feeling of the inevitability of her death arises in her memory. The uterus is seen as a menacing, eerie monster, ready to devour. These visions are accompanied by fear of death, horror, panic, helplessness. Hitler's mother, if you remember, wanted to have an abortion.

A bad uterus was also recalled by those whose mothers experienced stress, chronic scandals, shock, violence, humiliation and other types of psychological stress, then the baby felt uncomfortable in the matrix of paradise. An inordinate and inexplicable feeling of anxiety accompanied his intrauterine journey. The kid could not feel completely relaxed and loved, it seemed to him that something terrible was happening, but he did not understand that he could not influence it.

Some of these descriptions show us that the first matrix can fill the memory of an as yet unconscious, unborn, but perfectly living baby with different memories.

These memories are the first and lay in the matrix of paradise our unconscious behavior in today's life.

Let's look at how people behave in accordance with the first experience of being in the womb.

First, the stage of PARADISE falls on the first 5 years of a child's life. He gets everything. He still does not need to give anything in return. They dress him, feed him, wash him. Take care of him, groom and cherish. But the question is: did your parents create such a paradise world for you before your five years old? Not always, but often - just the opposite, a bad uterus is created by the same parents who gave a bad intrauterine uterus to their child …

All four matrices are also reflected in our adult life. Let's think now about how we behave when we get into 1 matrix. There are situations when we are in a state of rest, relaxation, we do not need to run anywhere, we receive everything for free. We enjoy receiving! For example, we were successful, we went on a honeymoon, we received a diploma or a coveted position, we moved into our apartment. We came home from work in the evening to relax, or a vacation has come in our life.

Do you know how to relax and enjoy? Do you believe in the love of the universe and God? Do you believe that you are lucky and lucky? You can just lie in the lap of your loved one and feel incredibly happy, without straining, and without thinking about whether a strand of hair frames your face favorably, and whether you are not causing inconvenience to your partner? Can you surrender to love and look your partner in the eyes without a shadow of a doubt that you deserve to be loved and just receive that love? Do you trust? Are you jealous? Do you know how to receive gifts, ask and ask for help, or do you, deep down, do not believe that you will receive what you need? And can you enjoy the achievements or the taste of victory immediately becomes toxic, after receiving it and you want to immediately run for a new victory.

How do you fall asleep when you go to bed? Does your body relax immediately and do you fall asleep easily or are you tense and cannot sleep for a long time?

Based on his research, Grof collected certain information, put it in a table. If some matrix deviated from the norm, it was called stuck in the matrix. You seem to be stuck at a certain stage, and you do not cope with situations the way nature is supposed to solve such situations.

What is the risk of getting stuck in the first matrix? You cannot relax. You are incredulous and jealous. You are fixated on achievements, but they are not enjoyable. You cannot fully love by dissolving into ecstasy. You are a workaholic. It is sometimes said about such people that they love IBD (imitation of violent activity). Such people are always tense. On vacation, they bother everyone. They will not let their partner relax either. They burn out emotionally at work. They are prone to heart attacks and strokes. When it comes time to rest, a sense of anxiety does not leave them.

If you were unwanted, does it not often happen that even now you come at the wrong time? Are you often not welcome? Do you have a feeling that you were born in vain, that the world is not happy with you, and you should not have been born? That nobody needs you? That nobody loves you? Not situational emotions, but a clear, established feeling of your uselessness in life?

Also, a tendency to chemical dependence - associated with a toxic uterus. Unexplained cravings for drugs, alcohol, constant medication. Some of the patients who participated in the studies even recalled a specific smell, such as paint. And after talking with their mother, they were convinced of the truth of their memories. The mother confirmed that at a certain stage of pregnancy, she painted the walls.

One of the girls I know, in the experiment, being in the first matrix, felt an irresistible suffocating desire to escape from the uterus. After talking with her mother, she learned that she was a welcome child, the mother was not going to have an abortion and was not faced with paint. Later, in family photos, she found a photo of a mother smoking a cigarette. From the date in the photo, it became clear that then the mother was pregnant with her. Although the mother denied any toxic effects on the fetus, she became aware of her feelings and desires to leave the uterus and why she was suffocating. She also noticed the connection between these feelings and her now personal nicotine addiction.

Often times, parents repeat a bad uterus for their child from birth to 5 years of age. They smoke, continuing to poison the child's body. They express dissatisfaction with the fact that the child interferes with them all the time, distracting them from important matters. They do not allow the child to rest, have fun and enjoy life, and try to load him with moralizing, work, stiffness in behavior, try to deprive him of spontaneity and a sense of trust in the world. They stop giving him unconditional love, all the time demanding certain behavior in return. And they unceremoniously pull him out of his thoughts (meditative in some way), forcing him to urgently go to the table or brush his teeth and sleep …

Unfortunately…

This further reinforces the habitual “bad”, maladaptive response and behavior recorded in the subcortex of the brain at the cellular level. Why bad, I think it is clear. Craving for chemical addiction, chronic depression, lack of spiritual soil in the structure of our personality - in the future can lead not only to diseases of the body, but also attempts at suicide.

What feelings stirred up in you as you read about the first matrix of paradise, while images of a baby sleeping in the womb appeared in your imagination? What responded to you from what you read? If you have experienced negative emotions, you may have read about yourself, and your memory reacted to familiar situations in a familiar way. Now what to do with the data received about your birth? I'll tell you later …

To begin with, it is important to understand the root cause of your unhelpful behavior. It is determined by your birth. In a life situation similar to the paradise matrix, you experience the same feelings that you experienced as a baby. It all started a long, long time ago … Your parents could not even have known about such studies at that time. And even how important it is to create good conditions for your conception and fetal maturation. In our Soviet society, rather, parents were trained to act contrary to the laws of nature. Let's remember how religious, spiritual paradigms were generally denied.

But in fact, in human culture it is very easy to draw an analogy with the images of intrauterine experiences. Mystical experiences, spiritual currents, shamanic practices, experiences of enlightenment, hypnotic journeys into past lives - is this not people's memories of their primary paradisiacal experiences and the desire to experience this incredible, indescribable experience over and over again?

It is important to understand that if you react this way, this is not your character, this is not just imitation of your parents, this is not just inexplicable behavior. This is the most amazing thing that can be found in the repositories of your memory - the first experience, the foundation on which your inner child builds his entire world. And so it can be changed. Your maladaptive behavior can be recoded. After describing all 4 matrices, I will tell you how it can be done.

Hell Matrix

Imagine you are sitting in your beautiful universe in warmth, bliss, comfort, embraced to the brim with love. This world promises to be eternal. And suddenly…

The first warning signs appear. You feel that something is happening to your world. A few warning signals (the hormones that transmit this anxiety have already begun to enter the bloodstream) and your universe begins to crumble. Or rather, it is not it that is crumbling, but your fragile body, subject to its steel onslaught. Your sky, sea, sun and earth begin to squeeze you like in a kunzkamera or a huge whale stomach …

Then, while you are still trying to understand - what is happening and why suddenly your world starts killing you or is it just punishing you? You haven't figured it out yet, but then … everything calms down again. Your universe begins to gently hug you again, feeds you, though, perhaps, not as satisfying as before. You seem to relax for a while, but the feeling of anxiety does not go away.

And Peace does not come in your soul quite justifiably, because after a certain time everything repeats again. A certain rhythm of peace and danger, love and rejection begins to take shape. Does your world no longer love you or is it punishing you for something? Will it stop or not? This rhythm intensifies and now your bones begin to crunch under the pressure of the iron muscles of this huge whale stomach, as it turned out, the place that you previously considered the heavenly womb of a god who loves you.

The torture continues again and again, stronger and stronger. Your universe is becoming indifferent-ruthless-cruel. She wants to crush you, destroy you. Grind you into powder, eat you like a soft-boiled egg. You still hope that your universe will spare you, forgive you and everything will stop, but you secretly already guess that you are unlikely …

How do you feel? Fear, horror, wild pain, despair, panic, anxiety, depression, dead end, loneliness, rejection, destruction and great cosmic sorrow and grief.

The great baby experiences all human feelings, for the first time, on a gigantic scale, and after that he will never experience such strength of feelings in his life - people described the state of the 2nd matrix.

The child feels the breath of death … How do you think, where do we, living on earth, feel so close to the sensations of dying, anxious thoughts about death? Why does it seem to us that after death all souls continue to live and go somewhere? We've already died once! We died in our first universe, since we are no longer there forever, is not it?

I hope you have already guessed - where did the biblical myths about expulsion from paradise come from in history … Humanity is rethinking HIS FIRST EXCLUSION, weaving from its experience and incomprehensible feelings that excite the soul, a beautiful metaphor of grandiose proportions, including it in the collective unconscious, a legend that is reflected in all world cultures … Descriptions of hell, bonfires, cauldrons with boiling liquid - everything reflects the bodily anguish of a baby tormented by the Uterus … Eternal punishment … Eternal torment of hell … The river of death … (In fact, it is just a transition to another dimension, to another state) … But let's try to imagine that the time at which the baby lives in the womb is not at all equal to ours, and for him these 2-36 hours last for millions - billions of years, which justifiably seem to be an eternity …

Scenes of expulsion from paradise, torture of kunzkamera, huge devouring monsters are presented by people, immersed in the memories of their birth. Images of Satan, dark demons who want to destroy, Lucifer and his warriors, the serpent gripping everything tighter, original sin, the fall of Adam and Eve.

And so, before the beginning of a new stage of life, millimeter by millimeter, begins to open … the cervix of the intrauterine uterus …

And through the thickness of the mother's body, along the birth canal … A narrow strip of light begins to appear. In the dark world that is killing us (and this is so - if the baby does not come out in time, he will die), something strange, unknown early, but vaguely alluring and promising salvation is happening.

Have you heard, I hope, about how people who survived clinical deaths talked about a narrow tunnel, at the end of which there was a light? Remember how the patients who returned to our world after death described this experience? How their soul rushed swiftly along the dark tunnel, to the saving bright white spot …

What happens next to us, after the dawn broke in the parallel universe of the intrauterine world of an infant, I will tell you in the next article …

The world is dual to us, our life consists of ups and downs. There are periods of loss in our life, when something that is dear and beloved to us stops, when they stop loving us, when we are laid off from work, when a war begins where we live, and we are forced to move to an unfamiliar area, when we forced to move into the unknown. The honeymoon of the newlyweds ends. When everything already seems catastrophically terrible, but there is still no way out. We do not know what will happen next … But we understand that most likely everything will change and it will never, never be the same as before …

What we feel, how we react to this situation, how we behave - completely repeats our unique first experience in our life.

Remember how you behave in such turning points of life thrown at you by fate?

Stuck in the second matrix is fraught with the fact that the baby was not born for a long time, the cervix did not open for a long time or there were no contractions. Or the contractions lasted a very long time. And there were interrupting contractions when a woman returned home and came to give birth again a few days later - the case of my grandmother. And other options for exceptional deviations from the healthy course of childbirth.

Typical behavior of stuck in matrix 2. A person born in impetuous childbirth (2 hours) tries very quickly to go his life path, he is always in a hurry, he does not have time to live, chewing every piece of life's cake. HE swallows without chewing and does not feel any anticipation, taste, or aftertaste. This is the one who does not have time to qualitatively perceive and assimilate life experience for his full-fledged life support. This is a person who cannot psychologically endure any difficulties in life. This is reflected in his relationship, it is reflected in his goals and choices. It is difficult for him to set long-term goals and go towards them, systematically overcoming difficulties.

But the one who has been sitting in the womb for a long time also suffers from his “sitting up” in difficult crisis situations. If the mother was pierced with the amniotic sac, then the adult child will not be able to set a goal and see the meaning, the light is the final alluring result of his movement from painful situations. The person will wait for it to be opened and shown! They will show you where to go, why exactly there? And in principle, depending on the further course of childbirth, a person may not move at all when difficulties come, but to lie, excuse me, like a sack of … Inactive, and possibly stuck in this stage of ADA for many, many years of his life … Remember wives who are indignant that their husbands lie on the couch, do not get a job, after being laid off, drink too much, but DO NOT DO ANYTHING FOR THEIR SALVATION, even if they are given a helping hand?

And yet - this is a human victim, he loves to suffer sweetly. Having fallen into such a streak of failures, it is very difficult for him to get out of it, since he bears the cross of the martyr, stuck for a long time in the contracting weaves of muscle fibers, like tourniquets closely, but habitually pressing from all sides in his universe.

If mothers were given large doses of drugs, painkillers, then by that time a craving for chemical dependence may also be added.

How does this period go from 5-7 years old to 10-12 years old? This is the time when the child begins to be squeezed by demands and responsibilities. In a good way, the matrix of hell in childhood assumes that we are close, we continue to love, believe, praise and be proud of our child. So that we talk to him, talk about love, express love, just like an advanced mother does when giving birth to a child. She continues to be in touch with him. She, in spite of her pain, talks to him, strokes her stomach and utters words of love so that he understands: all this will pass, mom is near, he can overcome this, he will find a solution and cope.

In the worst case, parents demand unquestioning obedience, stop fondling and teasing the child, demand independence, give birth to a second child, heap on him the yoke of responsibility for a MAN (his brother, sister), which only an adult (and by law, too) can do, and the child feels himself completely abandoned, in the hopeless darkness of the world that gripped him and abandoned him. It seems to him, yes, that he is no longer loved. Hear the stories of those who survived their early years at school, how their parents yelled at him, beat him for deuces, how they first let him go for a walk (or did not let him go), and then put him under house arrest for being late.

I've heard a lot of these stories …

Parents transfer into their experience of raising children - their experience of birth and their feelings experienced in it …

At the end of the topic, I will tell you how exactly your situation of being "stuck" in the 2nd matrix can be changed so that you begin to behave in your adult life, moving away from the initial experience of reaction …

Struggle Matrix

When a child already understands for sure that death is inevitable (irreversible changes, in any case, and death if left inactive), there is a battle of tom-toms in his heart, and adrenaline in his blood, what does he have? A door to emptiness and uncertainty, a cave entrance with a diameter of his fist, from where a faint light creeps in from afar. And in principle, when he makes the first jerk, he immediately gets stuck with his head in one world, and with his body in another, clamped in the neck by the uterine ring.

The pressure of the uterus at the time of attempts is about 50 kilograms per 2-3 kilogram body of the baby. And with a tiny body, as we know, the baby, moving through the birth canal, is even able to push the mother's pelvic bones.

And so he has to make jerk after jerk, crawling millimeter by millimeter this endless cosmic tube, moreover, not knowing what awaits him there, in another world, where he is heading. But perhaps he has a dim premonition that salvation awaits him there. If the mother's voice is still near, he realizes that the time has come for him to fight for life and the Universe supports him in this.

This is the first experience of struggle, and in the process of this experience, the child experiences a whole spectrum of incredible strength of emotions - aggression, anger, rage, despair, strength and the first intense sexual experiences when the skin touches the mother's womb.

This is the way out of the mother's womb. What pictures did people see when remembering this stage of their birth? Great battles, battles of the Titans, the Space Tube, orgies and satanic dances, shamanic dances, hunting. Everything that is associated with moving towards a goal and overcoming oneself. Any cultural stereotypes are alien to the primary consciousness, visions from the collective unconscious acquire some basic basis (search for a repeated path and victory), they are identical in many research participants.

By nature, the child is pushed forward to the exit from the back of the amniotic fluid, on the sides - the muscles of the birth canal, which contract during pushing. All this creates the feeling of a sacred feat, the sacred path of the hero. The child understands that the world is flexible, that he supports him and obeys to some extent already his will, his strength. He feels the sweet taste of victory and his own greatness to some extent.

Now let's see how this experience can be captured when stuck in Matrix 3.

Umbilical cord entanglement - led the patients participating in the study to strive to bring into their own adult life the experience of some kind of strangulation, thoughts of suicide through strangulation, all sorts of experiments with the body. The child was in the womb, perhaps already feeling how his movements affect the compression of the neck by the umbilical cord. But when he went along the birth canal, tightening a noose around his neck, then he had a clear ligament in his head that survival and salvation is inevitably connected with tightening the rope around his neck. This bodily memory is very strong. If this sounds familiar to you, I'll show you how you can change this next.

The dry birth - the waters moved away earlier - brought revolutionaries and fighters into our world! These children were born independently, making their way through the birth canal, and their first experience of survival, victory, love and sexual experiences is associated with a desperate struggle, which creates such an illusion that the only true way of survival is a struggle not for life, but for death. As soon as the struggle stops, life automatically stops in their minds. Only with a strong hug will they feel loved. Flexibility is a deadly strategy for them. You can meet such dry-born people - in line, keeping order, restoring justice, making scandals out of the blue. Diplomacy is not their lot.

When a baby is a large fetus, does not leave the uterus, gets stuck in the birth canal, or gets stuck at the exit from the uterus or at the exit from the vaginal ring, it can be retrieved with the help of special devices. This is fraught with the fact that a person does not believe in his ability to fight. He understands that life sometimes requires us to fight, but he also clearly knows about himself that he is not a fighter. He will always wait to be pulled out.

They pulled my uncle out with forceps, he weighed about 5 kilograms, and he was a man who could not fight for his life, freedom, love himself. Later, I will tell you how the change in his behavior occurred after we connected his life story with his birth.

Those who were born by caesarean section lack 2 or 2 and 3 matrices. These people have no experience of fighting. Although someone thinks that getting a baby out of the mother's abdomen can be considered a 3 matrix. But we have seen examples of babies who were born by caesarean section and did not have the ability to fight and overcome obstacles and difficulties. After working with these children (later I will sanctify what we did), the behavior of these children changed significantly. If before that, they tended to fall into hysterics and wait for their problems to be solved for them. Then after a change in the memory of the birth matrices, these children began to move towards independence with micro-steps, they developed along with this experience - faith in themselves, in their ability to fight and win in the end.

How can we find a reflection of this matrix through the consciousness of people in the history of mankind? These are battles and battles wherever it is possible to arrange this act, this is a way of overcoming oneself (for example, in Hindu mythology, paradigm and reflection in traditions), the way of struggle and victories of entire nations. In mythology, these are sacred stories, these are spiritual legends about the battles of the gods, about victories and spiritual transformations, this is initiation, this is initiation, the passage of the path and rebirth.

In a personalized experience, these are situations where a person makes a decision and takes action. He leaves work for another, stops his suffering, goes into an open conversation (or not open, depending on the individual characteristics of the matrix), begins to actively change the situation or his life in general. These are situations where we win after a long journey of overcoming obstacles. These are the situations where we stop tolerating and giving in and begin to go straight to the goal of liberation from suffering and inconvenience. This is when we get divorced or begin to build relationships in a new way in marriage. This is growing up and leaving, separation from parents.

This is adolescence. From 12 to 15-17 years old. This is maximalism, the rejection of everything old, the struggle for independence. Rejection of parental values, search for oneself, search for the meaning of existence, intellectual battles with the older generation, and often fights with peers. This is a sexual revolution. The child is struggling with the family, which was once a womb for him, nurtured and raised him, but now has become cramped for him. This struggle is inherent in Mother Nature herself. If he does not fight, then how will his spirit, his consciousness, his body survive, in the end, for which it is time to ripen for procreation? His body must begin a long search for a partner and receive the first sexual experience - touching hands, kissing, at first the first timid steps, and at an older age, and the first intimate experience of sexual relations in full. His self is now directed outside the family. After all, sexual experience is supposed to be obtained outside the family, isn't it?

And most importantly, adrenaline, experiments with the body, non-sensitivity to pain, the desire to experience pain over and over again - all this reflects our 3 matrix. The best that parents can give their child during this period: understanding the origins of this behavior, acceptance, love, support and expanding the boundaries that we formed at an earlier age. And even help to some extent in the department.

To understand the power of the influence of our birth on our life, it is enough to remember that some people are stuck in the matrix of "struggle" for many, many years. Their behavior vaguely or clearly reminds us of the behavior of adolescents who are nihilistic about the world … And we consider this to be just an intolerable personality. Imagine how culture would change if it ceased to cultivate different character traits of heroes, and instead showed the origins of such destructive behavior and amazing transformations of these characters? After all, you can always direct the struggle within yourself, setting off on the path of spiritual transformation and fighting with the inner three-headed dragons, getting the needle of immortality of the inner Koschei? But the dry-born is unaware that there is also a path of flexible movement towards the goal …

I will talk later about how a revolutionary can learn diplomacy. Why, you ask, change such a variety of the world? But you will find out from him whether he is tired of the eternal struggle and the depletion of his forces and resources where he could go an easier and more pleasant path, changing only the matrix of his birth memory. After all, in fact, he is a winner, but a collector of scars on his body and soul. And the worst thing is probably for him, who has the illusion of an eternal conqueror of freedom, that he is a slave to his birth matrix. Which, fortunately, can be changed, along with his values and deep understanding of life, without losing his prenatal core of personality …

And how it is possible to change the stuck in this and other matrices in the memory of the body and the subconscious, I will describe further …

Matrix of love and freedom

Let's imagine that you have to crawl in an almost endless cave for N amount of time. Its diameter is equal to the size of your fist. But the walls give in to some extent to your pressure on them. While you are moving forward, there are more than one moment when your strength runs out, the pipe compresses the exhausted body with great force, and you have no idea how long this will last.

Then you feel that the path is cleared again, the spasmodic ring is unclenched. But … some substance (amniotic fluid) pushes you from behind and this gives hope for release someday …

Time is perceived in other parameters. Not 5 minutes, not an hour, but 5 million years … This was described by the survivors of rebirth.

And now you reach the exit from the tunnel. Your head crunches through an almost rigid hoop. He squeezes his neck again. When you are already hoping for salvation, for a prize and victory, you understand that your end has come … Just resigned - at the next moment you refuse to give up … you scoop out the last drop of vitality from the deepest bottom, make a leap … And you free! A victorious cry announces the whole world … “Ooh, I’ll show you all !!! What have I just experienced! ?? »The body is still under pressure, it continues to crawl instinctively. And the most correct thing that can happen is that you are laid on a soft surface, hugged, covered. The mouth greedily catches streams of warm nourishing fluid from the mother's breast.

This final matrix of childbirth is the "Matrix of Love and Freedom." You are loved by this world again, but also free! Separation from the mother does not lead to the loss of the mother's love, but leads to the multiplication of the good that you can have in your existence. The child is a separate individual. HE is a separate person. He feels his victory, he feels his strength. What are deprived of children born by cesarean section.

In an ideal birth, the child would have to move gently into a new dimension. Subdued light, birth into water, quiet voices, cutting the umbilical cord sustained in time, hands of relatives. Lack of medical procedures and vaccinations. And after some time, the baby already needs the closeness of the mother, which allows him to experience the state of free love.

But this is not always possible. Therefore, it can become a bad matrix - if the child is immediately carried away from the mother (especially without attaching it to the breast), many medical procedures are performed, if there are birth injuries, prematurity, lack of breastfeeding, lack of mother's love (for example, mother has postpartum depression, she does not take child in your arms) and other situations.

There is closeness - there is freedom. No intimacy - no sweet freedom. Only abandonment and abandonment, maddening despair and loss in a world with giant furniture and giants looking at you through the prism of their different levels of mind. Someone looks at it as a miracle, and someone as an annoying piece of meat, which can only be thrown into the trash for their own amusement …

What are the consequences - a person is afraid of freedom, is in eternal pathological dependence on someone (up to 100 years), or vice versa - is afraid of intimacy. It is difficult for him to be in a situation of loneliness. He tries to avoid the trauma of loneliness and abandonment - through avoiding intimacy with people. I hope everything is clear here.

Let's take a look at how these situations manifest in our daily life. This is the phase when we separate from someone. When we leave the parental home, when we end up not having a happy future relationship. When we moved on to a new amazing job. When we woke up in the morning on a holiday, cheerful, full of strength and ready to run - to do great things! All situations when we have achieved a result, victory, final goal and enjoy this state. We are euphoric.

Try to remember how you react to such events. How do you behave? What emotions are you experiencing? Anxiety, panic, dependence on chemical or alcoholic drugs (can you enjoy life and celebrate without alcohol?) - experienced by those who are stuck in the 4th matrix. Fear of victory, fear of success, fear of being alone - if you come to victory. The prize-winner taking the first places in the arena of destinies is always alone. He is subject to envy, the anger of the environment. Sound familiar? Me too … Or maybe this is because we were immediately carried away from our mothers, beaten in the ass, smeared with all kinds of ointments, immediately vaccinated and put for 3-7 days among the other fifty screaming lumps in one of the metal boxes on wheels, not which has nothing to do with a cradle to sleep on? And also, what my mother told me - when I was born, it was customary to feed the child by the hour. And if the helpless baby cried, and the mother's heart could not withstand this call, suffered by the first digestion and cold, then the mother left home so as not to hear it. Did you know that children were already sent to a nursery at the age of 6 - 12 months?

The little man is used to being under a loving heart in the warm embrace of the mother's womb. And suddenly he turns out … I see a naked baby on the open ice cover of the North Pole, attacked by rabid bears. (Although in nature most often animals are kind to tiny creatures, they can feed and raise) …

Let us also recall the 5 stages of accepting the inevitable - denial, rebellion, bargaining, sadness, acceptance. I perceive the 4th matrix as the last stage of accepting the inevitable - a bright feeling of spiritual transformation. You have an amazing EXPERIENCE, it was filled with happiness, pain, suffering, struggle and ended. Sadness has passed, there is a bright feeling of meaningfulness of my path. You understand that it was not in vain. He is the very essence …

So what about the relationship of love and freedom in marriage? When no one controls anyone? Is everyone responsible for their feelings, life, behavior? When in a family is everyone allowed to be himself, to have a different opinion? Where is respect initially to everyone by birthright? And unconditional love … Where everything is discussed openly, problems are solved and in general no one is pushing anyone, but is still there in some kind of spiritual connection? There are no chains, but there is warmth …

In childhood, we go through this phase from 15-16 to 20-21 years. We stop fighting family. We become free. We know we are loved. We feel our spiritual and physical transformation, the final separation from the family. We understand that we can be free in our choice and responsibility. We taste the sweet taste of victory! A powerful burst of energy, euphoria. Increased flow of adrenaline and endorphins. We are free in everything. But not quite yet - at arm's length with us are parental behaviors that we often copy. We are already ceasing to fight with our fathers and are starting to look for ways of peaceful coexistence. We are, as it were, on our mother's chest … but we can freely swing our arms and legs in the air.

But later, at 33, we will already deal with those scenarios that turned out to be unsuitable for our personal history. But I'll talk about this in another article …

Once upon a time I underwent the training of "rebirth". I'll talk about this and how to heal your bad matrices shortly. In the meantime, I will share a poem that I wrote after my "second birth"

The path of man

(Dedicated to the birth of all babies)

Do not shackle, fetters, do not press, Do not ruin a tortured soul.

Otherwise my despair will have to be experienced.

Yes, you can see I suffer for a long time in exile, Until the second breath opens

And I do not know my rebirth.

And on earth there is sunset and night and darkness.

But the gaze, strengthened in agony, sees a good sign.

Gloom ushered in an unprecedented dawn.

To stay or to ascend to the bloody cross -

For me, for the man, there was a right, And the power that will destroy me is not in the world.

Flattened, squeezed and pinched.

Oh Lord, this is still the beginning

But since I'm here, it means I'm ready.

I walk, crawl, even if I can barely live, Having discerned a strip of light in the darkness, I am all movement, and there are no words left in my mind.

The exit is getting closer, thank God

The thorny road is hard -

I'll just break the chains, chained up again, But I am immortal, I firmly understand:

Great many lives I have.

Hardly dying, I will rise again.

The last dash is an explosion of radiance.

The groans have died down, silence reigns.

And my heart beats the victory march.

I am a Man, and a long road of suffering -

Just a brief moment of filial recognition.

I get up and happy. It's dawn on the native land.

(According to Stanislav Grof, the experiences and experiences gained at birth are the strongest and we will never be able to survive more than this in life: no existential happiness, no horror, no suffering, no struggle for a life of such strength)

Change birth matrices - change your whole life … Is it possible?

To begin with, the skeptics have nothing to do here. If you are looking for an excuse to shirk responsibility for your life and keep your fate and your behavior unchanged, then you will not at all like what I will write.

Therefore - continue to believe in fate, to scold everyone and everything. And if you did not read thoughtfully what I described above, but just go over the first lines, then this can only mean one thing - you are hooked, but you have no mental, intellectual strength to do something about it. And it may not even be useful for you to read about how you can change your destiny, since it is too early to tear off the mask from the true, strong personality, which you are at heart. Perhaps you still need to be in "denial", and not me, but your soul - to decide which way to go. But when you mature, it will be one of the most victorious experiences in your life - to get out of the matrix and understand that you are really free.

The steps below are helpful if you have read Groff's description of perinatal matrices carefully. And for those people who are already on the edge, how they want to change the usual mouse running in the wheel of samsara, and go free.

And so, you already know how your birth took place. And you already definitely understand in which birth matrix you are stuck. What to do next?

Here is my suggested scheme for getting out of stuck in the matrix:

You admit that you can't live like this anymore.

You find the strength to believe that it is possible to change everything.

You are deeply examining your birth.

You recreate a healthy birth pattern, fill up your missing link.

You practice it.

You systematically introduce new healthy birth habits into your behavior.

You arrange yourself a New Birthday party.

Step 1. Ask yourself questions? How does it bother you that you, for example, are an eternal victim (2 matrix)? How does it bother you that you are fighting with everyone and losing real friends, family and job? How does it bother you that you do not have the strength to move towards your goal, and you missed all the best opportunities in life? How much are you willing to change? What is your benefit if you leave everything as it is and do not change your behavior?

For example, You revel in (actually false) power when you brawl, fight, rebel, fight, criticize.

You are a victim and they pity you, take care of you, pay attention to you.

You sit for a long time in the 2nd matrix of suffering, endure your torment, and everyone considers you a saint… etc.

Well, they are all really illusory, not only the second. Since our benefits and behavior were formed when we were still toddlers, there is no logic here. Logical thinking is formed by the age of 7. And these behaviors are acquired from the moment of birth and during the preschool period. And our children's models cannot include such an understanding of how best to be successful, to be healthy, and to have a healthy environment that will love you just like that, simply because it knows how to love, knows how to love the successful. These models cannot include the understanding that beats does not mean loves. And as in childhood, the kid can count, since he knows how to fight, now everyone will love and respect him. But if you ask him if there is someone stronger than him, he will answer "NO", although we understand that starting with his parents and continuing with adults and those who are a little older - the world is full of those who are stronger than him! And to consider his victory in a fight as a complete victory over the whole world and his whole life is a very limited illogical belief. If the world were completely controlled only by fighters, then we would not talk with you now. This means that not everyone is ruled by rebellion, struggle and cruelty. Yes, they are present and have done a lot of things, but … There are also other models of behavior in this world that keep the peace!

Why do you want to change your behavior? What are you willing to do for this? What are the losses? For example - to spend your time, change some of your values, and perhaps part with some people in your life …

In general, if you saw a clear parallel between your birth and your behavior now, and wanted to really change some moments, then figure out how important it is for you …

Step 2. Let's see what humanity has today? Many thousands of years of spiritual practices, coupled with amazing abilities - fasting, walking on coals, being in the cold without clothes, and more. And if you don’t believe in levitation (and I don’t see it myself, I don’t believe it), then I believe in these cases, since I myself have gone through something similar. And these and other practices have led people to tremendous personality changes. Even as an example, I'll tell you that an analysis was carried out of famous writers (for example, one of them, Dostoevsky), who, as a result of the creation of their works, underwent a spiritual transformation - and changed noticeably for the people around them. There are different ways to work on yourself. There would be no point in Grof's discovery of these matrices if you could only sit on the stove and cry bitterly about your unhappy birth while the best years of your life pass.

There are several directions in psychology that give us new reins of control over ourselves, on which I rely.

Transpersonal is the one that studies what I am writing about (altered state of consciousness, religious experience, everything that goes beyond traditional experiences, a person as a cosmic being and perinatal birth matrices as well).

Integrative offers to perceive a person, not as a separate carrier of the body and brain with its functions, but as a microx in the macrocosm. A person, his inner world, as an active direct part of the whole living universe, as a cell in our body, and we in the universe. Everything is interconnected, influencing ourselves - we influence the entire universe.

Existential - she studies such problems as life, death, loneliness, love, the meaning of existence, choice, freedom, responsibility. Existential psychology considers each experience to be unique. And also existential psychology believes that a mature, whole person is able to respond to stress and ups and downs of fate in a healthy way, and an immature person is unable to adequately and optimally behave in various life moments.

And … the behavioral therapy I love. It is based on the well-known, I hope you reader, the discoveries of Pavlov and Bekhterev - about conditioned and unconditioned reflexes. Which has already been proven many, many times. In the modern interpretation - the brain of an adult - we teach !!! Any behavior can be changed. Well, of course voluntarily))) One has only to stop reinforcing old habits and develop new habits in their behavior.

There is also the Theory of personality self-development in psychology. What does it suggest? Personality striving for the Highest. What does a person have:

Becoming is something already formed in it and there is a potential for change, Formation - there is an ideal image (Higher), clearly formulated, And transformation is self-development, cardinal overcoming of the established way of life in accordance with the system of values (existing or new) and meanings of being (existing or appearing in the process of being itself).

The latter developed more in Russia, but now foreign psychologists are paying close attention to it. It is strengthened by such worldwide practical methods of work as trainings, coaching, the essence of these - in the independent change of personality itself. Any professional trainer and coach will always emphasize that he provides tools with responsibility for the subsequent work on himself.

Did I manage to convince you at least a little of the possibility of changing your matrices? Well, then - it's up to you.

Step 3. How to collect your birth story?

Talk to your mom, ask everything in detail by stage.

Analyze your behavior in the situations described above (in situations similar to birth matrices - you are a victim or a revolutionary, have you ever attempted suicide, etc.). There is also such an assumption that twins, being born into the world, are also injured by the 3rd, 4th matrix. The first born carries a feeling of guilt for being the first, and the second is born with a grudge against the whole world, and becomes chronically offended. If a child was born with the buttocks forward, then it seems to him that he is not like everyone else, and even more “wrong”. Logical analysis is possible.

Use the methods of psychology with specialists - hypnosis, NLP, psychodrama, meditation, visualization to the music characteristic of each stage - to immerse yourself in subconscious memories and experience your primary feelings, to see the pictures of your birth.

Group Therapy "Living Rebirth" - where the exit is, there is the entrance. This method is suitable for both healing and research. How I was born - I understood at a similar training. We crawled in the same way, we also sat in the womb, everything is like in life. Men the size of the Hulk - lay in the birth canal and did not move if they were pulled out at birth. That is, the whole scheme was repeated. And, in fact, our coach then said that this is what happens - in this training everything is repeated. And after training and researching your birth, healing begins. And how - I'll tell you below …

Drawing, fairy tale therapy - like a method (art therapy), but you can do it yourself - draw or write the story of your birth using the method of free drawing or free writing, or better, both. It is better to draw with the left hand. For credibility. And then, having looked at these works, you can understand something.

So, about my uncle … When his sister, that is, my mother, a psychologist, talked to him about how he was born and how it affects his life, he to some extent immediately changed his behavior. He began to consciously react differently. it was enough for him at some stage to discuss the story of his birth in the light of how it affects his life.

Step 4. Here I think everything is clear. You study closely how a healthy birth is going. You understand how adults behave when they are born correctly. I have already described this in previous articles. Consider your life situations and think about how someone who was not stuck in the basic perinatal matrix 3 would act in them, for example, like you … Observe such people, look in your environment or start filling this environment with such people. Let's say you are a revolutionary, and next to you is a person who always decides everything diplomatically, peacefully. Previously, you were pissed off by such people, but now take a closer look at their behavior.

What is losing on a dry born? I told the children the legend about the tree. The trunk of a strong non-bending tree will break under the weight of snow or from a strong wind, and the flexible trunk will bend, but not break. And for adults … Well, of course, I think you've already heard about the principle of the sperm? All the gentlemen rush to meet the egg lady. They struggle with the hairs rising in their path, they push and along the way - are exhausted. But one, the most lazy-flexible, bypasses the hairs, prefers not to waste energy fighting competitors. HE saves them. And when everyone approaches HER, he is most full of strength and boldly rushes to her, here there is still a little flexibility and patience … And she opens her heart. Where were his warring competitors left out there? Nobody will ever remember them.

Make a conclusion, were there such situations when, fighting - you lost? And what do you intend to do in the future?

In general, I would recommend prescribing a healthy birth-behavior pattern. Schemes for getting out of those situations where you get stuck. If you are a victim, or your mother has a bubble pierced, then you need to insert into your scheme - ways in which you will open the light for yourself (pierce the bubble) or surround yourself with a powerful support system that will open the bubble for you (light - where to move, where your goal is to motivate you), seeing how you sit in the 2nd matrix and endure … Either how you give them a signal or you yourself will understand that you are too late. What a period of time it is. For example, you sit in the well … (in the 2nd matrix, sorry) for 3 days, no more. And then that's it, basta - if you want - you don't want to, but you leave … Well, in general, if everything is not clear with the correction of the birth scheme - write. Let's try to figure it out together …

An example about a kesarenka boy, as promised:

A 6-year-old boy was engaged in a pre-school preparation group. We conducted training nearby. The child was brought to us with a complaint. He behaves hysterically, at the slightest difficulty falls to the floor, kicks and screams. Very overly attached to his mother for his age. What are the problems of upbringing? OK. Why then did we have to do one exercise with him, his behavior changed completely on the same day?

And so, we played fishermen and fish. The children stood in two rows on the floor, facing each other with crossed arms, squatting. These were Fishermen's Networks. In turn, each had to crawl in this tunnel, being in the role of "fish". When his turn came, he was afraid. And I must say that he is a kesaren. And we supported him, according to the principle of adult training for rebirth. We gave him confidence that he would succeed. He saw, moreover, how other children successfully crawled through the tunnel. And he made up his mind and crawled. We encouraged him, but did not help. He crawled out of the net victoriously.

When his mother came, we told how her son had a little birth experience. Since then, the boy has changed as if by magic. Firstly, on the same day, from a walk, he went into the group on his own to call his classmate, to which his teachers dropped their jaw.

Secondly, from that day on, he stopped falling to the floor, hysteria and kicked, and began to solve his problems. And thirdly, his mother said a couple of days later that he himself went to the store. And he was gone for a very long time. Mom, accustomed to his lack of independence, got scared and ran after him. Peeping out the window, she saw him just standing behind the counter and looking at the people around. Perhaps he was enjoying his victory and freedom? After all, he was not at a loss. She waited for him and then they went home together. Her gratitude and joy knew no bounds. And I would never have believed this story if it had not happened to me.

I also want to tell you about a couple of cases of children born dry. My children were born this way and their behavior corresponded to it. At the age of four, my daughter went for a walk in the yard. After a while, she returned with a new girlfriend. She told how one of the children immediately attacked my daughter, and she gave him back with her fist so that now the whole court respected her. I, in turn, understood that it is important to teach her flexibility (the principle of a flexible tree or the principle of the sperm, I wrote about them. This is akin to psychological aikido - deviation from blows in order to save strength for a decisive blow, if necessary).

I quickly taught both daughter and son this behavior. I remember - my daughter screamed under the balcony window, how she restrained herself and did not hit the girl for being aggressive. Well, I’ll tell you, she didn’t lose her fortitude. She learned to save it. This is very evident in her character in such situations: when some status person starts to say dishonest things to her - oh-oh-oh … swearing with the teachers that … I saw with my own eyes how the director's jaw dropped down for 10 seconds. And then she couldn't say anything else at all. Silently, she gave us the documents. Yes, she did not take my daughter's documents, well, thank God, I think now … And so, healing is possible.

Step 5. When you figured out which matrix you had a deviation from the norm, you understand what you need to work on. I wrote about this in detail. If you are born dry - you need to learn flexibility and love not through struggle, if stuck in the 2nd matrix - get out of the victim, learns to act faster, not tolerate when circumstances squeeze you. If you are a cesarean, you need to gain experience in the struggle, and after reading this material, you understand how the stages of achieving the goal should pass. If you are stuck in 1 matrix, you need to learn to trust, relax, open up to the experience of a good womb in your life and get it. If you are a twin, then either work with guilt or resentment. If the breech presentation, then the vision of the correct exit in childbirth will help and change the attitude towards oneself. That is, to live the correct birth. Exit correctly. What else do we have left? Umbilical cord entanglement. You need to live the experience of overcoming difficulties without connecting in your head with suicidal thoughts. And it is also possible that almost all of us need to fill the void of the 4 matrix - in the correct birth, the mother, the loving person is near and at the same time we can move freely, there is no suffocating pressure.

But now that you have seen the correct pattern, you need to transfer this experience to your life. First, you can again try to experience rebirth and possibly a little new behavior (at least you can organize a 4 matrix of loving and hugging people).

Rebirth training

Various psychotherapeutic methods - art therapy, fairy tale therapy, NLP, hypnosis, psychodrama and others. But be careful. Do not involve the coach in the person - a photocopy of the representatives who organized the bad birth for you. If I spoke about the desire to heal my perinatal matrices and met with misunderstanding, I would immediately run away from such a psychologist. Well, in general, you understand me …

There is such a direction Rebirthing, which examines the features of your birth and offers affirmations that can, if used regularly, affect your subconscious level.

Creation of an identical situation in life

I'll tell you with my example. I took PR training. It turned out to be stuck in the 2nd matrix (ha-ha, it turned out, I knew about this for a long time, of course). In general, I sit and endure for a long time, until they show me where to move, they open the light (they opened the bubble for my mother), and then I fly out like a bullet. This manifested itself in the training as well. I sat until they almost started knocking my head on the floor (in the fetal position, covered with a blanket - like a uterus) … Well, then I crawled like a small and slender girl pushing huge male bodies in the birth canal from people - the muscles of the birth canal.

Although before that, these same 100-kilogram men were stuck in a tunnel of mostly female fragile bodies and lay without moving. They cried out of impotence, not out of happiness. Because we are born the way we were born. But the coach was doing well. She did not get them, as in their infancy. Therefore, with encouragement, they nevertheless came out into the light of day. And I think - they live happily now …

Well, since I am talking about myself … I was given a recommendation - now in life to monitor these situations and their reactions, and "to be born" earlier - not to sit "in the womb" !!! Since then I started trying. I remember that day when I was sitting on the bus and a drunk began to pester me. Before, I immediately became paralyzed and could not stop this behavior for a long time. But then the Fury woke up in me! I realized that I can, that I am strong, in contrast to the expectation of helplessness from myself earlier. And I was indignant and put the bully in his place. I was very proud of myself. This was new behavior. A new tremendous experience of my healed consciousness. Of course, in the beginning, I built boundaries and "could not stand it for a long time" clumsily, sharply, aggressively, but I learned this and still sometimes learn to do everything more calmly and calmly. Although everyone later admired me that I am very correct and know how to build boundaries, but they did not know how I came to this … And besides this situation, in many moments of life, for 15 years now, I immediately try to ask myself - have I been too late Am I a victim? Is it time for me to be born? And even if it seems to me that maybe it's not time yet? I still try to quickly find the light and fly out of the situation pushing me towards birth. It won't come from within. I controlled it deliberately. But … Later, when you move on to the next step …

6 step. I have already talked about Pavlov's theory. Any habit can be formed in 21 days. And if you start monitoring your behavior, in accordance with BPM (matrices), each time you act in a new way consciously, although your body would ask you to do it differently. For example, don't hit or yell when you get angry. Over the course of 21 days, work tightly with guilt using the state-changing or affirmation techniques I wrote about above (if you are one of the twins).

The bottom line is that everywhere and always you act in a new way, contrary to the established program. It will take effort. This can be scary. It can make you angry. But then, after 21 days, your behavior will take hold, and you will already begin to do the right thing automatically. Perhaps we will have to return to this again. Or after 10 years of correct behavior - you will remember the old, having fallen into some special period of your life. Nothing, you can always continue the healing work. And you will definitely be happier. As well as your environment, which by that time may also change.

And, by the way, how to heal the stuck in the 4th matrix? Surround yourself with kind, loving people who accept you unconditionally. A non-judgmental, accepting NAKED BABY should have a multi-person support circle for every healthy person. And if you were born without getting stuck in the 4th matrix, then you probably have it …

7 step. When I was born a couple of times anew, at trainings - I always arranged for myself a birthday later at home! And this practice is not accidental. Previously, in one of the Indian tribes, it seems, when the boys returned home, having passed the initiation, their parents gathered the whole village for a holiday. Then, in the minds of both the hero and his family and all the people around him, something clicked and the realization came that a new stage in life had begun - the person was already different! They treated him differently, supporting his new behavior. Do you understand what I mean? You need this click. And your environment, I would say. Gather those who will be able to understand this, and celebrate, at least that you mark and proclaim some changes in yourself. For example - flexibility, determination or something else that is important to you. Tell everyone that this is like your second birth, if you don’t want to explain, don’t explain. After all, the boys did not explain either: what the nagual taught them …