Danger Of Leaving Your Comfort Zone And Is It Worth Leaving It

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

First, let's figure out what a comfort zone is. This is not only a beautiful fashionable phrase and the presence of hot water in the apartment, it is also a pleasant environment, life in safety, an inner state of stability and peace - more valuable resources that feed the psyche and body. What do you think a person will get if they give up their usual sleep schedule, eating, walking, amount of communication, needs and the like? That's right, an extra "headache", and for some time (most likely a long time) he will make colossal efforts to form a new base - a foundation that will provide a basis for the implementation of more complex tasks, instead of being engaged in the implementation itself !

A 30-year-old man, who has not achieved anything in life, comes home, after a powerful pumping in personal growth training. She looks at her rented room in a communal apartment, at her meager shabby wardrobe, her modest food and thinks: “That's enough! I start a new life - I leave the comfort zone, I act! " He takes his stash, goes to a restaurant, orders whatever he wants - he feels different, but how did he get out of his comfort zone - he used to live on this amount for a week, now it disappeared in an hour! Further, as he was taught at the training, he must get rid of the "poverty syndrome", that is, behave like a rich man and not deny himself anything. He enters an expensive store, buys a new suit and shirt for credit money from a card, which he does not think about paying off the loan, because rich people do not think (as it seems to him) about such trifles. In the fitting room, he exchanges his worn-out clothes for a new suit. Walking down the street as a millionaire is so wonderful to go beyond and leave your comfort zone. The sun is shining on him, the girls are smiling, life is wonderful! You can now safely get acquainted with any girl, because he has huge plans for the development of his business, and he has something to share with his interlocutor and he radiates vibes of success. However, literally a week later, he notices that his cool plans for the development of his own business are collapsing, as the loan is running out, he will soon pay for the room and there is nothing else in the fridge except fried potatoes. All his thoughts switch to these banal questions, now he is not up to grandiose plans, not up to girls and not up to external ostentatious gloss.

After another couple of weeks, he is asked to move out of the rented room, on the used website. of things, he, with grief in half, sells his new suit at half price and extinguishes the loan a little. A friend helps him with a folding bed in the kitchen and allows the poor fellow to turn over for several days. And here one night lies a newly-minted pumped-up "millionaire", he has not slept for a long time, and thinks: "How abruptly I changed my life, no comfort zone and nowhere!

I do not sleep, I am starving, I wear the same old clothes, they will soon be trampled from work with such a mood, the roof over my head is temporary - but that's why my soul suffers, why my head does not think how to go and what paths to my promising goal, which I am so saw clearly at the training? " The answer is simple, when a person does not satisfy his elementary needs, he will not advance higher (according to the famous Maslow pyramid), in confirmation of the words of the creator of this picture: “A person can neither satisfy, nor even himself - think, experience - needs of a higher level, while he needs more primitive things. " Wouldn't it have been better, being in your comfort zone, to draw up a plan of action, give yourself time for self-education, getting a new profession, learning a language, etc.? Let it take years, it's not scary, but there is a solid foundation so that the lower level of needs does not bother with reminders of itself. However, now it has become fashionable to receive everything quickly, a lot and at once.

I can share my experiments on getting out of my comfort zone, however, none of them was successful, although, in truth, I got a tremendous experience in realizing myself and what is mine and what is not, and, being a fan of Buddhism, in There was a karmic trace in these studies, but that's a completely different story. So, one day I decided to drastically change my life and fly away to live in Los Angeles! The decision was made quickly, finally and irrevocably. By the way, when the tickets were bought, and I was waiting for the departure date, my soul languished with grief and pain. Then I thought that this was an elementary fear of the unknown, and I encouraged myself that I was resourceful - I would not be lost, especially in my life such adventures with moving to other countries and cities had happened not for the first time!

In general, without going into details, when I moved, the first thing I felt was a colossal amount of energy aimed at understanding how everything works here (many things are not like ours), it was difficult for me to navigate on the street, to walk there in general not accepted (only on cars), a language barrier was added to this and so on. Fortunately, I did not think about housing and food, I had a relationship and I was not driving to an empty place, but even in such hothouse conditions with a strong base layer of Maslow's pyramid, I could start thinking about self-realization only two months later. When my idea related to work - organizing events and conducting psychological, intellectual games - was realized, after some time, I realized that this was more a compulsory measure, and not a dream of my whole life. After this discovery, proofs of my innocence rained down on me, the sand castle began to crumble forcibly. The relationship went wrong, competitors began to "run into" my business, such a void formed inside me that even walks along the ocean coast could not fill, which previously had a therapeutic effect on me. I could no longer grab hold of any other ideas or work, I did not want absolutely nothing, except for one thing - to return home. Although, so that you understand, before leaving for America, I destroyed my comfort zone and burned all the bridges so much that I had no housing, no things, nothing in my homeland! And so, when I decided to return, I had a month left before the departure date, I didn't do anything, I just lived through the money I earned earlier, and crossed it out every day, almost on the calendar. I remember how, lying in front of the pool in a beautiful place under the soft gentle sun, I looked at the clear sky and wondered why my soul suffers, what does not suit it? I tried to remember every second of this beautiful day and caught every thought that bothers me. From within the subconscious, in contrast to the external harmonious and beautiful world, the same question escaped: “What am I doing here? This is not my life and not my place! " This question had been quietly whispered to me before, literally a week after my arrival, but I dismissed it, referring to leaving my comfort zone. Several years later, I can say with confidence that sometimes we confuse our own goals and paths with the desires of millions of people. Many would like to be in my place and get a chance to get to fabulous Los Angeles, to conquer Hollywood, however, everyone would feel something of their own, exclusively personal.

Let's summarize. If you have already decided to leave your comfort zone, then:

- do not destroy everything to the ground, leave at least the first floor of basic needs;

- it is important to clearly realize for the sake of what you are starting a new path, for what purpose and to what extent this goal is yours;

- honestly admit to yourself whether not only the goal itself, but also the path of movement towards it, will make you happy;

- you need to take care of having a plan "B" in case everything does not go as you would like;

- be prepared for losses and sacrifices, psychological trauma, disappointment and pain;

- take full responsibility only on oneself, and not shift it onto a coach-trainer or aunt Lida, who did it all well once;

- not to compare yourself with anyone else, you will have exclusively your own path, perhaps easier, perhaps more difficult;

- in case of unfulfilled plans and tasks, calmly be able to accept everything that happened as a school of life and new experience;

- Praise yourself for your successes and not blame yourself for your failures.

And remember that change within us is inevitable, whether we leave our comfort zone or stay in it. The main thing is that everyone has only one goal and only one path - the WAY TO YOURSELF! You should not succumb to cloning of an outwardly successful illusory life - ANOTHER LIFE, and developing awareness and purity of perception, you should find your own uniqueness and your destiny.