Gaslighting Or Violent Communication

Video: Gaslighting Or Violent Communication

Video: Gaslighting Or Violent Communication
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Gaslighting Or Violent Communication
Gaslighting Or Violent Communication
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Gaslighting is one of the forms of psychological violence, which consists in denying the facts that have occurred, forcing to question the adequacy of the perception of the surrounding reality. In other words, these are psychological manipulations designed to present a person as abnormal (“defective”).

Gaslighting can occur in different areas of life: in a family, in a team (at work, school, university) and include one person or a group of people who use this communication strategy, as well as the second person - the victim. It can be conscious or unconscious and is carried out in secret so that the resulting emotional abuse is not overt.

A person using gaslighting is characterized by the following actions:

- Makes his victim question his memory.

- Forces to think about their emotional stability and adequacy. And also constantly emphasizes the inadequacy of perception, referring to the emotional state and possible mental illness ("Listen, something strange has happened with you lately, your grandfather started it all the same way", "This is not fatigue, but again your depression begins ").

- Presenting the victim as a stupid person with reduced intelligence.

- Emphasizes perceived age, gender and physiological incompetence.

- Denies feelings, emotions (“Look, it seems to you that you are in a bad mood, but it’s not so”) and facts (“What’s wrong with you, I never said that”) that are important for a person.

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