Bad Habits Of Good Children

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

This article describes the most common children's habits and their causes

Boasting very common among children. In schools, kindergartens, on playgrounds, you can observe children who stand out among others by showing off toys, clothes, gadgets, travel … (the list can be supplemented at will). Parents do not attach much importance to this. “Well, what’s wrong, you think? The child will brag and stop. " Perhaps it is. Another thing will appear that you also want to brag about. What is the reason for this behavior? The child has a desire to give himself significance in the eyes of others, not at the expense of any of his personality traits or talents, but at the expense of things that can be "touched and touched." This is because the child's self-esteem and self-esteem is undermined.

Biting nails in a child it is due to the fact that he has a prohibition on the expression of feelings and the child tries to cope with this habit with this habit. For example, in a family where parents say: “You mustn't be angry!”, “You mustn't express anger,” “It’s embarrassing to be sexy,” this habit is more noticeable than in a family where feelings are accepted by the parents and it is easy for the child to express them.

Sweet habit in children it is exacerbated in those moments when they do not feel loved, when children do not have enough attention. Their unsatisfied need for affection begins to "seize" sweet in large quantities. Of course, all children eat (and love!) Sweets - chocolates, marmalade, sweets … But there is a big difference between "absorption" in large quantities and moderate consumption.

Stuttering. Yes Yes. It can also be viewed as a habit, the cause of which is the child's feeling of insecurity on the part of the parents. And not only this. Very caring parents can impose their desires on the child, which he cannot distinguish from his desires and needs. Or the child faced very strong disappointment in his life, after which he began to stutter.

The habit of urinating in bed characterized by the fact that in the child's life there is a situation that grieves and frightens him, and at the same time there is a suppression of feelings associated with the same situation. It's scary to express fear. The symptom itself is a way to get rid of this fear, a cry for help, with which the child calls on the parents to pay attention to him.

Constant urge to urinate associated with the fact that it is difficult for a child to adapt to changes in his life. Stressful factors in his life can be a new kindergarten, school, moving, parental divorce and other situations. All this provokes anxiety and fear. And if it is difficult for a child to express his feelings, to show emotions, the situation is aggravated.

Loquacity. When a child begins to pronounce his first words, this causes delight for the parents, they are waiting for this, but then, when the child grows and his vocabulary is enriched and increases every day, it starts to weigh on them. In some cases, talkativeness can develop into a habit. With this habit, the child tries to attract the attention of significant people and gain control over a situation in which he feels insecure. Sometimes this can be a way of avoiding any unpleasant feelings that are "chatting up".

Outbursts of anger can also become an unwanted habit. This is due to the fact that the child is constantly faced with disappointment in life. There can be many reasons for such disappointment: this is a comparison of the child with other children, and an unfulfilled promise, and certain expectations from the child that the child does not live up to, and the appearance of a brother or sister … And in order to somehow cope with this, he begins to feel the desire to demonstrate his power to get the better of a situation that disappointed him.

As paradoxical as it may sound, but habit of interrupting associated with the child's inner insecurity. Also, the child may feel dislike for the one he interrupted and an attempt to control the situation. More often, this habit manifests itself with close people and is aimed at that family member for whom the child has negative feelings.

The habit of picking your nose, which is very common among children, also has its reasons. Perhaps the child has encountered (or often faces) such and such a negative attitude towards him (this may be the attitude of parents, relatives, peers, friends, other authoritative people) and the desire to get rid of this attitude.

Problems with bowel movements - this is the desire to control any situation that occurs in the life of a child, but in front of which he is powerless. The child can feel anger towards the parents and thus express it, resist the parents. It may also be due to his distrust of the world or such a peculiar way of getting rid of his fears.

Sniffing or sniffing in children, it is associated with restraining such emotions as sadness, sadness, melancholy. The child does not allow himself to cry, holds back tears, since in his family there is a prohibition on the expression of these feelings and the manifestation of such behavior. As a result, the problem associated with the situation of sadness is held in itself and manifests itself in the form of this particular habit. Sometimes this can be due to the child's avoidance of communication with other children.

Habit to whimper / whine / whine Is the way a child expresses his need for love and help from significant people. Children of “always busy” parents are more likely to develop this habit than parents who, despite work and household chores, devote at least 15-20 minutes of quality time to their children.

Chewing and sucking in children, it can become a habit when the child begins to return to his experiences and "digest" again and again some unpleasant situation that has happened in his life in order to relieve tension, fear and calm down. This situation can be from the category when the child is overwhelmed with emotions, and in order to cope with it, begins to divide it into parts, and chew or dissolve each of them.

Hair pulling associated with a sense of guilt and shame for the situations in the child's life. The feeling of guilt is a difficult feeling, therefore the energy from not expressing this feeling is directed towards oneself and manifests itself precisely in this habit. It can also be associated with the fear of being ridiculed when expressing their thoughts and feelings, as well as with the constant submission of the will of others (parents).

Skin gouging and self-harm are associated with self-dissatisfaction, self-doubt, as well as the desire to take control of any situation (that is, to feel it), emotional stress and unexpressed emotions such as shame, guilt, anger, anger. These emotions are directed by the child to himself in the form of such a habit.

It is impossible not to note such a bad habit of children and adolescents as smoking … It is associated with the desire to feel like an adult, an attempt to achieve their own balance and fear of contact with the real world. It is for these reasons that attempts to become addicted to this bad habit occur in adolescence.