2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Sexuality is a subtle and double-edged topic in our lives.
Now there is enough: frank conversations on talk shows and sexual obscenities from children on the street and pornographic advertising of everything in the world, where a woman appears only as a thirsty bacchante and a sex machine.
But even such sexual permissiveness did not solve a single internal problem of a person, on the contrary, it only exacerbated it. Because men have a distorted idea of a woman, while a woman has a distorted view of a man. Each of us measures ourselves through a social template about femininity and masculinity. And this only further opens the funnel of suffering, and the number of sexual violence is growing every year.
The stronger in our life there are patterns “as it should, as it is customary, as fashionable”, the more we are separated from ourselves and our soul. It comes to the point that many exclude their individuality, considering it not correct, but it is true “to be like everyone else,” the same with everyone. This inhibits the personal growth of a person and his maturation of the soul. The tasks for which he lives remain unfulfilled, and the potential is not revealed.
Sexual energy is taboo in many family systems through shame and disgrace. And since no one is looking for a solution to these feelings, the prohibition only intensifies. Frequent change of partners, breakdown of contact in a relationship, eternal dissatisfaction and claims to a partner, the expectation of him that he will replace parents or give what parents did not give, suffering for "ideal sexuality" or "ideal sex life", suggests that that the inner state of the victim of a person captures more and more. The victimization of the personality is in full swing - the victim's thinking, the victim's feelings, the victim's worldview, in the end, the victim's life. The life of a person without boundaries and self-esteem, who allows himself to be used and manipulated, both soul and body.
What steps are necessary to get in touch with your sexuality, to come into agreement with it, because it is individual. And there is no sexuality that is the same or similar, as well as sexual energies. Life develops and becomes more complex through diversity.
Step 1. Go through the fear of examining yourself.
Step 2. Go through the fear of knowing your sexuality, how it was formed and how it affected your destiny
Step 3. Go through the fear of being disappointed in yourself
As long as you convince yourself that you have to become someone in order to be considered sexy or feminine, you lose the chance to become yourself.
No matter how paradoxical it may sound, agreeing with your sexual energy, that is, giving up trying to become who you are NOT and rejecting your individual femininity and masculinity, has a beneficial effect on our maturity and old age. Looking youthful and being active at 60, 70, 80 years old is real, as many experts will confirm.
Sexuality is intertwined with vital, vital energy, and when everything that you fill you with is included, interacts and does not cause rejection - you are in power, in the flow, in accordance with the more from which you came and what shaped you.
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