2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
For 12 years of private and clinical practice, many people came to me who lived in masks, did not understand much about themselves and their desires. The social or psychological mask "I please everyone", "I am worse than others", these are the ones I have already told about, but there are actually more of them, have long become part of their personality.
In their head, there was still a “mother’s voice” constantly tugging at them, and their own picture of the world was never rebuilt. They continued to see themselves through "mother's eyes" - unintelligent, slow, dishonoring everyone, but no one would love this. All this triggered suffering that really broke the fate of a person and happiness in relationships, including with oneself.
The fear of being disappointed in oneself, touching one's pain, learning a certain truth about oneself was so powerful that a person forever hid behind a mask, forgot about himself, his needs, subordinated his life to other people's desires and eternal comparisons of himself with others, in which he always lost and was the worst.
Proceeding from the mask, I built relationships with relatives and friends, which more resembled a swing than gave a resource and strength, made the wrong decisions, made mistakes, because I acted not from my true self, but from my fake one.
Total control of your thoughts, feelings, actions - do everything according to the template, as they say, as it is customary to be like everyone else. As a result - complete lack of knowledge of oneself, ignorance of one's true desires, who I am and what I am for.
But in fact, there was nothing IRREVERSIBLE!
The solution was always there!
They just had to take advantage!
Step 1. Find out what masks you live in and why you need them in general
Step 2. Understand what kind of injury you hide under your masks
Step 3. Bring to the level of awareness toxic beliefs and patterns, fears that stop you
Step 4. Understand what part of your personality is hidden under the mask and get to know it
Step 5. Outline an algorithm of actions that leads to healing and meeting with oneself
Masks in our lives. How does comparing with others trigger suffering in us, and can we do something about it?
Comparison with others plays a big role in our life.
It affects our decisions and choices, our condition and well-being, our life and relationships.
By comparing ourselves to others, we trigger a kind of suffering:
- I am not doing anything useful
- I don't deserve this and that
- I was just lucky, but in fact I am nothing of myself
- I am not worthy of what I have now
- I always do not live up to the expectations of others
- I can't make anyone happy
- I am worse than others and am not capable of anything
Does it make sense to carry this suffering within yourself for years? It often arises from a lack of knowledge about oneself and the trauma that the mask hides. We live in control of ourselves for years, and therefore do not notice how we compare ourselves every second, more and more moving away from ourselves, real, true, unique.
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