2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
We live, which means we have our own tasks. And for the implementation of these tasks, strong qualities have been formed, which many suppress and exclude in themselves, respectively, they do not live their own lives, but the stereotyped "it is necessary, so it is accepted."
Why choose “must” and “must” instead of “want” and “my way”?
The biggest mistake that we are taught from childhood is to compare ourselves with everyone in a row. But this is what our parents did, it was easier for them. They compared us with a neighbor's girl, were upset that we were fuller, more awkward, shamed us and with a sense of fulfilled parental duty went on. And we now live with their words.
In theory, as we grow up, we increasingly devalue parental opinion about ourselves and value our own about ourselves.
And what if the little person was put on a mask “you are always the worst of everyone and don’t try to be better” and the little one believed it?
Then with age, this mask becomes part of the personality and it is really difficult for a person to distinguish where he is and where is someone else's. Comparing oneself to others becomes a strategy of behavior that causes severe suffering and endless depreciation. A person runs the risk of forever losing touch with himself in the present.
How the mask "I am worse than others" manifests itself in life:
- A person does a lot in his life and chooses what he does not want, but others say, because they know better, they know better
- He always keeps silent about his opinion, is afraid to say it, because others are smarter and know everything better
- Straz to disgrace, because others are better, more talented
- Total control of yourself, your thoughts and feelings, just not to blurt out something, stand out, not become even worse
- The eternal desire to “be no worse than others” in appearance, in relationships, sex, work, leisure, etc.
- Every minute comparing yourself with others and living in constant anxiety that "again did not hold out"
- a lot of guilt that others are more ideal, more successful, better, but I could not
If you already understand that the mask totally dominates you and your life, determining its quality and content, it's time to recognize it and start getting to know yourself in the present.
- How real? What if I'm worse than others again?
Isn't it a vicious circle? It's hard to see and recognize your masks alone. But here the motivation can be like this. If you really want to start doing something for yourself - speak, act, desire. Finally, to see how many interesting things are inside you and start unpacking it, you will have to learn to compare yourself only with yourself, and not with others.
Masks in our lives. How to free yourself from the fear that I am worse and others are better
We live, which means we have our own tasks. And for the implementation of these tasks, strong qualities have been formed, which many suppress and exclude in themselves, accordingly, they do not live their own lives, but the stereotyped "it is necessary, it is so accepted."
Why choose “must” and “must” instead of “want” and “my way”?
The biggest mistake that we are taught from childhood is to compare ourselves with everyone in a row. But this is what our parents did, it was easier for them. They compared us with a neighbor's girl, were upset that we were fuller, more awkward, shamed us and with a sense of fulfilled parental duty went on. And we now live with their words.
In theory, as we grow up, we increasingly devalue parental opinion about ourselves and value our own about ourselves.
And what if the little person was put on a mask “you are always the worst and don’t try to be better” and the little one believed it?
Then with age, this mask becomes part of the personality and it is really difficult for a person to distinguish where he is and where is someone else's. Comparing oneself to others becomes a strategy of behavior that causes severe suffering and endless depreciation. A person runs the risk of permanently losing touch with himself in the present.
How the mask "I am worse than others" manifests itself in life:
- A person does a lot in his life and chooses what he does not want, but others say, because they know better, they know better
- He always keeps silent about his opinion, is afraid to say it, because others are smarter and know everything better
- Straz to disgrace, because others are better, more talented
- Total control of yourself, your thoughts and feelings, just not to blurt out something, stand out, not become even worse
- The eternal desire to “be no worse than others” in appearance, in relationships, sex, work, leisure, etc.
- Every minute comparing yourself with others and living in constant anxiety that "again did not hold out"
- a lot of guilt that others are more ideal, more successful, better, but I could not
If you already understand that the mask totally dominates you and your life, determining its quality and content, it's time to recognize it and start getting to know yourself in the present.
- How real? What if I'm worse than others again?
Isn't it a vicious circle? It's hard to see and recognize your masks alone. But here the motivation can be like this. If you really want to start doing something for yourself - speak, act, desire. Finally, to see how many interesting things are inside you and start unpacking it, you will have to learn to compare yourself only with yourself, and not with others.
Which of the "I am worse than others" mask shows up in your life?
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