2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Modern realities are such that teenagers spend a lot of time online. Internet communication of teenagers complements communication in real life, often teenagers not only actively get to know each other, play online, but also watch videos of people they are interested in, participate in gaming publics. Thus, a blogger with whom a teenager is not personally familiar becomes a part of his life. There can be many such online persons, whose work is of interest to a teenager, whom the teenager wants to be like, or experiences other, very different emotions when viewing content. But the impact on the personality of a teenager is different for everyone - the teenager watches someone's videos and streams avidly every day, and someone else's is rare.
When someone dies in real life, the teenager usually has support and support - these are adults and classmates, teachers and relatives. When an online acquaintance dies, there is often no support. Posthumous obituaries and video messages of people from a hangout of interests are present on the Internet, but they often do not replace real communication, it happens that a teenager is left alone with his grief.
The death of a blogger whom a teenager knew only through the Internet can be a personal grief for a teenager. Grief that no one cares about at home or at school. Indeed, often the relatives of a teenager devalue his contacts and communication on the network. In the meantime, the process of grieving a teenager may remain invisible to the parents, and the consequences of not lived feelings may appear later.
It is good if there is an Adult nearby who is attentive to the inner life of a teenager, who does not devalue communication on the Internet.
Burning occurs gradually, stage changes stage. Online loss, just like in real life, is not recognized at first, it seems fake (denial), then there is a stage of trading, aggression and anger, the stage of acceptance. At any stage of mourning, the adolescent gradually releases the deceased. A teenager is not yet an independent Adult, he is emotionally unstable, often the support is not inside, but on the Internet. With the loss of a significant Other, there is a possibility that the grief will not survive, so to speak, "get stuck" at one of the stages of mourning.
The question arises: how to spot a sad event online?
Parents should be interested in what content their child has been interested in since childhood. Does the grown up child have idols in real life and online?
If a son or daughter:
- crying furtively, - lie looking at the ceiling or wall
parents can ask about the life of a teenager, talk about their adolescence.
How can you help your teenager deal with grief?
If a teenager talks about a sad event, it's important to just be there first. As much as the teenager will allow. You can say that it is normal to feel, that all feelings are worth living and not avoiding. That you can cry. If a teenager asks questions about death, talk to him about it - after all, the deceased blogger may seem like an ideal who will never die. Awareness and reflection on the finiteness of being is important for a teenager. Ask the teenager who else is important to him online, who his idols are, who he is interested in, who he wants to be like, whom he imitates.
What shouldn't you do?
- say phrases: Well, you have found why to suffer! Never mind! Do not be upset! Where are they and where are you? There they are all like that on the Internet….… and so on.
- shout and taunt
If contact with a teenager cannot be established, it is worth contacting a psychologist.
Behavior that should alert parents of teenagers:
- loss of interest in life, gloom, lethargy, words about feelings of hopelessness
- changes in appetite
- complaints about poor sleep
- the emerging isolation
- words about guilt, lack of meaning in life, suicidal thoughts
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