2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Working the last few sessions with my clients, I caught myself on a feeling that is probably typical of a grand piano tuner, although I never was. Every time I deal with a new person, or even with a new request from my old client, I experience a whole range of feelings: interest and awe, a desire to help and at the same time not harm, respect and gratitude
Once upon a time, about ten years ago, I told one of my acquaintances about my passionate desire to be a psychologist and received an answer that amazed me: "Why do you need to dig into someone else's dirty linen ?!" For me it was like a bolt from the blue, I never thought, and even now I don’t think that the work of a psychologist is exactly like that.
Of course, on duty, I have to deal with different stories and different experiences, some affect me more, some less, but I do not divide them into black and white. In my opinion, any personal story, whatever it may be, is a part of a person's life and for this reason it is necessary to treat it with respect. Moreover, my personal experience of re-living my own life suggests that every situation in my life has made me the person I am now, and I like this person. I had much less self-acceptance and contact with my own identity when I divided my life into black and white, while trying in every possible way to hide from the latter. I learned to treat my past, my personal history with respect and gratitude. Therefore, working with a client for me is so similar to tuning a very noble and old grand piano, which must be treated with care, respectfully listening to each of its sounds, dusting off with a brush, slowly adjusting the sound of each string, replacing stretched or torn strings with new ones - ideal suitable, debug the movement of the pedals, restore the falling keys, restore damaged areas of the tree …
A real tuner will tell you that there are no identical instruments. And a real psychologist will say that there are no identical people. Everything that happens to an instrument throughout its life leaves a certain imprint on its sound. This is why the sound of a grand piano is so unique, and why the job of a tuner is so difficult - to create the purity and beauty of the sound, while maintaining the uniqueness of the sound of each instrument. This is how I work with each client - I carefully accompany the person who comes to me in search of a unique and lively sound of the strings of his soul.
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