2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
There was a girl with a monster inside.
She did not want to accept him, and so she put him in a deep closet under many locks.
However, the monster sometimes screamed so hard, that the girl was covered with a wave of various negative feelings and others were very uncomfortable with her. And the monster was very upset that false judgments were made about him.
The girl did not even try to find out about him, get to know him.
Hearing the word "monster", she was so scared that in a moment she hid it.
There is no need to blame the girl too much.
From childhood, she was taught that all kinds of monsters are bad, and that if she finds something like that in herself, she must get rid of it. Having a monster practically means you are bad, they will not be friends with you.
And the girl wanted to be friends with others more than anything else.
In general, she lived for so many years.
And when the monster screamed, she behaved in such a way that, probably, it would have been better to show this monster to others.
And then she was covered with such a strong sense of guilt in front of others and shame for herself that she could hardly cope with it.
She scolded herself very mercilessly for how the screams of the monster affected her.
How so?! After all, who is in charge of whom - is she states or states of her?
And then one day a woman advised the girl to go to the sage for help. And so the girl did.
And he asked the girl to release the monster, because he wanted to get to know him. And it turned out that the monster is only so scary in appearance, but in fact the girl needs it in her life.
Thanks to him, the girl:
- stop criticizing himself;
- stop taking the criticism of others to heart;
- will become more confident;
- learns to defend himself in time, and not when patience is already at the limit;
- finally accepts himself not perfect and not perfect, and will love himself.
All this time, the monster desperately broke through to the girl and really wanted to help her. He saw how much she needed. Every time he watched her take literally the criticism of others and consider herself bad, he called out to the girl and shouted so hard for her to hear him. And the girl, rejecting herself, rejected him too.
Now she is trying to make friends with him. This is very difficult, since all her life she strived to be perfect.
Friendship with a monster means leaving all your strength, hopes and aspirations to "be perfect", and also correct yourself for each comment and criticism of others. She tries very hard.
And a lot is already working out. She is now calmer than before.
And all because next to her is her monster.
Each of us has a monster for whom we are ashamed. We were told so. We were taught.
It was instilled in us that we need to be ashamed of our monster and make every effort to get rid of him.
In fact, 50% of us are monsters and 50% are angels. Each fulfills its role and function.
The main thing is to make friends with them and understand their role.
Therefore, pull your monsters out of the closets. Meet them.
Hear what they want, what they are for you. And may they serve you every time you need protection.
By accepting everything that is in us, we are accepting ourselves. If we accept ourselves, then others accept us.
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