Are You Entitled To The Very Best In This Life?

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Often people turn to psychotherapists who have a strong limitation in relation to everything good and beautiful in this world. For example, they do not agree to the most coveted work, not the most coveted partners, they choose not the best equipment, furniture and clothes for themselves (and in principle they perceive all this as handouts from society - "Oooh! Something went wrong for me!"). And even this little that comes to them is perceived as an accident, as if they are unworthy to get the best.

It is always very painful to watch when a person misses opportunities just because there was merciless criticism in his family (This is not for you! Someone will cope there, but not you! So what if someone succeeded - you never it will not work, because you are not interesting and smart enough! You are unworthy of everything and in general, you are an egoist! You are greedy and you want a lot from life! Calm down all your desires, what you have already thought of! What you enjoy in life, there is nothing good!). It is after such an attitude that a ban on everything good in life that we want to receive is formed at a deep level. This feeling arises at the age of 2, when a child begins to explore the world, walk on his own, and perform some actions. Frequent "no", condemnation and criticism from the objects of attachment (mom, dad, grandparents) obscures your pleasure from the process with shame ("I can't do what I want"). You want to break something, break your toys, but you get a response from the world in the form of an angry figure of the object of attachment (hands on your hips and the words "Well, what have you done ?!"). Against this background, people often forget everything they want to receive, just to be pleasing to their family and loved ones, because the love of relatives at an early age is a higher priority need than the satisfaction of desires.

Moreover, at a deep level, we have the deepest conviction "I am not worthy", a small and ugly man appears in our consciousness, who constantly says that we are not worthy of all that we want to receive. And even if life gives you a gift or someone offers something worthy (and you have long wanted to get it), you will most likely refuse, fearing the discrepancy between that inner image and ugliness, as it seems to you, and external beauty, joy, pleasure and success ("This is not for me!").

However, all this can be fixed, but get ready for difficult, long and hard work on yourself. The Apni Self-Esteem training is based on many years of personal therapy, you will be able to work through the basic feelings, emotions, experiences and knowledge about yourself in order to raise the level of self-esteem. You will understand the advantages and disadvantages, find application for your shortcomings, understand exactly what you want from life, and most importantly - at a deep level, get this right to have what you truly want to have, but you cannot take it yet. Many course participants say that they were finally able to change their place of work, someone began to feel themselves, someone learned to put themselves in the first place, began to more boldly declare their desires, and some have already half of their wishes come true!

What can you start working with now?

1. Decide on your desires. Write them down in a special notepad of desires. Sometimes you can add to the list.
2. Close your eyes and imagine that you already have it all.
3. Tell yourself you are worthy (to the point that work through some affirmations). If you are working on your own, write down a few phrases that inspire and inspire you when you say to yourself "I am worthy of this!", "I will have this and this." It is better to write affirmations in the present tense - I already have this, etc.

Allow yourself whatever you want, find it in your soul and without. Let yourself live your life to the fullest!