2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
I will say right away that the answer is simple to the point of banality:
Don't communicate
People who are more or less interested in psychology know that it is impossible to change another person! You can only change your attitude towards him!
It would also be nice to understand how important this particular communication is, is it possible to do without it?
It's like the weather in my beloved Petersburg. I love the city so much that I fell in love with the rain and the long absence of the sun. I see a special mysticism in this.
However, after several fractures due to my fragility of bones, I understand that winter is becoming dangerous here and for several years now I have dreamed of going for the winter in a warm country or at least a warm city.
A sick mother, whose communication with me is also far from healthy, ends with a severe manifestation of psychosomatics - blood pressure rises, post-radiation bleeding begins, etc.
I can't help but communicate with my mother and not visit her, because there is no one else to help her. So I entrusted primary care to a nurse.
I won't be in the house, I definitely won't be here….
This way I do my mother much more benefit than if I collapse completely and can no longer help her financially.
If communication with loved ones is toxic and destructive for you, but you cannot stop it, it is very important to at least minimize such communication!
But this applies only to old or infirm loved ones, in all other cases, it is worthwhile to clearly build boundaries
And if building boundaries threatens to break, perhaps you should not be afraid and break off such relations?
For example, if your spouse is toxic.
If you feel that you are worse off with him or her than alone, get out of this relationship, at least for a while!
It is worth going on vacation or otherwise living apart in order to assess the situation from the outside.
Not to mention the toxic "friends"!
Yes! There are some! For years, a person devalues you, mocks you with harsh sarcasm, and even in front of other people! And you continue to sacredly believe that he does it in a friendly way.
Come to your senses!
It can't be bad with a real friend!
A few words about toxic bosses.
Ask yourself a simple question:
- What is more dear to you - life and health or this work?
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