The Paradoxes Of The Decree. Part Three

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Are you ready ladies? Let's continue!

After the publication of the first and second paradox, I received a lot of feedback and comments, from which I was able to conclude that the topic is interesting. Today I will talk about another, absolutely amazing, paradox. But everything is in order.

As always, I'll start with myself, and tell you a little background that led me to the idea of the third paradox.

While on maternity leave, I started CREATING. This is a completely ordinary thing, many young mothers discover completely unexpected talents in themselves. I personally fell in love with sweet design and for some time became a "candy bowl". In the news feeds of my colleagues and friends who recently gave birth and dug in at home, I saw oil paintings (not a joke), scrub booking, decoupage, makeup, dry and wet felting, embroidery and much more. Someone did it just for fun, someone sold their work and took orders. In general, everyone was doing and doing so and so that it is dear to watch.

Why, I wonder, I thought, such a surge of creative activity among women, who really have no time to sleep? There are several reasons:

1. The birth of children launches the creative processes in a woman, she becomes more receptive to beauty, she, having conceived and given birth to a child, has already performed an act of creation that is stunning in beauty, and now she feels her creative power as never before. Do you know this?
2. A woman who, before the decree, stood in traffic jams, shook in minibuses, spent a lot of time at work, had time to be alone with herself (well, or almost alone), to pay attention to her interests, which can be realized while sitting at home.
3. The mother of the little man also partly "falls into childhood," and nature itself is supposed to create for children. And together with the children, instead of children, mothers begin some kind of artistic work for the children.

In general, a woman-mother connects with her feminine nature, and from somewhere spontaneously emerges a desire to "make something", skills awaken that were mastered in childhood and somehow were not completely forgotten. Hence, drawing, singing lullabies, writing fairy tales, knitting hats …

Now, attention, from this self-woven, self-knitted and self-woven beauty, the third paradox is born. It sounds like this:

Now only creative work suits me

What does this mean? The fact that a woman, having learned to create and thinking about going to work, understands that accounting, for example, is "never a creativity at all" and something needs to be done about it. The woman felt the creative potential in herself, she was even able to somehow start to realize it, and here - this …

Now I will say the phrase with which almost any consultation on a woman's career begins. Every woman says the same word for word: "I need creative work." Well, what can you say, I myself am the same. I also only need creative work.

The problem, in my opinion, is that many women mistakenly believe that creativity is only about “art”. Visual aesthetics only. If you connect these thoughts with going to work, it turns out that a woman wants to quit the profession, which she has given for several years, in which she has experience, knowledge and value, and do what she is an amateur handicraftsman. She doesn’t know how or doesn’t know how to organize her creative business (often she didn’t think about a business plan at all), she wants to find a job for hire, often one that doesn’t exist in nature. If she does find it, she is unpleasantly surprised by the level of income that this job will bring to her … And dreams of creative work are smashed against the harsh reality.

So, where I am leading this story - to several conclusions.

• First, remember that with a radical change in the type of activity, income significantly decreases.
• Second, match your creative intentions with the job market and employers' demands.
• Thirdly, keep in mind that your creative hobbies may well be in your life in the form of a hobby, and there will be no less joy from it.
• And fourthly (and this is the most important thing) - in any work there is a place for creativity. Apply the awakened creativity to your usual work, and you will be amazed at the result.

This concludes my story about the paradoxes of the decree, although, perhaps, I will find some more later and then write about them.

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