9 Commandments Of A Real Man

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

It was not explained to me by my father or the teacher at school. I have never seen the clearly formulated instruction that we men need so badly. And he comprehended these commandments in life through pain and mistakes … psychologist Alexander Shakhov writes

Honestly, I sat down at my laptop and stared at the screen for a long time, trying to remember and formulate what it means to be a man. Suddenly I clearly realized that in my head, as I am sure in the heads of many modern men, among the theorems of Pythagoras hammered into it, formulas of acids, dates of world wars and other general educational and professional knowledge, there is no most basic - a clear definition of what it means to be a man.

Real man: 9 commandments

It was not explained to me by my father or the teacher at school. I have never seen the clearly formulated instruction that we men need so badly. And he comprehended these commandments in life through pain and mistakes. In the pursuit of technical knowledge, our society has lost the most important thing - the definition of ourselves.

Therefore, it is dedicated to our sons, future and present men … I apologize in advance to women for rude wording, because this code is written for men and in the male language.

Commandment # 1: Keep your word

A man is reliability. Reliability is determined by how much you can follow what you stated. In this, the man differs from Conchita Wurst - a bearded woman with a beard and something else, but essentially representing a laughing stock, a parody of a man, a mockery of him.

If you don't keep your word: your woman, your child, your friend and even your enemy, just put on a dress. I'm sure you'll have a lot of fans among those … well, you know yourself. If you made a difficult choice - to be a man, then answer for your words, otherwise anyone has the right to look at you with contempt. Keep your word or die in disgrace.

Commandment # 2: Don't Nurse

“Snot dismissed like a girl! Look, he's whining! " Each of us men went through this lesson in childhood. It was a shame. It is doubly insulting because we were whining for a good reason: we were hurt and scared. But instead of sympathy and help, we received in response - "weakling". This is how we learned that this world will not show pity for you when you are helpless. On the contrary: just show the slack and you will be humiliated, crushed, crushed, destroyed. You can't be weak. You cannot show emotions. You can't cry. Therefore, since the beginning of time, real men have swallowed tears, wiped them with their sleeves, smeared dirt on their faces, clenched their fists, clenched their teeth and stood up. We got up for one more try, one more step to victory. Until it works. And if a boy fell to the ground, then a man rose.

At what point in time did we become boys again? At what point in time did we begin to whine: “I’m tired”, “the government robbed me”? At what point did we ourselves become those who humiliate the weak? After all, when you yell at your woman, humiliate with inattention and betrayal, when you manipulate her feelings, you do not become a man, but turn into a weakling.

You can only lie and whine on the sofa "I can't find a job" to your wife, because she will not kick you, but will console you, show patience until you tear your ass off the sofa and start bringing money to the family, because this is what is called " to be a man”- to bring loot and protect your loved ones, and not drink beer every night and watch football. I'll tell you how we got to this: we stopped communicating in the company of real men. In a society where ruthless honesty reigns, where you will be frankly told: your woman is not happy? Weak! Don't your children see their father? Weak! Can't control your libido and run after women's panties? Weak!

Do not whine that the world is harsh. Win or die. Men face this choice. And if you are still lying on the couch, know that you are already dead. Died like a man. You are already rushing with rotten meat and fermented beer. And I feel sorry for you even "amen."

Commandment number 3: survive in any conditions

If you are a man, then your business is to be able to survive. Surviving means staying afloat on your own and providing a decent life for your family, your loved ones, your “tribe”. To do this, you must constantly develop your skills, prepare, learn new things. This world is far from my mother's hand, as you already understood in childhood. Opponents are just waiting for your mistakes to break you. Run to your mother for mercy. And the male world does not accept excuses and complaints. Of course, you already know something and are able to, since you are still alive. But that's not enough

Commandment # 4: Learn

Do not be a horned animal that arrogantly declares "I already know everything." Learn to make money to be the best hunter and getter. Study psychology because you have to negotiate with people. You can either fight with everyone, making enemies and fearing a stab in the back, or, knowing the psychology and diplomacy - the leaders' weapons, make friends in order to be protected from all sides.

Of course, you have to study the psychology of a woman. They are like dynamite: if you know how to handle it, there will be an advantage; if you don't know, it will tear your brain to shreds. You won't go into setting up explosives if you don’t understand anything about it? Do you think you can handle a woman? She's a walking dynamite! Look at a bunch of drunken men, crazy with love, committing suicide, ruining their lives. There are fewer casualties from dynamite.

In general, we have little choice: either study and become the best, receive prestige, the best cuts of "meat", the best woman and comfort, or remain a smug fool who "knows everything himself."

Commandment # 5: Stinginess is the lot of the weak

The misers are those who are poor in spirit, no matter how many millions they have. No wonder they say that generosity is the lot of the magnanimous, that is, the great, strong in spirit. Only confident men can share. They are sure that even if they give the last 100 rubles, they will be able to get more. Therefore, the strong can donate the last shirt to the one who asks. After all, whoever asks is not sure that he can earn himself, he is weak. The one who gives is strong. Avarice is the lot of cowards. They are not sure of themselves or of their future. They tremble over every penny, fearing that difficult times will come and they will not be able to cope. A stingy man is worthy only of contempt.

Avarice is not only and not so much about money. Avarice is about character. The man who skimps on compliments to his woman, gifts, flowers, women's trinkets, declaring it “economic not profitable,” is simply a weakling. The leader, the leader, always supports and cares for the members of his pack.

Generosity is the lot of gods, kings and heroes. A generous person does not need to demand respect and gain attention - loved ones value him for his breadth of soul and strong character.

Generosity is a victory over oneself. Over their pettiness, fear, selfishness. Only the one who knows how to conquer himself is capable of defeating someone else. Therefore, the generous is already a winner, and the stingy is a pitiful loser.

If you do not have money or fortitude to be generous to your woman, children and loved ones, you are only wasting air, you are useless. Think, work, share - that's the whole simple meaning of male life.

Commandment # 6: You must BE strong, not appear to be strong

Old man, you can let go of your beard and pump up your biceps, you can intimidate women and children, you can wear branded things, but you and I know that this does not make you stronger. You and I know that aggression is a mask behind which you hide your confusion and fear. The strong is calm and confident. The strong do not need to prove to anyone and demonstrate their strength. Wolves don't bark like yard dogs. They are doing their job.

“What is the strength, brother?” Asked Bodrov. And he answered with the words of Suvorov: "In truth." The power is in justice, old man. In the understanding that you live and work hard for the sake of a just cause, for the sake of correct principles that are lost among the pop trash. Being a support for loved ones, creating conditions for a happy life and protecting the world - this is our male profession.

“Who is strong?” - asked the disciple of the sage. “Who conquered himself,” answered the Teacher. When it's easy, a woman will do it. Our profession is to do when it's hard. This is our masculine strength - to do what others cannot. And start by defeating yourself.

Now I’ll say the hardest part is staying kind. Yes, yes, because the pop world of Hollywood says that the strongest is the one who is angrier, more aggressive and impudent. But you and I remember that power is in truth. No matter how evil and arrogant Napoleon, Charlemagne, Hitler and many others were, they all broke their teeth because our grandfathers fought for a just cause: for their women, children, old people, the land.

We cannot lose the victories of our ancestors. Let's preserve, protect and support what they shed their blood for - peace, happiness and tranquility of our loved ones. Don't act like a tough guy. Prove by deeds that you are strong - make your family happy.

Commandment # 7: A man is the one who acts

We are born to act. Men are best suited for this: we have a mind that can objectively analyze a situation and choose the right strategy without emotion, we have a sense of purpose, we have strong hands to do what needs to be done, we have character and will not to give up when first difficulties and confront fear, uncertainty and panic. But all this is useless if you do not act.

Who is inactive? Underpants. A coward is one who is afraid to make a mistake, to suffer, to take responsibility for the consequences. The coward is inactive. He can hide behind excuses: there are no suitable conditions, I will not have enough strength, I do not know how to do it. Create conditions. Find strength. Find out how to do it. And go for it!

There is no excuse for inaction. He who pulls with the decision, shifts it to others, and even more so to the shoulders of a woman, who tears off irritation and anger at his wife and child, instead of looking at the problem in the face and solving it, is a coward.

Do not be offended if you are called who you are - a coward when you are inactive. The sky is blue, the water is wet, you are a coward. It's just a state of affairs. You have earned this "honorary" title and therefore there is nothing wrong if any boy can shout "Coward!" In your face!

In the Code of the officer of the Russian army, there is a clause: "There is nothing worse than indecision." Nothing. No. Worse. Think. But also go for it.

Commandment # 8: Man is Reliable

Old man, you yourself know that the most important thing in a relationship is reliability. What is a friend? Someone you can count on, who is loyal to you. Who is the most despicable of people? Traitor. Do you know that you yourself are a traitor? Yes, yes, it is you who are the most despicable of people when, in quarrels with a woman, you threaten that you will leave if she does not fulfill your conditions. Nothing more disgusting and meaner could be invented.

The essence of a man is reliability. There is strength in it. Women are weak, it is hard for them to trust - they have been deceived many times. When such a fellow appears, who, by his appearance, words and behavior, says: "I am cool, I am reliable," the woman wants to believe that she has finally found the support in life that she has always been looking for. And at this moment you meanly hit in the back: "You will not do this, I will leave." You say that you will leave at any moment. It is cowardly and despicable to first convince a person that you can be trusted, and then betray him. Moreover, those who are weaker.

In a male environment, you wouldn't allow yourself to do that, would you? After all, our conversation is short: said - done. Otherwise, you are…. You know. If you have made the decision to be a woman's support, keep your word, be a man, do not threaten to leave - this is mean. If you don't like it, make a decision and leave honestly.

Some people just look cool, but in reality they are rotten. We know this. Seen in life. So don't be like that. Don't be a traitor. Don't threaten the woman by quitting if you don't like something about your relationship. Solve problems honestly, without threats to quit. Be a man!

Commandment # 9: The Man Is a Breeder

In the Stone Age, a man did not need to be motivated to go hunting. There was only one motivator - hunger. Now the situation has changed: for 45 years I have never heard that someone from my acquaintances died of hunger. Vice versa! Guys are more likely to encounter Winnie the Pooh syndrome - they can hardly crawl through the doorway.

A man must earn money not only because he has a family and the family must live in abundance. He has to earn money to say to himself "I am a man." Because the goat can also boast of paraphernalia. And if it is they who define "masculinity", then the goat seems to have more reason to be considered a "man."

“How can you make money here! They stole everything! Do not let you do business! Taxes, extortions, intrigues, investigations "… Yeah, yeah … Tell this to girls like Masha Solodar or Lilia Nilova. They live in the same world and, by the way, everything is complicated with paraphernalia. But, nevertheless, in spite of their young age and allegedly "gender non-disposition", they can earn a million dollars, while some seals continue to pose in front of televisions.

In general, old man, stop whining. Hunting has always been difficult, which is why men do it. Go and fetch the "mammoth" money so that it will be more than enough for the family. Don't know how to "hunt"? Go learn from the "hunters". And if you don’t study, then don’t fool women’s heads, find the button on the remote control and continue enjoying lonely pleasures. Women want men, not seals.