2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
To strive for an “ideal” rating is:
- to be constantly in over-tension, not an effort to do better, but over-tension;
- constantly fight with yourself, with others, with the world around you;
- not achieve a state of satisfaction or pleasure from the result;
- most of the time to be dissatisfied with themselves, done, others (they do 1000% better);
- be in a depressed or depressed mood;
- to think that a little bit is left to the ideal;
- or to think that it is up to the ideal, like before Neptune, and do nothing;
- live in the illusion of omnipotence, omnipotence and a sense of the infinity of their own resources;
- avoid disappointment, anger, resentment, guilt, pain and other "favorite" feelings while doing so.
So this is an unexpected thought, striking in its novelty No. 1
It will never be ideal. Get angry and offended, continue to prove to yourself, in the end, spend time and energy, health to understand this. It's your right.
Important thought number 2
Strive for a "good enough" rating. And build new neural connections - learn to get at least minimal pleasure from the process, yourself loved in it, the participation of others in it, and, as a result, from the result.
Perhaps it will not be as picturesque - emotionally - painful as you used to feel alive in such a range, but your psyche and body will remain safe and grateful, they will last longer, and you will do, learn, give and take more and better. With minimal damage to your own health, mood, relationships with yourself and the people around you. Or you can even avoid or get rid of insomnia, chronic headaches, depression, anxiety, eating disorders, social anxiety and much more.
Inspirational thought # 3
To a greater extent, to a degree, in time, with some effort and effort, you will be able to change the result.
Trust me.
Take the first small step. Take a look. Do not hurry. Do the second. Take these small steps at your own pace and rhythm. You can.
Valuable thought # 4. Stop punishing yourself for every mistake
No one will punish more than you yourself, although yes, some not indifferent well-wishers can only intensify their own torments. And relax. Their opinion is just an opinion. It is difficult, but still worth trying, it will work out 10001 times.
Multi-sense (cool word) thought number 5
You don't have to prove anything to anyone.
You are already good for what you are.
Because you are unique.
You have the right to make mistakes. You have the right to take breaks. You have the right to sometimes do something carelessly or not at all. You have the right to get tired. You can ask for help. An imperfect result also has a right to exist. You always have the right to change your mind.
Be a kind, considerate, caring, supportive adult to yourself. If it is difficult, do not know, do not understand how, seek help from a specialist psychologist.
Is there such an attitude in your picture of life? Where did it come from? How do you live with her? Do you also want to live on? How about the idea of doing "good enough"?
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