2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
I don’t … How to finish things and start living?
Are you familiar with a situation when you need to do something, but you put it off, then you don’t think about it and already in a desperate situation (when either now or never) you are already doing it?
Of course I am familiar, I think that to everyone.
Let's look at the reasons and possible solutions together.
Why are we postponing?
1. Yes, this business may simply not be pleasant (but not always). For example, a call to … / order delivery / take to a dry cleaner / change documents, etc. Unfortunately, the only way to change the nuisance of the matter is by transferring it to the category tasks and ceasing to experience any emotions on this score. (They wrote down such in their diary - at 10-00 - call the clinic. At 10-00 they looked - they called without hesitation - and that's the end of it. Yes, like robots, but it works).
2. You personally do not need it very much = you are not motivated to do it. This option is more interesting. Because if you personally do not need this, where did you get this case from? Well, let's say your mom needs it personally. Love your mom? - If yes, your love can and should be transferred to this important matter for her, which she cannot do. In fact, in this way you show your love for her and - more importantly - you yourself experience it. And forward to business at all times!
3. You are afraid = fear of the unknown / consequences / difficulties in the process. This point needs to be clarified with oneself. If I avoid any public speaking for the fifth time, although it is necessary for work, I find myself in a trap. I need to perform, but I'm scared. I avoid, than show my psyche that it is 100% scary, otherwise I would not avoid. Now I am even more scared than at the very beginning.
Will help honest conversation with yourself. If you are afraid to go to the doctor - ask yourself, what are you really afraid of? - Maybe pain or diagnosis. Can you handle it? - As a rule, yes. We can all cope with pain and even the likelihood of having to be treated. It's just that this dialogue does not occur at all in our minds.
There is one more consequence of such "avoidances": things pile up, somewhere inwardly we feel that we are avoiding it. Are spent strength to ignore. And, most importantly, our self-esteem goes down. After all, confident people cope with such tasks, right?
By doing things, we leave more space for our desires and creativity!
4. Doubts about ourselves = we are afraid that we will not cope / that we will not be able to do something at the level that we need.
The fourth point refers to perfectionists … This story is very familiar to me. I can slow down a lot, because I'm not sure what I will do 100% or it seems to me that I do not have enough strength to bring the matter to the end. A logical question arises in my head: "Why start at all then?" Honestly, this is the curve of the logic of your overconsciousness - this question does not allow you to face the problem one-on-one, you seem to decide not to approach the task / business, not really deciding not to do it on a conscious level. You are just waiting … no idea what.
And also do not give your true Self, all nature to approach this problem and help yourself, using creativity, imagination, and all your strength.
By including mindfulness, you can achieve your goals and end all long-standing tasks. Good luck!
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