2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
I remember my former poetic hobby, which is now actively combined with another interest - psychology. And in psychology, my favorite topic is codependency. I will not spoil what it is - and is the basis of the poem!) Also, if you wish, you can familiarize yourself with my other articles on this topic, I cite them at the end.
To be honest, I get a lot of aesthetic pleasure from describing complex psychological phenomena in a poetic and accessible form! I hope you will find it close and interesting too!
ABOUT DEPENDENCE (what is it?)
In poetry, codependency is rare.
Well, how can I tell you - so openly and directly!
She is playing, but covered with a veil:
Love and pain, salvation of "reptiles".
And in her songs we cannot fail to meet, In teenage poems, toasts at a feast.
We weave her faces under the skin -
There is a lot of it in the post-Soviet world …
Let's immediately understand what the matter is about:
When I want for others - NOT YOURSELF!
When I scored on needs boldly, Of course, their own: for strangers - everywhere!
When I believe that my life is dashing;
And the only meaning is that THEY live -
My loved ones, relatives … This is fun:
It is called love, but meaning - no, no: /
After all, if I die without bread, What is the point, the essence of me feeding only others?
Yes, yes, it warms and consoles my ego.
But what is its meaning if you don't have your own strength?
Nobility is held in high esteem. But not from the poor.
The poor charge twice the price!
Once you accept help (consequences without harmful ones) -
Yes, the price is charged in the conflict boiler!
"Do you remember, for the sake of..!" - We will often hear.
"And I am for you, but what do you mean to me !?"
And everyone goes to the victim without panting:
"Compared to mine, your sacrifice is nothing!"
And each of them will be tied up in prison:
Prison feelings of shame and guilt.
And everyone will lend the good "free of charge", But he himself will not understand the "homelessness" of the price:(And everyone will ruin himself here as a person;
And everyone will forget what he fell in love for …
After all, the victim lasted an en-nUy year …
Love and care? Yes, everyone is exhausted!
Until "I am not I" and there is no place for me, I will be filled with others inside.
And then an obsession with others, like delirium, Let him shout at his feelings: "Freeze!"
“Freeze! Don't live! We don't need merit!
You are low, insignificant, not worthy of love! -
As if love is impossible without sacraments, Riddles and sacrifices, and other wounds of the soul …
When I find something to fill the voids
Then I will find real peace.
Independence - destroys adversity!
She also gives what they are looking for - love.
Then the development will become clear, And the relationship can grow.
Until we see ourselves as clearly -
We will not see others, whatever one may say.
I wish you good luck with your personal:
And it hurts, and it will be joyful to go.
But we will only find our core, We can cross our paths of destinies!
I thought here to leave links to articles about codependency, but after looking, I realized that 90% of my articles are about relationships, love and codependency:) So you can just follow the link:articles - and read on those topics about relationships that will be interesting to you!
And of course, if you have topics that you want to discuss “behind closed doors”, I invite you to consultations!)
Recommended:
I'm Still Waiting, But No Longer Suffering Or A Way Out Of Codependency
You know, my soul finally became calm. This feeling is like the mirror surface of a deep lake. There are no more stormy impulses of anxiety, cold rain of disappointment, icy fear and searing rage. Did I stop loving you? No. For a year now, I have been thinking about you every day, it is important for me that everything is fine with you - the business develops, the trainings make you happy … And the thought that you may have another one is not pleasant to me.
Characteristics Of Codependency. Berry Winehold, Janey Winehold
If you look closely at the main characteristics of a codependent personality, you can find a typical pattern of behavior that is more typical for a child than for an adult. Below is a list of common characteristics of codependency. When reading this list, check the items that apply to you.
I Feel Bad With You, But It's Even Worse Without You. Codependency Is Not Love
Recently, I have been working a lot on the study of codependency and codependent relationships. Codependency is the scourge of our time. This is when someone puts their life, happiness, emotions, etc. depending on another person. Codependency is always dishonest and always manipulative.
Codependency In A Family With Psychosomatic Disorders. Test
The topic of codependency somehow arises in counseling any client with psychosomatic disorders or illnesses, but for many it causes upset, anger and even denial, which are often caused by our delusions and stereotypes. My colleague, a specialist in psychosomatics, told a case when, in one of the non-specialized forums, discussing the mechanisms of psychocorrection, she mentioned alcoholism with oncology in the same context.
Fusion And Codependency As A Form Of Intimacy. The Difference Of Fusion, Codependency, And Intimacy
Let's look at merging as a form of intimacy - when is it great and when is it overkill? There is practically no difference between merging and codependency. The only difference is that the word "codependency" is most often used by psychologists (now and by a wider mass of people) to describe some kind of painful attachment, addiction, when a person is already in pain.
