10 Tips For Couples To Be Happier During A Pandemic

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

At the beginning of the quarantine, 74% of the surveyed married couples said that their relationship had not changed, but even improved. In the middle of the quarantine, another study showed that only 18% of the surveyed married couples were satisfied with communication

My practice shows that many married couples get divorced under the influence of the pandemic. One of the main causes of tension is the frequency of sexual intercourse. The young man confessed at the consultation: “We decided to leave. I started working from home. My girlfriend is also. Our relationship became tense. We decided to part for a while. Later, the man admitted that this was the most difficult decision for him.

Experienced and scientifically proven recommendations can help couples improve their relationships:

1. Give each other space, especially if you are working from home. Walking, jogging in the morning, meeting with friends will help you create your own zone of security and freedom. Shared trips to another city also bring variety well. It is important for children to have their own space, their own room. If the child closes in there and asks not to disturb, then do it.
2. Use a proactive constructive response model. This is a scientifically proven model. Ask yourself now: How do you react to good news from your partner or child? Are you active, show emotions, are you interested in learning more? Or passive? It is the first model that helps couples and parents not to slip into conflicts. Practice today. When someone gives you good news, try actively learning more, show interest. You will see the result.
3. Share what you are experiencing with your partner. Relationships are a complex construct. If you are sad and silent, your partner may think that you are offended. In turn, he gets offended and closes. Be open about yourself. Don't be afraid to be recognizable. Only then are you alive.
4. Take responsibility for your well-being. Remember that everyone needs to come up with their own path to well-being. For example, you can practice mindfulness and it helps you fall asleep. But your partner is not very fond of meditation. Something else will suit him. I always go to the gym after work and it rejuvenates me well. For some, the fear of contracting caronovirus is more relevant than for others due to their health characteristics. Look for ways to deal with fear, go your own way.
5. Check your anger level. Anger and aggression arise either when we suppress our feelings or when someone violates our values and personal boundaries. According to Richard Sladcher, an expert in the field of sexual relations, aggressive confrontation can be defining in a relationship.
6. Use creativity and self-development. At the onset of the pandemic, I enrolled in the Science of Happiness course at Yale University and completed my studies in the summer. Now I am practicing some of the exercises with my children. It's a fun process. We communicate, they talk about themselves during assignments. It's amazing how much I can learn about them and how it helps the relationship. Develop. Do something specific. Don't just plan, but act. Maybe you and your partner will go dancing. Come up with something.
7. Find a balance between work, personal space, and relationships. If you work from home, is it interfering with your relationship? It is important how you set the boundaries between the three realms.
8. Remember: life is not only about ecstatic sighs, but it also contains a routine. Researchers from Johns Hopkins University that the acuity of feelings can be dulled, vivid emotions are extinguished - and this is normal. Don't ask yourself or your partner to give more during a pandemic.
9. Spend time with your children. I have two teenage daughters, and I came up with this way of communication: in order to devote enough time to each of them, I take my daughter, we go for a walk and communicate along the way. Everyday life can be tiring and you sometimes want to lock yourself in with your laptop. Think about what your children can give you. You are not the only one. Look for work with children, suggested by the Oxford Center.
10. Set boundaries with your work. Finish work on time. Be flexible. Plan not only your work, but also when you will have sex. Be spontaneous, but incorporate your spontaneity into the structure of your relationship so that your partner can pick up on the rhythm of your life. The rhythm of life is the transparency of goals and objectives, the trajectory along which you are moving.