2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
In a world where people are shouting about achievements and success, it is really difficult to remain indifferent to the topic of a career. Now our culture has mixed ideas that, at first glance, seem to be completely immiscible: the ideas of the capitalist world about "run and reach", this whole "American dream", and the legacy of the USSR about "sit quietly, do your job, support the regime and the state will bring you a beak prize for this. " All this creates an explosive cocktail in our head, with which we will try to figure it out today.
MYTH 1: You need to choose a profession once and for life.… We are not static. Our personality changes all the time, something happens from the outside, something happens outside. Our social circle, interests, personality are changing. Therefore, it is impossible to make the “only correct” choice. Moreover, at the age of 17, which is what social norms and the educational system require of us. So breathe out and take it easy - changing your profession is absolutely normal.
MYTH 2. You only need to do one thing … A huge number of people come to me with the problem “I like this, and this, and this. What should I choose and what should I refuse? Calmly. You don't have to give up anything. People can be conditionally divided into not two categories - those who choose one narrow area and develop in it, and those who are engaged in several in parallel. Both options are completely normal. Moreover, futurologists predict a great future for the second, since interdisciplinary knowledge and skills are appreciated more and more.
MYTH 3. There is a “right” career path and a “wrong” one.… I still remember my idea of the "right career". That I have to graduate from a university, get a job in a large international company by the age of 30 to become a director of the company. It took me 5 years to realize that a classic office career is uncomfortable for me. Moreover, there are many options for career development, they are different and depend on what you want and what you are comfortable with.
MYTH 4. Parents know better what you need.… No one can know something better about you than yourself. Parents, like anyone seeking to take away responsibility for your life, only act on the basis of their own life history. And it is unique for everyone. As well as a set of interests, abilities and personality traits. You can consider the parenting experience, but try to make the decision for yourself. Perhaps by analyzing the opinions of friends or by working with a psychologist.
MYTH 5. They are born with abilities (some are "given", some are not) … We are born with inclinations - some set of physiological and genetic characteristics. Abilities are formed much later. Modern scientists agree that our abilities develop not only under the influence of innate factors, but also under the influence of the environment - in what family we grew up, what friends we chose, how many hours we spent on mastering skills and how often we did it. Each achievement has its own price, and the question is, are you willing to pay it - look for ways to achieve your goal, work hard, correct mistakes, and keep yourself motivated.
To be continued.
In the meantime, as I write the second part, try to listen to yourself and understand which of these myths influenced you the most. I invite you to discuss this in the comments.;)
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