2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2024-01-12 20:57
Our life begins with our mother. Dad, of course, also takes part in this. But we are in my mother's belly, we often hear her voice, we live the same reaction and feelings with her. So after birth. Having started from her, we continue to learn to recognize and see life often through my mother's eyes. All our reactions and behavior depend on her mood, her feelings, her resolution.
Bert Hellinger wrote in his works, it is important:
Through mom we get life and quality of life. Yes, it’s quality. By not accepting, excluding the mother, we are excluding ourselves. We say NO to life. We resist and stamp our feet: “I don’t want a mom like that. Give me another.”Thus, we do not agree with what is in us, we reject our mother.
Many people do not want to be like their mother, thereby copying her behavior, life, fate to the smallest detail. From this we get angry, rush about, we do not do much. And then, it is important to ask yourself and think:
Mom could also be traumatized, she might not be able to love, because they did not love her, she might not know about feelings, because her parents did not show them, about what we need and through her I can’t, I don’t know, she don’t want gave as much as she could and that's enough for us. It means that we need so much. This is the acceptance and consent "So this is enough for me"
There is a concept of "Trauma of love" with the processes of trauma, I learn to work from Franz Ruppert.
Building a relationship with your mother is not easy. This is deep work with a therapist. Having lived through pain and resentment, having responded to feelings, having reached the bottom, we discover feelings in ourselves that are not familiar to us, these are love and gratitude.
If your life doesn't go well, you have a bad relationship with your partner, business processes don't work as well as you want, you need to look at your mother.
Author: Vladimirova Yulia Nikolaevna
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