2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2024-01-12 20:57
Battle of Borodino. French army.
- Why aren't the cannons firing?
- The gunpowder is out, Mr. General!
Battle of Borodino. Russian army.
- Why aren't the cannons firing?
- Mr. General! Let's start with the fact that my mother never loved me …
Historical anecdote
They say that most of our problems come from childhood. They did not love, did not give, did not support, did not buy a bicycle, a squirrel and a whistle
Indeed, it is useful to realize that, in general, you do not trust women or men, not because they are all nasty and vile (how can this be verified statistically?). But because in childhood you were hit on the head with a spatula by an older brother or sister.
But it is often not clear - and what next? Awareness happens, but you can't change your perception or behavior.
And this is completely natural. You’re already accustomed to the fact that all men are goats and all women are bitches. It is quite difficult to break this stereotype with a one-time realization that your mother never loved you.
Then the second stage begins - work on yourself
At first, it’s enough just to notice that the following thoughts appear in your head: “What a nasty man sitting opposite, does not give up a seat to his grandmother… Stop! I think so, because my mother never loved me! The challenge is to be aware of this as often as possible.
The next step is to try an alternative reaction: “What a nasty colleague, is late for the meeting… Stop! It's just that my mother never loved me! I'll take a closer look at this colleague: oh, he has beautiful blue eyes! The challenge is to come up with as many alternative reactions as possible.
And finally, the last step, the most difficult one: do not fantasize about someone else, but ask directly. “I hate this neighbor, he always looks at me askance … Stop! My mother never loved me, but this neighbor is not my mother.
Forgive me, please, is it not difficult for you to smoke on the street, and not in the entrance? I am allergic to tobacco smoke. Thanks a lot! . The task is to go directly to the dialogue with another person, to see it real.
And there, you see, and gunpowder will appear in the cannons;)
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