I Want To Be Happy

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

When in a relationship or marriage, you should ask yourself the question as often as possible: am I happy?

Why go into a relationship? Probably in order to clearly 70% of the time in them was good and 30% "we will somehow cope"

Do we really come into a relationship to endlessly work off something: karma, bad past experience, self-dislike … etc. There should be more good and pleasure from relationships than nagging, clarification and bad mood from each other's society.

And you have already tried to understand him a million times, and what he does, and what he does not do, and the fact that he does not have time, because he works, that's just for you that from his work, he tries then he is not for you, but for himself … And endlessly I was looking for accusations: I did not understand him enough, or I wasted it in vain, I’m not feminine enough for him, not harmonious enough, I don’t pay attention to him, I’m pushing him away from himself, he's an alpha male, man, he doesn't know how to feel, he doesn't have to understand why I'm offended, I put pressure on him, but damn it, I almost crushed it with my legitimate right to understand what kind of relationship we are in, since I'm with I sleep with him …

How many excuses and understandings of male behavior we come up with, completely forgetting to ask ourselves the question: do I want to understand this at all? Am I happy with this man? Can I be happy with him at all? Do I often smile when I'm with him? We forget to ask ourselves all these questions … And we remember only when we are stuck in a relationship that does not give you anything as a woman, only takes away your resource, time and energy. What are you investing in? In a man who does not take responsibility for himself, but shifts the right to decide what is between you on you? A man who is so busy at work that he doesn’t find a minute to call you? A man who, having heard your gloomy voice and feeling unwell, does not call for a month and is not interested in how you are?

Maybe that's enough? - she asked herself in the first hour of the night.

Maybe it will be enough to find excuses and endlessly try to understand what is not understood either by your head or by your soul.

- Do you want to be happy in a relationship?

- Yes.

- But you can be like that, only with a man who takes responsibility for a woman on himself. And there is no other option.

Or do you want to keep growing eggs everything and always decide for him?

“No, she said confidently. I don’t want to understand anything else. I want to be happy.

Author: Darzhina Irina Mikhailovna