2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Katya was over forty, she had a child, a lot of debts and attempts to earn a living. She also had extensive hiring experience. But I wanted to do what I liked, the way I liked and get what I liked for it.
But for some reason it did not stick together. Money was sorely lacking. That's absolutely.
At the same time, Katya felt strangely calm. She did not have a sense of disaster, although she was approaching more and more persistently.
Her rare clients said that she was a super professional, but they did not talk about her on word of mouth, and they did not bring friends and girlfriends. There were a lot of people who wanted to come to her for small but useful events, but as far as business was concerned, no one. But she selflessly continued to build her business.
One day she went to travel. For the last (literally) money, but it was necessary to urgently reboot. None of her relatives understood her, her friends did not know about her deplorable state (after all, she is a super professional and cannot tell anyone how things really are).
And that's where catharsis happened. She was sitting alone in a strange city, in no hurry, she had time and the opportunity to immerse herself in herself. For this I went.
And she mentally began to ask herself questions. So myself self-coaching (great stuff, I must say)
Questions came up that were not childish, deep, sometimes merciless. And the answer had to be kept only in front of herself. There was no point in lying.
- Do you live your own life?
- Or do you want to be like many successful women now?
- What's yours? And where is it?
- Who's next?
- Who is with YOU and FOR YOU?
- Do you live there?
- Are you really doing what you like or are you trying to do what can make money?
- Does it make money?
- What is the reason that there is no money?
- What would you really like to do if you didn't have to earn money?
- WHERE IS YOUR HEART?
- Does what you have match what you dream of?
Answering these questions, it was scary at first. I am afraid to even think what was thought. Then thoughts began to line up into words, words into sensations, sensations into truth.
And there was an understanding that the path was not at all there. We must look wider and higher. Seeing the picture is REAL. The picture was terrible.
And here Katya felt anger. Such normal, healthy anger. Without which it was impossible to stir up the swamp in which she found herself.
And only after that there was a desire for change and an understanding of the first steps.
If you, like Katya, go with the flow, but you are calm from the fact that everything is more or less normal, the appearance of your success is created, but there is a shadow of doubt in your heart - your path is only to the TRUTH, whatever it may be.
Only by understanding the origins of your own internal potential, and comparing it with external conditions, seeing a catastrophic discrepancy, and finally feeling angry that you are lying to yourself, you can change something in your life.
Moreover, you must be ready to sacrifice everything that you have.
I repeat: you SHOULD BE READY TO DONATE TO EVERYONE.
As long as you cling to the visible crumbs of well-being, to your social circle at this stage, to some little things that keep you on this layer, you will not reach the next level.
This requires:
- Analyze, honestly and very deeply, the current situation
- Get angry. ALLOW it yourself.
- Do not lose this anger and do not start feeling sorry for yourself. To do this, you need to be very angry.
- On himself, such a fool that the blind and insensitive first of all to himself!
- Stop being only good!
- START DOING!
In conclusion, I will say that it is impossible to evoke productive anger on purpose. You need to reach a certain boiling point, live what you need to live, do a mega-analysis of your life, understand many unpopular things about yourself, beloved, allow yourself a lot of things that others may not like, etc.
But really, only after you get angry can you move on!
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