PERSONAL RESOURCES

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Original taken from evo_lutio

Personality resources are all those life supports that are at the disposal of a person and allow him to provide his basic needs:

1) survival

2) physical comfort

3) safety

4) social involvement

5) respect from society

6) self-realization in society Resources are divided into social and personal, in other words - external and internal. External resources are material values, social statuses (roles) and social connections that provide support for society, help a person outside. Internal resources are mental personality potential, character and skills of a person that help from the inside. However, the division into external and internal resources is rather arbitrary. Both resources are closely related, and with the loss of external resources, the loss of internal resources gradually occurs. Reliable external resources ensure the safety of internal resources, but only if these internal resources already exist. Sometimes a person receives external resources without yet having internal ones, and this is just like an external decoration, which can crumble at any moment. This is the tragedy, for example, of some children from very wealthy families who, having not yet developed their own personality, received a lot of social support in advance. In this case, falling into the trap of painful addiction, apathy or depression is much more likely than in the case of that young man who does not have sufficient social resources, is forced to earn them himself and in the process automatically forms internal resources, since the latter is similar to the muscles of the personality. growing as a result of the load. However, if such a young man did not have any external resources at all, he did not receive any initial support from society, it is very doubtful that he will be able to survive. That is, a minimum of initial external resources is required.

The more internal resources already acquired, the higher a person's ability to restore external resources in case of loss, the greater his resistance to the environment, the stronger his subjectivity, will, ego-integration, locus of control, self-awareness and self-efficacy, stress resistance while maintaining the integrity of the individual. It is important to understand that the strongest internal resources do not replace external ones, but they allow for some time to exist without external resources, to restore them from scratch, build up in any situation and provide over-adaptation, resisting the environment alone. This is what the hero of fantastic action movies looks like: he goes through any of the most terrible trials and comes out the winner. This metaphor is very accurate.

Powerful inner resources are really like a motor instead of a heart, unbending will, charisma and a large supply of energy. However, one must very well understand that any internal resources - like a supply of oxygen in the lungs, like a supply of glycogen in the liver - are provided autonomously only for a while, until a person has found new sources of nutrition - external resources. A person cannot exist on some internal resources for a long time, he must find a suitable environment and enter into an interchange with it, provide with its help all his needs, from the lowest to the highest, otherwise, after some time, the inner potential will be exhausted. That is why, ideally, a person should constantly take care of maintaining and increasing those and other resources, and the stronger his internal resources, the easier it is to increase external ones. And the more he himself increased external resources, the stronger he became inside.

Internal resources are a reserve of autonomy. This is how good, confident and whole a person can feel without any support from society and even with its opposition, without resorting to defensive illusions and denial, that is, clearly realizing the real state of affairs, but withstanding stress and preserving himself. A person cannot and should not be infinitely autonomous, a person is a social being and the essence of his life is in interaction with society, in exchange with others, in participation in people's life. However, a person needs a reserve of autonomy in order to preserve himself during conflicts, to protect himself from encroachments, to assert his subjectivity, his will, his self and his I, not to become a weak-willed object in the wrong hands, an inanimate resource, a slave and a thing of all who are stronger., not to become what we in this LJ call the word "feed". Any person can be turned into food under certain circumstances, but the higher the reserve of his autonomy, the stronger his subjectivity, that is, the integrated part of his personality, the so-called core of the personality, the core of the personality, "hardy", authenticity, selfhood, the more difficult it is to destroy it, the greater his resistance and strength.

A person with a very strong core can be conditionally considered invincible, since it will take too much effort to subdue his will. Much easier to kill his body than personality. Such an ideal is worth striving for. In any case, it is worth moving as far as possible from the situation of personal weakness, lack of will, dependence and disintegration. In a weak state, a person cannot find internal supports in himself, is not able to rely on himself, she has no autonomy, she is not able to do without the support of loved ones and for the sake of this support she is ready to abandon herself, she suffers from loneliness and seeks to escape from that emptiness that he discovers in himself every time a problem has arisen or anxiety has simply appeared.

To understand the problem of resources, one must be aware of how dynamic this process is, how much it is in motion. You cannot accumulate resources once and gain strength forever. Resources require constant interaction with the environment, constant development and updating. Giving away external resources and not acquiring others in return, a person weakens his external positions, which cannot but affect his autonomy, no matter how strong he once was. A person is constantly changing, “living” - that is, he is in motion and change. And if its internal and external resources do not develop, they degrade. Nothing living can freeze in place. When I am asked the question “Why did a strong woman turn into a weak one in a relationship, because she had the resources,” I want to answer rudely, but honestly, “they were, but they did.”

Resources can remain only as long as a person is engaged in these resources. As soon as he goes headlong into something else, for example, in a relationship, his resources either go to the one to whom he devotes himself, or simply gradually fall apart and disappear. The main thing is that the connection between the integrated parts of the ego is broken (if this connection was, that is, the person was really strong, and did not seem), it is broken if a person stops developing his subjectivity, his autonomy, his ego-integration, and begins to engage something exactly the opposite.

The misunderstanding of autonomy and independence is just as harmful. Trying to preserve the "boundaries", some people begin to treat the world around them with hostility and wary, do not enter into connections, stop the flow of investments, which, in order to self-development, must be carried out continuously, otherwise development will stop. It must be understood that there are no sources of energy inside the personality, except for that small potential that the person managed to accumulate and which will soon end. All sources of energy are outside, in the surrounding world, in society and nature (if you perceive it personified, that is, also socially). You can interact not with specific individuals, but with a cultural social stratum, reading books and comprehending art, you can lead a rather closed way of life, engaging in creativity directed to descendants, but this is also a social interaction, and sometimes very intense, more intense than superficial hangouts, but outside of society there are no sources of energy.

By treating the outside world with hostility or without interest, a person very quickly depletes himself. Love, passion, delight, curiosity, inspiration, admiration, amazement, interest, sympathy, attraction, craving, search, aspiration, desire, thirst are all ways to connect to new sources of energy. Without attraction to something, there will be no connection, the person will remain in his own capsule, will suffocate, weaken, switch to a mode of more and more economy, as a result of which the world through the glass of a fogged capsule will seem more and more gloomy and hostile, or just plain ugly and boring. Thus, depression can take over a person and destroy him completely, causing him to desire to die. Or he will not completely close, he will sometimes crawl out of the capsule and feed himself a little with something that is insufficient, however, in order to become stronger, bolder and decide on more active investments.

But love, passion and delight alone are not enough to enrich yourself with energy. This is enough to connect, but it may not be enough for you to share your energy and get something in return. For mutual exchange, a system is needed that balances the centripetal force of the energy supply to the source so that the energy flows from the source to the center (centrifugal force). This system is intrapersonal integration, those very internal resources. The stronger the personality center, the stronger the centripetal force with increasing centrifugal.

From the point of view of most researchers, ego integration includes an adequate and stable self-esteem (not overestimated, not underestimated, not jumping), a locus of control, that is, a sense of one's personal responsibility and the power to influence the circumstances of one's life (without magical illusions, adequate), and trust in life, that is, the willingness to accept its events as lessons for improvement, to feel the love of life for oneself (the very core that is believed to be based on the unconditional love of parents, but in fact can be formed at any age and lost too …

Triad - "self-esteem, locus of control, trust (or challenge)" - is formed not by itself, but only in the process of acquiring external resources, in the process of social interaction, work, creativity, education, gaining respect and love of people. In order to receive something from the world, you need to give a lot to it, but giving in itself does not guarantee receiving. Without giving, you will not receive anything, but by giving there is no guarantee to receive, there can be no simple dogmas and instructions in this matter, you need to be generous and careful at the same time (this is possible with simultaneous love of the world and love of yourself), and without these two qualities it is impossible …

Those who call for the abandonment of sympathy and trust in the world can do a very disservice to those who believe them. Love for the world and openness to the world is the only opportunity for acquiring resources: internal and external, and there are no other ways. The system of filters and fuses can be created individually, taking into account the experience and personality traits, be more rigid or less, but it is very important not to throw out the child with water, not to play it safe until all life support channels are completely turned off, and not to block any access to vital forces.