Pleasure List

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

One of the basic principles of behavioral therapy in relation to psychosomatic pathologies says: "The disorder goes away when life becomes more interesting than the symptom." It seems to be a kind of absurdity, which in fact is a kind of revelation for most clients. When I ask them, "what is valuable to you in your life; what is interesting; what you like; what brings pleasure; what you could and would like to do constantly; what is your hobby", etc., more often the answers are similar: "I I didn’t think about it; I don’t even know; it used to be like this, but now I’m at a loss to answer; but what pleasure can there be when there are only problems around”, etc.

But in order to get rid of problems, and even more so from pathology, we need a resource, since it is impossible to build something from scratch, right on top of an emotional pit. How and with what to fill it, so that psychotherapy has an effect?

I suggest making a list of everything that brings you pleasure and joy. At the same time, I focus you on the general spheres of life, but you can add something of your own. So:

1. What brings you pleasure in:

- your body (appearance, sexuality, rest and physical activity - something different for each item);

- your "fuel" (food and drink);

- your contacts (with friends, relatives, relatives, colleagues, competitors, idols, strangers);

- your relationship with the outside world (with nature, animals, natural phenomena, specific cities, etc.);

- your family (regarding your partner, children, other family members);

- your professional area (work, study, status and achievements, competition, etc.)

- your creativity;

- the sphere of worldview (what principles and attitudes feed you, what motivates you to move forward);

- your home (at home, in space);

- your hobbies (leisure, hobbies, entertainment, interests);

- the material sphere (clothes, money, shopping, travel, events);

- the sphere of new impressions (travel, professional novelties, events in the world, etc.);

- your intellectual and spiritual guidelines (literature, cinema, practices of personal development and growth, etc.)

- your manifestation of yourself in society (charity, education, protection, innovation).

2. If you have nothing to write in any of the paragraphs - study yourself, experiment.

3. After the list is created, your task is to listen to yourself and rank in order of importance what you would like to start implementing in the first place. And then slowly and surely, little by little every day, bring the rest to life.

4. If something from the list is not available to us, we outline the steps to achieve the missing one. If necessary, we consult with specialists in a particular field (in person and in absentia, through forums and consultations, through books and webinars, etc.). The process will go more productively if we mark time benchmarks for ourselves and try to adhere to them.

5. Every week we need to find for ourselves and add some new item, alternating spheres. When life is seething with an overabundance of pleasures, you can add new ones a little less often;)

6. Resurrecting joy in our hearts, it is important for us to remember that "it is good for a German, then death for a Frenchman", so as not to violate the boundaries of other people and not turn into a fanatic. Harmonious development will help to track the techniques of working with the balance wheel.

Do not be surprised if, after working hard with the list, you forget about some of your problems.