2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Valya came to me on a cloudy late November day. She herself was like that day. The drooping shoulders, the pale, sad face, in the eyes of melancholy and hopelessness. Thin hands lie limply in my lap.
- What do you think could be the cause of your condition? I asked
- My project failed because of self-isolation. I pinned many hopes on him. A lot … - Vali's voice sounds muffled, as if something is holding him back in his throat, - If he worked, then I would be able to make my main dream come true. Buy a separate home and move out from your parents.
The girl sighed, looked out the window and continued:
- The boss offers me a new project, taking into account today's realities. But I can not. Tired. I don't even want to think in this direction. Thoughts of dismissal come, but it restrains me that I am unlikely to find such a job …
- What would you do first if you got your own house?
- I would have got myself a cat. I had a cat Musya in my childhood. But a grandmother came to live with us, and she has an allergy. She was put to live in my room. Musya was given away while I was visiting another grandmother. I arrived home, and at home, as if it were no longer there. Instead of my room, there is some strange space with someone else's bed and wardrobe, strange smells. And Musya is gone …
“I would be very upset if this happened to me,” I replied.
- I was upset too. I even cried and shouted to bring Musya back. But my dad scolded me that the cat is more important to me than my grandmother. Punished by forbidding to watch TV. I then quickly calmed down and decided that I would grow up, buy myself an apartment and have a cat, - Valya raised her eyes to me, - But I did not succeed … I could not … I no longer believe that I will succeed.
The girl's eyes filled with tears and she began to cry. She cried about her once-lost pet - Musa the cat. About the space destroyed by the invasion of the grandmother. The fact that the surrounding adults so mercilessly trampled her world and forced her to live in their own way. About pain from irreparable. The fact that the little girl was not allowed to burn out what had happened was forbidden. About the fact that she did not dare to offer her parents to have a cat after the death of her grandmother. The fact that the once trampled world of a girl ruined the plans of an adult. Valya cried for a long time, sometimes burst into sobs. It’s like a dam burst, held back for many years.
I was silent. I listened. Was there.
A little later, Valya and I talked about the sad story with Musya happened 20 years ago. And what was beyond the control of a 9-year-old girl was over the shoulders of a young woman. Let not immediately, albeit slower than we would like, but on the shoulders. The girl decided to talk to her parents about getting a kitten. This is the first step towards making her big dream come true.
Vali's voice sounded soft and free at parting. Her tear-stained eyes shone with hope, and a blush appeared on her face. We will meet again and continue on the path to healing the girl's once trampled world.
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