2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
What criteria is used to determine if a person is old enough? To be responsible for your life and actions is too general a criterion, besides there are many irresponsible people around. Who needs this growing up if a person feels quite normal at the same time? Is it necessary for the comfort of others?
As a rule, people around you don't really care about anyone but themselves. Everyone thinks only of himself. Yes, there are times when we think about others, but this is associated with the satisfaction of some needs (for example, physical contact, emotional contact, the need for someone to just be around, the desire not to feel lonely, the need to make me so that it was not boring”, the need for everything to be done for you, to make a decision - circle around me, and I will be happy).
Here's an example. Returning home from work, I noticed that 2 girls and a boy were playing something on the street. Suddenly the boy freaked out, running to the side with the words: "Don't you see - I'm bored!" In fact, the child has adopted the parental behavior - you have to satisfy me, circle around me, entertain. The conviction was deeply rooted in the child's mind: "I will be offended if you do not satisfy me!" And everything will be fine in his life! It will be bad for those who are next to him.
So, by what criteria is it determined whether a person is old enough?
- The most important thing is whether a person can fully provide for himself so that he has housing, sufficient wages and everything that is necessary for life.
- Does a person know how to make decisions on their own for themselves, not to demand it from others?
- Can he entertain himself?
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Can he provide himself with support and resources, find them on his own? It can also be an appeal to friends: “Listen, Vasya, I feel so bad today! I'm so worried before the stream. Help me, support me! " It is quite normal when a person speaks directly, does not manipulate. For comparison, an example of manipulation and more childish behavior: “Do you hear why you are sitting there? You relax and enjoy. Is it okay that I feel bad here ?!"
- Can a person, having received support, then satisfy their other needs and do it without manipulation?
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