2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
There are tears that you don't expect at all. No, you understand them when you watch a romantic movie, having recently parted with your beloved. You understand when you brush them off to a sad melody after a completely fresh loss. But there are those tears that arise - suddenly, without a visible, compelling conscious reason. And you blame them on fatigue, lack of sleep, or even an eyelash caught in the eye. Only - what are they really?
Such tears are prisoners of feelings hidden in the far corners of the underground of the unconscious. They are unspoken confessions driven into silence. They lurk there, in the dark, waiting only for an excuse to break through to the surface.
One client admitted that she often wants to cry at the most inopportune moments. For example, when she is expressed gratitude at work in front of everyone. Or when the movie ends with a happy ending. Sometimes just walking down the street. She could not understand where they came from and why there was such a huge range of situations that caused them.
No, don't think that this is a special kind of sentimental weakness that only pampered women have. Because such tears, albeit instantly suppressed and urgently repressed, are also found in the strong. Not just women.
Such tears are "hello" from the very depths of the soul. They are about the most intimate, difficult to touch and painful - a long time ago. For example, about the deep feeling of insecurity that has been going on since the very time you fought alone on the street from the more courageous and especially arrogant, without having parents to whom you can turn for help or at least support. They are about a constant feeling of non-recognition and injustice, when there is no one to judge your achievements according to their merits, while somewhere in a non-parallel reality, someone with a C in chemistry takes the post of doctor of chemical sciences, and you make your little discoveries in squalid school, having no connections to publish them.
They are about the pain that pervades every time on the street you see a young mother with a toddler in overalls, because your same young mother left too early, and all you can do is remain adult and strong, coping with life on your own. They are about love, which you so needed in childhood, but received only requirements and conditions, reaching which you never received the most desired. They are about the fear that one day you will realize the truth that you know a long time ago, and you will have nowhere to hide from it.
If you are familiar with them, if you sometimes shed a stingy tear "for no reason" - do not rush to habitually be ashamed and ridicule yourself before others, reproaching for stupid sentimentality. Click on pause. Unwind the last few minutes. You may be able to find the situation that caused this sudden breakthrough. This will be half the answer about who your personal bell tolls. And then it may become easier.
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