Emotional Trauma. Cutting Off Yourself

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

How it is written about life. Living life is not a field to cross. In the "closet" of each person has their own skeletons, someone has more of them, someone on the contrary has less. In simple terms, the fewer skeletons, the better a person lives. Everything would be so, but in reality everything is much more complicated. Quantity happens, which affects the quality, but not always.

Living a psychotrauma, it is not uncommon for a person to leave behind a very valuable and important experience, without having lived it and without taking all the resources. Ideally, you can read in books on psychology and psychotherapy that if you go through a psychotrauma completely from stage to stage, then a person's life changes qualitatively, maybe this is so. Even special books still differ from real life and the “real clients” described in them, life is more complicated. Many models and techniques of psychotherapy can be very difficult to transfer into real life, at least without first adapting.

How does a person cut himself off, ceasing to enjoy life, making it boring, dull, ordinary, insipid, dull? All this, in my opinion, is also due to the fact that, freezing in the second stage, we do not allow ourselves to go further to meet with ourselves, when we feel bad, sad, when we are depressed, discouraged, crushed and see no way out, we simply do not have it. And because of this, we are able to look at our experience differently, change the attitude, evaluate it differently.

Thanks to the trauma, a person himself, one way or another, chooses the boundaries of the existence of relations with people, a certain corridor of life, a “wall” of limitation and, of course, opportunities.

Overcoming the emotional stage of psychotrauma, coping in his usual ways, a person believes that everything is fine what was in the past. I grew up, adapted, became stronger, more powerful, more adequate, stronger. In the psyche, a polarized experience begins to form, that is, the opposite conclusions are drawn: "I will always do only this way or I will never do, as I did before." For example, if a child accidentally burns himself on a gas stove, then he may conclude: "I will never come close to the stoves or I will be near the stove only when it is turned off." Another example: "If a child sees how daddy beats his mother regularly, then he concludes that I will never be like that, and when he grows up, his wife most often beats him, or he himself becomes a rapist."

At the same time, the important experience of living remains as if “overboard”. Behind "every" traumatic experience are unrealized need values. A person without experiencing trauma cannot receive values that are important and meaningful for themselves in other ways. Psychotrauma is "encapsulated" and displaced into the unconscious. What is this "encapsulation" is not an opportunity to be here and now with your feelings and experiences to manifest them, thereby giving the opportunity to "be".

Does the amount of experience affect the quality of life? Affects without a doubt. What is Depression and Depression? How does trauma help you live a better life? Or is it the other way around? All these questions are personal. After all, probably not every person wants to enter a new and very unpleasant phase after he has coped with emotions. If you look at it superficially, then yes. But the process of grieving for the departed is not possible without deep regret, depression, depression, sadness. The stage of depression helps us to form an attitude towards what happened on a deeper personal level, to let go of a truly departed person. Regret what happened and accept what happened, realizing that something that happens is once and for all (with the loss of a loved one). Living the stage of depression helps not only to look back and see with others, perhaps with more mature eyes, what happened, but also to see oneself growing, able to experience, compassion and become truly strong from this. A "strong person" is able to experience different feelings, meet and be with them. Going through all the stages of psychotrauma, we become closer to our roots, to the divine within us, to our self. One experience can be a source in the formation of other life experiences and meanings and be a kind of a beacon in how best to do it. And this means living in a new way and truly saying goodbye to the departed, when, instead of pain and guilt, to be grateful for what we lived together, for that uniqueness and originality that make relationships a gift for each other.