2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
These words now very accurately reflect how it happened with me. It seems to you that you love immensely, but one day he leaves, or you even leave. At that moment, the familiar world collapses, and only ruins remain. And as you know, "ruins are the path to transformation." I began to wonder how this happens when it happened the second time. Quite unexpectedly for me, after parting a week later in the first case, and a month in the second, I sharply felt that I no longer want to be with this particular person. And it’s strange because just yesterday or in the morning you still couldn’t imagine your life without him, when suddenly by evening you don’t want to be with him anymore, you don’t get bored and in general you feel internally free, active and in a wonderful mood.
It’s a paradox, but how it happens, where, what and at what moment is a mystery for me. The only thing I would compare it with is that first connection with the umbilical cord of the mother. Now I know that it definitely needs to be cut, so that later every time it is painful not to cut it in relationships with men. Painful attachment, in my opinion, is formed when the first and desired connection is not cut, and accordingly you are afraid to be left alone, although you are always alone. You are afraid to take responsibility for your life upon yourself, and as you once did with your parents who wanted to take on this responsibility, you hope that someone else will come and also want to take responsibility for your life. But this does not happen, the other resists in every possible way.
Cutting the umbilical cord is insanely painful, but only then can you really breathe, breathe in the air of life, and understand that in this world no one was born in order to solve your problems, save you from your injuries and emotions, and was not born at all, so that absolutely love you. And here the most interesting thing begins, you begin to give all this to yourself: care, support, attention, love. You become a mother to yourself and form a new, but most reliable umbilical cord - an umbilical cord with yourself, with your little inner girl, whom you ignored for so long, who did not allow to desire, and which did not allow to manifest, to be visible to this world.
Only then can you open up not to egoism, but to love, first to yourself, and only then to another, to another person separate from you, bypassing painful attachments, filling ourselves with love and sharing its surplus with others.
Author: Darzhina Irina Mikhailovna
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