2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Attached value. A special kind of thoughts with the help of which we evaluate certain actions, situations. There is a good phrase that says, "Thoughts are just thoughts."
What do you mean?
The heart and brain are two organs in our body that never stop. If the heart constantly pumps blood, then the brain produces thoughts. They (thoughts) can be different. Truthful and untruthful, neutral, positive, negative.
There are thoughts that we perfectly catch and notice in time, and thoughts that turn on automatically, instantly, and very often we do not have time to realize them. There are also intrusive or obsessive thoughts that pop into our heads over and over again, and it is so difficult for us to get rid of them.
And what does the attached value have to do with it, and how does it work?
Assigned meaning is a kind of thought that is very fleeting, automatic, difficult to track and comprehend. But it is these thoughts that set the vector for our experiences, evaluating certain events, sensations, our internal states.
Example: When one of my clients (male, 28 years old) first experienced a panic attack, he was at a wedding and thought that he might have been poisoned by food or one of the alcoholic beverages, which caused a similar reaction in his body.
Structurally, it looked like this:
An insignificant increase in anxiety after a panic attack - attached meaning: "I probably ate something wrong" - normalization of the level of anxiety. And the person continued to live an ordinary, normal life, quickly forgetting the incident.
When, 6 days later, he experienced a second panic attack, he realized that the second case was definitely not related to either alcohol or food. The assigned meaning was as follows: “Something is clearly wrong with me, maybe I’m going crazy.” These thoughts horrified him and a few days later led him to me, to the psychologist's office.
The structure of thought was as follows:
A strong increase in anxiety after a panic attack - attached meaning: "I'm going crazy" - an even greater increase in anxiety - rumination (repetitive thoughts that move in a vicious circle and very often have no answers.)
In fact, one and the same event - a panic attack, to which the person himself attributed two different meanings, entailed a completely different reaction of the body.
The structure of negative attribution looks like this:
Thought - negatively attached meaning - strong emotion (eg fear) - rumination about it.
What to do with negative attachments?
To begin with, it is important to track and understand it.
How?
The indicator should be your condition, for example, strong emotions, deterioration in mood.
Next, stop and trace what thoughts led to this state, and what values did you attach to these thoughts?
At the last stage, assess how rational and truthful were the assigned values, are there any alternative options?
In this way, we consciously approach and manage the assigned values, instead of being controlled by them.
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