2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Why is it so hard to be happy?
To answer this question, we need to look into the deep past. The human mind has been developing over hundreds of thousands of years, since the appearance of the species Homo Sapiens.
But our minds did not evolve so that we can joke wittily, declare our love, or learn to lie.
It developed so that we could survive in a world full of danger.
Let's imagine an ancient man, a hunter.
What are its basic needs for survival and reproduction?
There are four of them: food, water, shelter and sex, but they all lose their meaning if a person is dead. Therefore, the number one task for the primitive mind is to recognize the threat and avoid it.
And so, the primitive brain was a device with the program "Don't let yourself be killed!" The better our ancestors could foresee danger and avoid it, the longer they lived and the more children they gave birth to.
And now, after hundreds of thousands of years, having passed the path of evolution, he is tracking possible dangers.
The difference is that the danger is not tigers and lions, but the possibility of being rejected, losing your job, embarrassing yourself in public, upsetting loved ones, not being able to pay the bills, getting cancer …
We have many reasons for concern. As a result, we spend a lot of time worrying about things that may never happen.
Another important condition for the survival of primitive man. This is his belonging to the group. In case of expulsion from the group, there is a high probability of death of a person. How does the mind try to protect a person from exile?
You constantly need to compare yourself with the members of the group: am I doing everything right, am I making a sufficient contribution, am I doing something for which I can be rejected?
Therefore, it is not surprising that we strive to be better, richer, more beautiful, smarter, slimmer, sexier, stronger, and more famous. Nowadays, any advertisement or magazine shows us the ideals that we must correspond to. How easy it is to drive a teenage girl into depression, it's simple, you need to show the gloss with the models after Photoshop. She will feel less worthy, beautiful …
Do we have the slightest chance of being better than the ideal? The ideal always wins, and we don't feel very well.
It was easier for primitive man, he could only be equal to the members of his group.
The next important rule for primitive man is the more the better. Better weapons - more loot, more loot - easier survival. The more durable your home, the more reliably protected from bad weather and predators. The more children there are, the higher the likelihood that someone will live to puberty.
Therefore, the modern mind is set to increase: higher status, more money, more favorite work, more love, more prestigious car, more presentable appearance, younger partner, larger house …
If we achieve this, anyway, we begin to want more.
It follows from this that our mind has evolved in such a way that we are doomed to suffer. The mind compares, evaluates, criticizes, wants more, shows frightening scenarios …
It follows that it is difficult for a person to be happy.
Next, we'll look at "What is happiness?"
#Happiness
#Low self-esteem
#Achievements of goals
#The quality of life
#Mindfulness
# Self-knowledge
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