2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
One of the most difficult topics to comprehend, and at the same time, perhaps, one of the most fertile and grateful.
And the knowledge of this difference changes a lot in the perception of oneself, the world, and life.
What's the point?
I will cite as an example a parable or a story, I do not know for sure.
At the American Kennedy Airport, a journalist conducted a survey: "What do you think is the most disgusting in the world?" People answered differently: war, poverty, betrayal, disease. At that time a Zen monk was in the hall. The journalist, seeing the Buddhist dress, asked the monk a question. And the monk asked a counter question:
- Who you are? - I, John Smith. - No, that's the name, but who are you? - I'm a TV reporter for such and such a company. - No. This is a profession, but who are you? - I am a man, after all!.. - No, this is your species, but who are you?
The reporter finally realized what the monk meant and froze with his mouth open as he couldn’t say anything.
The story ends with a monk's value judgment, but that's not my story.
I propose to reflect, one might even say, travel a little with me.
What is I? The question seems to really lie on the surface. I am Paul. But if you think about it, they could call me Dmitry, Sergei, Alexei. That is, my name could have been different.
I am a man. But this is my gender. Moreover, now, at a time of gender uncertainty, this is not about me at all:).
I am the body. But if, for example, you take a part of the body, a hand, for example, or a finger, I remain. My body went through a lot of changes from the moment I realized myself in 4 years, and up to my current 48. But something remained unchanged, my I remained I.
I am my thoughts and feelings. Consciousness, finally. But during deep states (I was engaged in meditations, trance techniques) at some point, thoughts disappeared, feelings stopped, I was present. And when I was, as it were, in such a deep trance that there was not even consciousness, there was a feeling of presence.
And what happens after such awareness of these and other aspects of I and Mine?
I got the conclusion: everything that I can call "Mine" is no longer "I".
My body is not Me. My thoughts are not Me. My family is not Me. My work is not Me. The list can be continued further, if you wish.
This results in:
Everything that my body cannot do is not a question of the imperfection of I. It is a question of the imperfection of the body, and there is a choice, whether it is worth it, whether I want to bring it to perfection.
Everything that cannot be comprehended is not a question of the breakdown of the self. The question is about the lack of resources (skills, time, knowledge) for comprehension. And my choice is whether I need it.
Everything that does not work out in a family is not a question of self breakdown. It is a question of a lack of resources.
Etc.
With awareness, living the I as a process separated from Mine gives freedom to both oneself and others, not to meet expectations for each other.
Further more.
Depression.
If translated into I and Mine, it turns out that I am not depressed, but I have My depression. The question is about skills, understanding what to do with it.
Shame.
I am ashamed, or I have My sense of shame. And if it becomes toxic, it means that I lack the tools to deal with it.
Codependency. My Self is trying to merge with the Self of another.
But if you dig, then it is I who are trying to satisfy My needs through the Other on a mutual basis.
And since My needs, it turns out that I do not have enough skills, knowledge of how they can still be satisfied, and it is not I who are stuck in a relationship, but My idea of myself and the way of satisfying needs.
And many, many, many more insights are brought by each step in this direction.
And as a conclusion, when at the level of living, sometimes at the level of awareness (yes, My manifestation is imperfect:)) it came down not to the fact that if something goes wrong, then I am not like that, but to the fact that I just -to situations lack of resources. And the lack of resources is already an opportunity for research and identification of specifics. And knowing what specific resources are lacking, you can already set a specific measurable goal.
What else I see the value of this approach is in the absence of unnecessary constructions, superstructures from the field of religion, esotericism with their overvalued ideas, how everything should be. More precisely, not rejection, not opposition, but the creation of a basis from Himself, to which the superfluous ceases to stick.
And also the ability to live oneself, to come into contact with oneself. Remain yourself, real, even when you need to "surrender yourself." And then you do not need to do the techniques "accept yourself", "love yourself", "forgive yourself", and others as well.
You, dear reader, can live I in your own way (and you do it every moment, to be honest), draw Your conclusions, form Your opinion, and it will be Yours, which belongs to You. Well, I hope you will share your discoveries!
See you!
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