2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
… Even the most obvious leader has weak points or simply wears out over time. I have written and said many times that a truly strong person calmly allows himself to be weak without any losses, because I am sure that he will always regain his place. People strive for leadership or to be close to a leader because they think that it is a guarantee of happiness, well-being and an ideal life. But this is another illusion. There are many tactics and ways to live cool and be satisfied with yourself and your life.
To begin with, not all people are born leaders, and subconsciously not everyone wants to be leaders. The fact that it is necessary to be leaders is again an imposed idea of our society. People, not understanding themselves, desperately resisting their true essence, strive where they do not need at all. Thus, they generate within a personal conflict, self-rejection and a chain of neuroses.
If you were born a leader, then you organically fit into the historically established scheme, or rather the stereotype: the alpha is a male, he is the leader who has all the best (money, power, etc.) and gets the best female or all other females. He is the master of life and feels in his place. But! Look at the females of today's real leaders. Are they the best? And what does it mean generally the best. Modern leaders also have trends and rules that are accepted in their society. And they also apply to the choice of females of a certain type. This means the leader does not have absolute freedom. He must correspond to his status, which does not always coincide with true desires and needs.
At that time, the “non-leader” may be less attached to the opinions and demands of others. His choices are limited by a lack of power and money, but he uses other methods to gain the attention of females, and they are often just as effective.
Not everyone can, not everyone wants, not everyone should be leaders! And that's okay!
The status of a leader, like a champion's title, must be maintained and proven all the time, and this requires a lot of effort and time. In the position of "not a leader" you can afford to relax.
In any case, there is no absolute ideal position, observing which you get everything you want without sacrificing anything. There is an eternal balance between responsibility and freedom.
Conclusions:
- Be who you are and don't try to appear to be someone else. Strengths and values are there for everyone.
- Each choice has its own pros and cons.
- “Not a leader” is not a bad thing. This is the way to live.
This problem mainly affects men, but recently the idea of leadership has captured women as well. Apparently the point of all this is to weed out those who cannot cope. Some modern natural selection? But propaganda and imposition cannot be natural. Natural and healthy behavior is to be yourself. Excessive leaving your comfort zone is harmful to your health. Consider an example from the animal kingdom. People often forget that they belong to him, and not to the world of technology, so they get confused and do not always understand what is natural and what is not. People are highly influenced. When we change who we are, moving out of our comfort zone to achieve our cherished goal, we experience stress. When there is too much stress, we break down. Finding a balance and making workloads optimal in order to get job satisfaction is very difficult, especially when it comes to high achievements. Animals are wiser in this regard. They don't do what they don't need to do. We do this and call it training. Many consider training to be violent. At the same time, the media, social networks, trends, fashion train us. It's even easier to train us, because we have a consciousness that is very easy to manipulate.
Let's analyze the concept of "achieve"."Xia" in Russian is a returnable particle, which means that the action is directed at itself. We get: achieve = finish yourself. Hopefully the hype for success has subsided.)
To be healthy and happy you need
- Adequately assess your capabilities
- Understand your real needs
- Accept yourself and your essence.
Women's leadership exists. Leadership is not gender related. Both men and women are born leaders. Only in the case of a man is it good luck, because he has to solve one problem in life - to be a leader. And a woman will have to decide two things: to be a leader and to be a woman. And then you need to choose either one thing, or balance, which leads to disorders and neuroses, because these two tasks are contradictory in essence, and their implementation can break even a very stable female psyche.
Modern women, along with rights, also received responsibilities in addition to their main primordially female concerns - children, household. And from these matters there are no vacations and days off. If you want to be independent and make money - devote yourself to a career, be assertive and resilient like a man, be a leader. Then at home, become soft, understanding and feminine. And so switch modes while you can. As a result, women have to exist in two entities. And such a regime is inconceivable without losses.
Therefore, if you want to correspond to everything, a reasonable distribution of forces and the absence of a race in anything, this is salvation for the psyche and youth.
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