Love Addiction In Women: Where Do Legs Grow From?

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Author: psychologist Alexander Molyaruk

The main reason for female love addiction

I think many readers have gone through this, when day and night you think about him and all your attention is focused on the object of "love".

I am writing the word "love" here in quotation marks, because it is not really love, but love, emotional dependence.

The main reason for love addiction is lack of information

Misunderstanding of what is happening. A dumb question tears my soul apart - why did he say yesterday that he loved me, it was evident, the sparkle in his eyes, heavy breathing, a trembling body, but today he does not ring and does not pick up the phone ?! What happened?

Recommendation: Study the psychology of a man, this information is already known and sorted out, there is no magic in love - this is a regularity of natural and human relations, and it flows according to certain laws.

Emotional causes of love addiction

Here are some more common reasons for the psychological dependence of women in love relationships.

Guilt

What did I do wrong? How did I offend him? What's wrong with me? With this, a woman torments herself and her man afterwards.

It seems to a woman that the lack of attention of a man has some external, quite tangible reason.

CONCLUSION: everything is so with you and everything is so with him. You are a woman and he is a man. You have a different psychology. That a woman is good - a man is horrified.

For example, let me reveal one secret: a man does not like the attention of women, especially those with whom he is closely acquainted. He loves to conquer him, and your task is to elude him like a sun bunny. Once it is conquered, that's it, you are not interested in it.

Therefore, you did not offend him in any way, he simply does not need your calls and sms, good morning beloved, good night bear cub - he is sick of all this, at first he will suffer, and then he will run away from you if you do not stop.

Yes, he himself can write this to you and that's okay. But rushing to answer him in the same spirit is a big mistake.

The over-need for constant attention from a man

Or very low self-esteem and lack of self-esteem.

Most women do not have their own self-esteem - she is used to drawing it from others; like a sponge, she absorbs everything that surrounds her. In men, self-esteem can be kept from scratch, this is their feature.

CONCLUSION: a woman with low self-esteem must learn to control her attention so as not to overfeed her man with it, as soon as she learns to do this, she can control male attention.

The woman must understand that this red button is with her, not with him. And you need to deal with your own head, and not look for reasons in the behavior of a man.

There was such a story in the practice of psychologist Olga Naumova: one wealthy lady was courted for a year by a boy, not from her social environment, but rather wealthy. He starved her to death, he invited her with her friends to the resort and paid for everyone's trip. She felt uncomfortable, so she went to his room and stayed there. Before the trip, he inundated her with SMS messages: at first she did not answer, there was no such habit then to write, but he taught her. After the trip, they were both in heaven, but after a few months, he began to call and write to her less and less, stopped responding to her text messages, referring to her eternal employment, which led the lady into a terrible hysteria. How could she fall in love with a boy whom she turned off for a year and switch roles ?! We solved the problem, of course, she let him go and a week later he wrote "how are you?" She decided not to answer.

RECOMMENDATION: study the psychology of sexes, do not relax. Even if it seems that he has fallen in love, watch your attention, if it floated to him, distance yourself. Do not engage in sinful sexual relations with men, for them it will pass without loss, but for you it will be a tragedy.

Sacrificial behavior of a woman

Dishonest men like to shift their failures onto women and ride on this, sucking out their energy.

Metaphorically, it looks like an unauthorized connection to someone else's wiring, made a hole and eat.

So, for example, if a man told a woman - you are fat, clumsy, no one but me needs you (a real example) and that's it, you can not look after, not bring a salary, not marry, not take responsibility, but come whenever you want, for the night, for free, lunches, dinners, get sex whenever you want.

It seems to a woman that she is happy, but in fact she is being used, and she is in psychological dependence.

CONCLUSION: the value of a woman is not in beauty, harmony, youth, but in her energy of attention, which she must protect and not distribute from right to left, this is what men are after.

Love is a very subtle thing - it is the energy of attention.

AND healthy love is a sensible balance of taking and giving this is the very attention.

By the way, right now Olga Naumova, an expert on healthy relationships and the co-author of this article, has started working on a secret recommendation "How to keep a take / give balance in a woman's relationship so that everyone is happy."

What kind of love do you have? Have you ever been in a quagmire of love addiction, and if so, how did you manage to get out

Share, have you ever started a relationship as a Queen, and ended up as Cinderella, fulfilling any whims of a man?

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