2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2024-01-12 20:57
How painful it is to live with an open heart …
Our heart center, the center for controlling the flights of our emotions and feelings, works in a very interesting way. He is responsible for the ability to love unconditionally.
We love cats and dogs because they are cute and friendly. This is conditional love.
But if I love without conditions, that is, I do not demand anything in return, this is unconditional love. It comes from the heart.
Ideally, an open heart center is very pleasant, beautiful, healthy, natural. A beautiful spring gushes in your chest, fills you with warmth and light, and many around you also get it.
But due to a variety of traumatic events in our biography, the heart center is closed with a shutter, protective shell, case, armor (call it what you want).
I can remember one of such examples. Once in my childhood I fed a stray dog. She responded to the whistle, flew from the other end of the yard to me, received something and wagged her tail very gratefully and expressed her delight and gratitude in every possible way. At that moment, a very pleasant warmth raged in my chest.
After a while, I found her killed in a ditch. And at that moment I experienced a very sharp, piercing pain in my chest. As if I had been hit in the chest with a sledgehammer, I could not help but breathe and could not say anything. Since this pain was physically almost unbearable, I was literally torn and squeezed in a vice at the same time, I can assume that at that moment I covered the heart center with a kind of shutter.
It can be assumed that many people had many such episodes. At this moment, people close their sensitivity. If it turned out to be so unbearably painful to love and feel, the damper is very necessary, it performs a very important function - it saves us from pain. But being completely (I can't imagine that it can be completely) or partially in a case, we give up a lot. We refuse to have deep real contact with people and with the world. Refuses the finest experiences. Just because it's scary to feel pain again.
In the exercise, you will have a chance to try living without such a damper. Fasten seat belts. The ride will be spectacular.
Exercise figures
- Client or deputy client
- Deputy " Target »(A wonderful life, full, emotional, sensual, open to contact with others, healthy, rich, happy, with open channels of interaction). It can be called revelry, happiness, freedom, whatever.
- Deputy " Damper »
- Deputy " Resource ”(An assistant who will help the client to endure life and contact with an open heart and high sensitivity). In essence, it is the openness and sensitivity of the heart center.
Exercise progress
- You thank the flap for its work in protecting you and push it aside or transform it into something more useful to yourself.
- You get in touch with a resource and with it you look at your goal (a wonderful life). The dance of this contact can be anything.
- I warn you that at this moment it can be very painful, scary, unusual.
- You don't have to jump headlong into the pool, you need to get in touch with it as much as you can withstand it.
- If it is unbearable, hide behind the flap again.
The meaning of the exercise: At least one step closer to a new life, a new opportunity, at least from the corner of my eye to look into this novelty.
Important: do not have to endure, but if tears come, cry to your health. This will be very helpful!
Discussion
- I visited the flap twice. And both times I turned from a damper into a resource. We twice in the group sounded the phrase: "I take you as experience, as knowledge!"
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Whoever hinders us will help us!
- It was nice that the figure of my wonderful life was very supportive and good-natured to me, and she said a lot of kind words to me. And the damper has also become a resource. And I was all in the resources went to a happy life.
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For me, this exercise is valuable in that I saw not a flap, but a very rather large reinforced concrete frame all over my body, which I protected just in case, so that the pain would never penetrate there. But he also limited. No life, no air, there is none of this. But there is no pain either. And then the damper became a resource, and I saw life. She is so lovely and wonderful. Not scary at all!
- And my flap has completely dissolved. She's gone.
- I had a lot of unexpected things, my life completely changed. And I really liked that. It just so happened. Gorgeous. The feeling of gratitude to the old remains. But I love it! I didn't even expect this to be possible.
- I looked at life as from behind a shield. Very scary, just unrealistic scary. And when she came out from behind the flap and went to life - it was even worse. But it turned out so good there. Such happiness, such pleasure, such joy. There was peace, safety and comfort behind the shield. But the joy of life cannot be replaced by anything. And when you move the shutter, you can enjoy this life.
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in the male world they are always closed in one way or another. It's a constant battle! But if there is a woman who, with her whole appearance, says to him: “Dear, I am so safe that you can leave because of your armor-damper and you will be fine with me,” the man is covered with happiness. And he falls head over heels in love with the person who gave him such sweet sensations. I love you not for what you are, but for how I feel next to you.
- I understand that as a child I put a defense that stands on me partially or completely. It's like mom and dad who don't let you go out late. And the open heart chakra was the very resource that led me from point A to point B. Without it, I might not have reached.
- I was surprised that I did not hug, did not hold this flap, it just stood in front of me like a statue. As if I invented something for myself. And she stepped aside quite easily. Together with the resource of the open heart chakra, which told me: “Open up to the world,” I received a new life as a gift.
- The damper hung comfortably, familiarly and pleasantly on me. Then I realized that it was hard for me. I removed it. The resource is required. It's harder to go somewhere without it. And it was good there.
- The flap turned into a man who blocked my future life for me. I swayed it like a pendulum and broke through.
- I felt alive and real. I don't owe anyone anything.
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Yesterday in the constellations:
BEGINNER:
- The impression is that you are replaying the constellations, bringing your personal experience to the role …
- Yes, I really brought the experience of my pregnancy to my role today … - said the deputy-MAN.
Whinnied to tears
The article was co-authored with Nadezhda Matveeva
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