2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
I have long wanted to separate such concepts as guilt and responsibility in different directions, because they are often confused, and I sometimes had difficulties with how to distinguish them. It turned out so thesis.
The blame can be shifted.
Responsibility take.
In the first case, a vector away from oneself. In the second - to yourself.
As soon as the vector of an action changes, the nature of the action itself also changes.
Responsibility - this is “Yes, I did it. If you do not like it, I am ready to discuss it with you and maybe we will find a solution that will satisfy both of us."
Guilt - "Yes, I did it, but you forced me!" The vector is redirected from myself (I did it) to another (you forced me to do it).
Responsibilityshifted onto someone else automatically becomes guilt.
Responsibility is a conscious choice
The causes of guilt, as a rule, are not displayed in the field of consciousness.
Responsibility easy, well, at least lifting.
The guilt is always heavy, it crushes.
Responsibility this is about the fact that I am good, and you are good, and we can always agree.
Guilt - I’m bad, I’m terrible, and it’s so unbearable that I’ll make you bad, then it will be a little easier for me.
Responsibility implies action, you can always do something to keep all parties satisfied.
Guilt does not imply action, it, on the contrary, deprives you of strength and presses you to the ground.
Responsibility can be divided. For this you need to agree.
It is impossible to share the blame; it is shifted to another in bulk.
When a person does not want to take responsibility for his words or actions, he turns it into guilt and shifts it onto another.
In a situation where everyone is ready to take responsibility, there is always a solution.
In a situation with guilt, there is no solution and cannot be, because everyone shifts the blame onto the other, and this can go on indefinitely. Running in a circle.
When a person takes responsibility for himself, there is always a moment of learning something new, an opportunity to learn a lesson, gain experience and then apply it to the benefit of himself and others.
The blame is thrown to each other like a ball, there is no possibility of learning, because all the time and attention is occupied only with how to beat off the serve.
Thus, responsibility Is a movement forward, an opportunity to learn and appropriate something new and useful. And guilt is marking time and degradation.
Guilt, in general, is an artificially created feeling. This feeling was not conceived by nature and evolution. It was created by people to control and manipulate each other with its help. Real guilt only arises in one case, and it always walks by the hand with malice. If a person has intentionally hurt you or hurt you on purpose, then his guilt arises, which requires atonement, compensation and forgiveness. Everything else is mistakes, because we are all human and we are not perfect.
Well, the guilt taken on voluntarily is a story about not having to take on the role of God. We, as people, are very limited and much is not in our power.
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