2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
When you don’t believe in yourself, you program yourself to fail, and if you think you’re unlucky, it will happen. Most often, a state of insecurity is aggravated by a sense of guilt, then when you feel guilty and can be very cleverly manipulated.
In essence, experiencing this feeling, you are, as it were, waiting for punishment. The main idea of this state is I am bad, worthless, flawed or inferior. This feeling quite strongly affects self-esteem and self-confidence, constrains and even fetters freedom of choice, decision-making or movement forward.
We can say that it hinders development, because because of the fear of this incompleteness, you are constrained and do not decide on anything more, which means you do not act, and the fewer these actions, the more this feeling takes root in you. The stronger this state, the more self-accusation, since a swan, cancer and a pike live inside, which pull you in different directions.
You want to change your life, but because of this feeling, you practically do not perform any actions and the more auto-aggression and the desire to punish yourself for this. At the same time, you want changes and are afraid of them, because of the fear of failure. Most often, this feeling is instilled in childhood, then when parents make exaggerated demands on you and you cannot justify these exaggerated demands, and then this feeling I am bad takes root in you.
Further more - there are no actions, then there are no changes, and if there are no changes, which you so want to achieve, the feeling of worthlessness and self-abasement intensifies. Experiencing this feeling, you voluntarily allow yourself to be manipulated, accordingly, the relationship does not develop, and then resentment towards the world already arises. And you are becoming more and more merged with the mask of a sufferer and a loser, in fact, with the state of the victim who lives inside.
Sometimes this aggression that lives inside can break out in the form of anger and even anger. It does not go well not in the field of relationships, nor in the field of career, because in fact you do not show all your abilities completely because of this feeling.
And while these programs - beliefs live inside it is very difficult to change life in the direction you want.
Beliefs are such small but extremely powerful "programs" that drive our behavior in pursuit of our goals and are characterized by the fact that they are always looking for confirmation in our lives. And it is by changing them that we change our model of behavior, and hence the events of our life.
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