2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
When we are in a relationship, we often begin to demand attention and love from our partner. Starting a relationship, we believe that the partner will constantly pay attention to us and give us their love. And we, at times, increase and inflate our desire so much that we are becoming too little J
Our desire turns into selfishness. We forget that in the first place, what we demand from others, we must give ourselves.
Satisfaction of our own needs depends on us. It is important to understand here that we should not form attention, care, love towards ourselves at the expense of others. It is not to put your own needs ahead of the needs of others. It's about satisfaction independent your needs. And when we demand something from others, being capricious and justifying it with love, attention, care for ourselves, it repels.
I often hear women complain about their men that they do not support plans for a certain type of food, going to trainings and seminars, going on a certain type of vacation, etc. It suits a woman, but not a man. A man can also insist on something of his own, which is not suitable for a woman.
In our requirements, we forget that our partners are real people J they have their own desires and needs and they should not satisfy only us, but we should satisfy them. We can show an example, but not force. We can inspire with our result, but not force. We can ask to support, but not to throw up a scandal for the fact that our beloved is alien to our intention.
If we have not learned to fill our space ourselves, our inner emptiness, to satisfy our desires, then our partners will not be able to do this. If we ourselves cannot do this, then how will they help us with this? We must be able to diet ourselves; change; know what we can do in our free time; pay attention to yourself; take care of yourself; do not abandon your needs; love yourself.
Often, we are ready to do a lot for others, but for some reason we don’t do it for ourselves. We are waiting for others to start doing something for us. No, it won't. We must learn to do whatever we expect others to do for ourselves. Our partners are not to meet our needs, although partly for them too. Our partners share life with us. In some ways, our desires and needs are satisfied by a partner, and we, in turn, satisfy their needs. But for the most part, it's two separate lives that come together and go together. At the same time, everyone has their own personal path, no one canceled it, but also a joint path.
We must remember that all people in our lives are just our companions. They walk alongside us in our lives. They can give us their hand, lend their shoulder. However, do not live our lives and do not do for us what is important to us personally. Therefore, first we satisfy our needs ourselves, and then we accept the help of other people.
It is important to be aware of one small law here. When we ourselves know how to pay attention to ourselves, give ourselves love, satisfy our inner needs and fulfill our desires and intentions, we understand what others can give us. And then we do not demand, but we gladly accept the maximum that a person can give us.
Love to all of you in your relationship.
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