2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Good day to you, dear friends!
Today I would like to discuss the topic of freedom with you. What is freedom for you? How do you understand it? Think please!
Perhaps you ended up with something like this: freedom is when I want what I do: I want this, but I want this! So? Probably so in most cases.
But freedom, as we say in our gestaltist (and, probably, not only in it) psychological community, can also manifest itself in another, somewhat unexpected moment. Once upon a time this moment was definitely unexpected for me.
Freedom is not to do what you don't want to do!
As far as our life, in percentage terms, consists of doing what we want and what we don’t want. If what we don’t want is more or just such an essential part of it that it’s not always comfortable, then we can think about whether it’s worth changing something in life.
Here they may object to me that there is such a word "must". Of course, it is and without the "must" often - nowhere. Only now I think that if most of life is about "must" and this must have little to do with want and satisfaction, then some kind of strange life turns out.
After all, to achieve the same success, to benefit society, for example, is most effective if what we do for it and in the very process of doing it brings satisfaction to us. And if only in our life there are only “duty” and “necessary” and nothing positive is foreseen? It's somehow sad to imagine such an existence …
And what example do we, if we live only through "must", set others? If everyone follows it, then there will be such a society of people who are not particularly happy with the life of people. If everyone does what he likes, then life as a whole improves. Here, as I see it, the balance between "must" and "want" is important, since one cannot do without some volitional efforts in order to make one's life better and to live in general. The main thing is that one does not interfere with the other, does not spoil, but constantly pushes forward, gives strength for new achievements.
And this is not at all about selfishness. It seems to me that selfishness is when at the expense of others. And if for yourself, and perhaps for others as well, then it's generally good! And it is also not quite easy to be considerate, tolerant of others, if the attitude towards oneself is not very good. So taking care of yourself also strengthens relationships with others!
Yes, this is a big topic. Of course, I have only outlined some basic directions here. Of course, there can be clarifications, exceptions, objections!
Therefore, please share in the comments!
And you can also share what you would like to feel freer in! Share what you would not want to do in life and so that life would only get better from this objectively!
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